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My Father, the Father: a memoir of love and double lives
When Mary discovered she was pregnant, she and her lover, Father Ralph, chose to give birth and raise their baby instead of opting for abortion or adoption. Secretly, they acted as full-time parents without disclosing that the father was a Catholic priest. Their lives became a tangled and precarious web of lies to their own families, friends, and their son.
In My Father, the Father, author Tony Beadle, that baby born in 1952, shares the story of his high-profile Catholic priest father and his mother, Mary, and how they raised him in an environment of love, lies, and secrets. The intent was to avoid disgracing an unwed pregnant mother and to prevent damaging the father’s career as a well-known parish priest and fundraiser for the cardinal in Boston, and thus the image of the Catholic Church.
This memoir tells how the priest/father led a dual life, spending half of every week with the mother and their son in a home they purchased in a small rural town south of Boston, and the rest as pastor of an affluent church nearby. Mary, who had lived near family members and many relatives, maintained a complex repertoire of lies and actions that kept the boy’s and his father’s existence a secret from them. Twenty-five years after his birth, Beadle met his relatives, garnering decidedly different reactions from both sides.
In My Father, the Father, author Tony Beadle, that baby born in 1952, shares the story of his high-profile Catholic priest father and his mother, Mary, and how they raised him in an environment of love, lies, and secrets. The intent was to avoid disgracing an unwed pregnant mother and to prevent damaging the father’s career as a well-known parish priest and fundraiser for the cardinal in Boston, and thus the image of the Catholic Church.
This memoir tells how the priest/father led a dual life, spending half of every week with the mother and their son in a home they purchased in a small rural town south of Boston, and the rest as pastor of an affluent church nearby. Mary, who had lived near family members and many relatives, maintained a complex repertoire of lies and actions that kept the boy’s and his father’s existence a secret from them. Twenty-five years after his birth, Beadle met his relatives, garnering decidedly different reactions from both sides.
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Published May 29, 2025
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December 1, 2025
So. my friend texted me to say, read this book. I grew up in St. Agatha Parish and Church. I attended St. Agatha School and our pastor was Monsignor Gallagher. Oh, my... I very much related to growing up Catholic in the 60's. I remember the day the nun's came to school and they had hair, and legs! I remember the cast of characters in the story, I even remember my parents drinking Cold Duck and Liebfraumilch wine. My father would probably deny this story and always felt you shouldn't air your dirty laundry, he was a big reader and hated Angela's Ashes. I wish my Mom were still alive, I bet after a couple drinks she could tell me stories. I laughed out loud when you turned in the girl on the altar at the Newman Center. I was saddened by the story of Monsignor Gallagher, but not surprised, I realized as an adult that religious and priests are human. I would recommend this book especially to those who grew up Catholic in the 50's and 60's.
October 6, 2025
An amazing story
As someone who starts to read more books than I finish, I found this book positively captivating. It's an amazing story, and Tony Beadle tells it exquisitely. It is most definitely worthy of being made into a movie.
As someone who starts to read more books than I finish, I found this book positively captivating. It's an amazing story, and Tony Beadle tells it exquisitely. It is most definitely worthy of being made into a movie.
December 11, 2025
This was such a good book and was hard to put down! I decided to read this because I was a parishioner and student at the parish that Monsignor Gallagher was at. He was a lovely man and this story came as a complete shock to me. It was so well written and a real page turner. It was sad, heartwarming, and shocking all at the same time. Tony Beadle has lived an amazing life and is a great storyteller. Truth really is stranger than fiction.
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