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Raising Gender-Confident Kids: Helping Kids Embrace Their God-Given Design
176 pages
Published July 29, 2025
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November 13, 2025
When this book JUST focuses on how to talk to kids, it’s pretty decent. Like I actually really enjoyed some points it made. I think it would be a decent guide for helping parents have open conversations with their children.
But it’s clear they did zero research from the other point of view. They CLAIM ideas are our enemy, not people. But every sentence about “transgenderism” (which is not a word, because there is not one unifying transgender ideology) or anyone who’s trans-affirming accuses them of intentional maliciousness and manipulation. It’s aggressive in its Us vs Them posture and stirring up the culture war persecution mindset. This further increases the divide between a trans-person and the church, othering them and assigning ill-intentions.
It also only BRIEFLY owns that the church contributed to the current gender confusion, and it does so outside of the entire chapter dedicated to the “seven causes” that have made kids confused today. There’s a long history and many excellent books on how the church created and perpetuated most of our problematic gender stereotypes - ones the book agrees are problematic!
It also claims to push back on gender stereotypes while simultaneously reinforcing them in the two chapters about raising “gender-confident” sons or daughters. The authors claim the narrative of “boy slays dragon and wins the girl” is biblical and encourages parents to “unleash the warrior” and other stereotypes for boys. The chapter for girls was, thankfully, written by another couple and I think it could likely be helpful for parents.
The idea that God created us on purpose and didn’t make a mistake - honestly, that preached to me individually. I appreciated the connection between God as creator and our gender as missional.
Last complaint - In the end, it points out a proven connection between those on the autism spectrum and a proclivity to identify as trans. The authors then make an unkind guess as to why that connection is there. Again, it’s clear that any research done was only from one point of view, and thusly the tone when discussing any trans-identifying persons is off-putting and dangerous.
But it’s clear they did zero research from the other point of view. They CLAIM ideas are our enemy, not people. But every sentence about “transgenderism” (which is not a word, because there is not one unifying transgender ideology) or anyone who’s trans-affirming accuses them of intentional maliciousness and manipulation. It’s aggressive in its Us vs Them posture and stirring up the culture war persecution mindset. This further increases the divide between a trans-person and the church, othering them and assigning ill-intentions.
It also only BRIEFLY owns that the church contributed to the current gender confusion, and it does so outside of the entire chapter dedicated to the “seven causes” that have made kids confused today. There’s a long history and many excellent books on how the church created and perpetuated most of our problematic gender stereotypes - ones the book agrees are problematic!
It also claims to push back on gender stereotypes while simultaneously reinforcing them in the two chapters about raising “gender-confident” sons or daughters. The authors claim the narrative of “boy slays dragon and wins the girl” is biblical and encourages parents to “unleash the warrior” and other stereotypes for boys. The chapter for girls was, thankfully, written by another couple and I think it could likely be helpful for parents.
The idea that God created us on purpose and didn’t make a mistake - honestly, that preached to me individually. I appreciated the connection between God as creator and our gender as missional.
Last complaint - In the end, it points out a proven connection between those on the autism spectrum and a proclivity to identify as trans. The authors then make an unkind guess as to why that connection is there. Again, it’s clear that any research done was only from one point of view, and thusly the tone when discussing any trans-identifying persons is off-putting and dangerous.
December 27, 2025
Sadly, this book simply echos many of the other issues I’ve mentioned in other religious-focused anti-trans literature. Lisa Littman’s ‘survey’ is the biggest crutch here, and there’s significant misgivings for who trans people are and how they feel about transitioning, gender, misogyny, and other topics.
The book pleads that the topic is simply a matter of opinion, however I would argue that if that ‘opinion’ takes away people’s healthcare, their ability to engage in public life, and forces them to be even more marginalized, is it really only opinions?
It seems that everybody wants to have an opinion about trans people without ever talking with trans people for their input, or at the very least gathering info on what they want in their own lives. It’s annoying that people who aren’t trans feel emboldened to talk about something they clearly only have cursory knowledge of, given that this book is virtually the exact same as many others I’ve already read.
The book pleads that the topic is simply a matter of opinion, however I would argue that if that ‘opinion’ takes away people’s healthcare, their ability to engage in public life, and forces them to be even more marginalized, is it really only opinions?
It seems that everybody wants to have an opinion about trans people without ever talking with trans people for their input, or at the very least gathering info on what they want in their own lives. It’s annoying that people who aren’t trans feel emboldened to talk about something they clearly only have cursory knowledge of, given that this book is virtually the exact same as many others I’ve already read.
August 20, 2025
The content of the book was pretty good. My only gripe is with the presentation. I couldn't find a formal scale to measure the book against, but the book felt like it was written to an elementary or middle school reading level.
The authors did constantly point to Jesus and helping our children find their identity and worth in Him. Additionally the book addressed real scenarios that children and parents will face as this world becomes more corrupt. I personally found the greatest value in the FAQ, but I also know that other readers will greater value elsewhere in the book.
Overall I think this is a useful book for all parents, and the younger the children, the more value it will have.
The authors did constantly point to Jesus and helping our children find their identity and worth in Him. Additionally the book addressed real scenarios that children and parents will face as this world becomes more corrupt. I personally found the greatest value in the FAQ, but I also know that other readers will greater value elsewhere in the book.
Overall I think this is a useful book for all parents, and the younger the children, the more value it will have.
August 15, 2025
There's so much here to read and know so I recommend getting a physical copy. The authors did a great job showing how to apply a Biblical worldview to an important and difficult real-life issue.
December 19, 2025
A very helpful book... I wish I could read more!
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