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Everything Changes Everything: Love, Loss, and a Really Long Walk
A resonant and timely story about love, loss, and forging a path forward in the aftermath of grief.
After tragedy upended the contours of her life, Lauren Kessler, an unflinching immersion journalist, felt compelled to move—to do something, to be somewhere else. So she set out alone on the famed Camino de Santiago, walking across Spain to create space between the life she’d lived and the life she hadn’t chosen but now inhabited.
Raw and luminous, Everything Changes Everything is a story about facing what we’d rather avoid, about the wounds we carry, hide, and—sometimes—heal. It’s about the privilege of choosing hardship, the grace of temporary friendship, the solace of kindred spirits, and the power of movement to unstick what’s stuck. It’s also about unfounded optimism, unlikely laughter, and the way grief and beauty can coexist in a single step.
After tragedy upended the contours of her life, Lauren Kessler, an unflinching immersion journalist, felt compelled to move—to do something, to be somewhere else. So she set out alone on the famed Camino de Santiago, walking across Spain to create space between the life she’d lived and the life she hadn’t chosen but now inhabited.
Raw and luminous, Everything Changes Everything is a story about facing what we’d rather avoid, about the wounds we carry, hide, and—sometimes—heal. It’s about the privilege of choosing hardship, the grace of temporary friendship, the solace of kindred spirits, and the power of movement to unstick what’s stuck. It’s also about unfounded optimism, unlikely laughter, and the way grief and beauty can coexist in a single step.
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286 pages, Kindle Edition
Published February 24, 2026
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About the author
Lauren Kessler
47 books121 followersLauren Kessler is an award-winning author and immersion reporter who combines lively narrative with deep research to explore everything from the gritty world of a maximum security prison to the grueling world of professional ballet; from the wild, wild west of the anti-aging movement to the hidden world of Alzheimer’s sufferers; from the stormy seas of the mother-daughter relationship to the full court press of women’s basketball. She is the author of 12 works of narrative nonfiction, including Pacific Northwest Book Award winner Dancing with Rose, Washington Post bestseller Clever Girl and Los Angeles Times bestseller The Happy Bottom Riding. She is also the author of Oregon Book Award winner Stubborn Twig, which was chosen as the book for all Oregon to read in honor of the states 2009 sesquicentennial.
Her journalism has appeared in The New York Times Magazine, Los Angeles Times Magazine, O magazine, Utne Reader, The Nation, newsweek.com and salon.com. Club www.laurenkessler.com
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February 25, 2026
When Kessler set out on the Camino de Santiago, she was navigating grief, and she needed to take that grief somewhere. Call it a reason or a purpose or a call.
This, also, is a lesson of the Camino that translates directly to life: that occasionally and gloriously, there are true aha moments, but mostly there is the long slow toward making sense of who you are. (loc. 1762*)
I came into this have read 1) nearly every memoir about the Camino that I've been able to get my hands on and 2) two of Kessler's previous books, one of which I loved and one of which I loved less. The combination seemed like pretty good odds, to be honest, and—as it happened—the odds made good.
There's a lot here: Kessler weaves between the now and then, between her journey on the Camino and all the things that came before. She's slow to share the details of that Before, so I won't spoil anything (the shape of it becomes clearer and clearer as the story goes on, but, you know...in its own time), but suffice it to say that the details are a doozy.
One of the things I love so much about Camino memoirs is that although the path may be the same—there are multiple Camino routes,** but the Francés is the most heavily traversed, and even on other routes the basic idea is the same—each person's journey is different. Walking through restlessness or grief or change; walking with months and months of preparation or only the barest of knowledge; staying in cheap municipal lodging with fifty bunks to a room or in boutique hotels with crisp sheets and hot showers; processing big things or simply having an adventure. Maybe this is what I love so much about memoir in general.
Kessler makes excellent work of telling a complicated, messy story with very little judgement or shame. Parts of the story are quite dramatic, and it works in the book's favor that Kessler stays steady throughout, drawing on journalistic skills to tell the story without letting emotion (and to be clear: very valid emotion) take over. I wouldn't recommend this as the only Camino book you read, but down the line or as something to read when thinking about grief? Yes.
*Quotes are from an ARC and may not be final.
**And judging by Kessler's social media, the Francés is not the last one she walked
Thanks to the author and publisher for providing a review copy through NetGalley.
This, also, is a lesson of the Camino that translates directly to life: that occasionally and gloriously, there are true aha moments, but mostly there is the long slow toward making sense of who you are. (loc. 1762*)
I came into this have read 1) nearly every memoir about the Camino that I've been able to get my hands on and 2) two of Kessler's previous books, one of which I loved and one of which I loved less. The combination seemed like pretty good odds, to be honest, and—as it happened—the odds made good.
There's a lot here: Kessler weaves between the now and then, between her journey on the Camino and all the things that came before. She's slow to share the details of that Before, so I won't spoil anything (the shape of it becomes clearer and clearer as the story goes on, but, you know...in its own time), but suffice it to say that the details are a doozy.
One of the things I love so much about Camino memoirs is that although the path may be the same—there are multiple Camino routes,** but the Francés is the most heavily traversed, and even on other routes the basic idea is the same—each person's journey is different. Walking through restlessness or grief or change; walking with months and months of preparation or only the barest of knowledge; staying in cheap municipal lodging with fifty bunks to a room or in boutique hotels with crisp sheets and hot showers; processing big things or simply having an adventure. Maybe this is what I love so much about memoir in general.
Kessler makes excellent work of telling a complicated, messy story with very little judgement or shame. Parts of the story are quite dramatic, and it works in the book's favor that Kessler stays steady throughout, drawing on journalistic skills to tell the story without letting emotion (and to be clear: very valid emotion) take over. I wouldn't recommend this as the only Camino book you read, but down the line or as something to read when thinking about grief? Yes.
*Quotes are from an ARC and may not be final.
**And judging by Kessler's social media, the Francés is not the last one she walked
Thanks to the author and publisher for providing a review copy through NetGalley.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
A masterful memoir combining the classic trail tale with the grief of profound loss. Kessler, within the first few pages made it clear that she was an artist capable of balancing the monotony of walking many miles a day with gut wrenching reflections of both her love for, and loss of, her husband and daughter into a deeply thoughtful and cohesive memoir.
As in life, there was no perfect ending but instead a series of realizations that made this a rewarding (and devastatingly sad) read. As a fan of trail memoirs and elegies, this was distinctively captivating - a must read.
As in life, there was no perfect ending but instead a series of realizations that made this a rewarding (and devastatingly sad) read. As a fan of trail memoirs and elegies, this was distinctively captivating - a must read.
March 9, 2026
I came to this book as a reader who loves memoir. I left it as someone who had been quietly undone — and then, somehow, put back together just enough to keep going.
Everything Changes Everything is Lauren Kessler at her most exposed. This is not the immersion journalist reporting on someone else's world. This is the woman herself, standing in the wreckage of her own life, asking whether words — her most faithful tool — can possibly hold what she has been handed.
They can. And they do.
In the span of a heartbreakingly short stretch of time, Lauren loses two of the people she loves most. Her husband Tom, a writer and her partner of decades, chooses to legally end his life as terminal cancer takes hold — a death that is planned, witnessed, and chosen with full intention. And then Lizzie, her daughter, dies of a drug overdose. One loss carefully anticipated. One arriving like a thunderclap. Both devastating. Both full of love.
What Lauren does next is what this book is really about. She walks. Five hundred miles across northern Spain on the ancient Camino de Santiago — not to escape, but to metabolize. To create space between the life she had lived and the life she now had to inhabit. The trail becomes a character in its own right — ancient, indifferent, generous, and quietly transformative.
What I love most about Kessler as a writer is that she refuses sentiment without substance. She earns every moment of beauty by walking straight through the dark first. The grief here is specific and honest — she doesn't generalize it into something palatable. She lets it be what it is: complicated, contradictory, sometimes ugly, sometimes transcendent.
The structural choice to interweave the Camino journey with the backstory of her losses is masterful. You feel the rhythm of walking in the prose itself — one step, then another, then another — even when the heart is breaking.
There is a particular kind of grief that comes with losing someone to addiction — one layered with stigma, with unanswerable questions, with guilt that has no logical home. Kessler writes about that grief with a courage and clarity that I imagine will be a lifeline to anyone who has carried that particular weight alone.
And there is a particular kind of grief that comes with loving someone through a chosen death — being present for a departure that is both an act of love and an act of loss simultaneously. She writes about that too, without flinching, without editorializing. She simply bears witness.
By the end, I didn't feel that Lauren had healed so much as she had learned to walk alongside what she carries. Which may be the most honest thing any book about grief can offer.
This is not a book for readers looking for resolution. It is a book for anyone brave enough to sit with truth, and trust that beauty can grow right up through the middle of it.
One of the most important memoirs I've read in years. Five stars without hesitation.
Everything Changes Everything is Lauren Kessler at her most exposed. This is not the immersion journalist reporting on someone else's world. This is the woman herself, standing in the wreckage of her own life, asking whether words — her most faithful tool — can possibly hold what she has been handed.
They can. And they do.
In the span of a heartbreakingly short stretch of time, Lauren loses two of the people she loves most. Her husband Tom, a writer and her partner of decades, chooses to legally end his life as terminal cancer takes hold — a death that is planned, witnessed, and chosen with full intention. And then Lizzie, her daughter, dies of a drug overdose. One loss carefully anticipated. One arriving like a thunderclap. Both devastating. Both full of love.
What Lauren does next is what this book is really about. She walks. Five hundred miles across northern Spain on the ancient Camino de Santiago — not to escape, but to metabolize. To create space between the life she had lived and the life she now had to inhabit. The trail becomes a character in its own right — ancient, indifferent, generous, and quietly transformative.
What I love most about Kessler as a writer is that she refuses sentiment without substance. She earns every moment of beauty by walking straight through the dark first. The grief here is specific and honest — she doesn't generalize it into something palatable. She lets it be what it is: complicated, contradictory, sometimes ugly, sometimes transcendent.
The structural choice to interweave the Camino journey with the backstory of her losses is masterful. You feel the rhythm of walking in the prose itself — one step, then another, then another — even when the heart is breaking.
There is a particular kind of grief that comes with losing someone to addiction — one layered with stigma, with unanswerable questions, with guilt that has no logical home. Kessler writes about that grief with a courage and clarity that I imagine will be a lifeline to anyone who has carried that particular weight alone.
And there is a particular kind of grief that comes with loving someone through a chosen death — being present for a departure that is both an act of love and an act of loss simultaneously. She writes about that too, without flinching, without editorializing. She simply bears witness.
By the end, I didn't feel that Lauren had healed so much as she had learned to walk alongside what she carries. Which may be the most honest thing any book about grief can offer.
This is not a book for readers looking for resolution. It is a book for anyone brave enough to sit with truth, and trust that beauty can grow right up through the middle of it.
One of the most important memoirs I've read in years. Five stars without hesitation.
March 2, 2026
. Lauren Kessler has long been one of my creative nonfiction heroines. We have crossed paths several times in our Oregon writer world, including a lovely evening at the Nye Beach Writers Series, where she and her teenage daughter Lizzie read portions of the book My Teenage Werewolf. To say a lot has happened since then is an understatement. Everything Changes Everything is a memoir wrapped in a five hundred-mile pilgrimage on Spain’s Camino Frances. As she walks up and down hills, through deserts, vineyards, villages, and cities, she recounts the events that led her to seek a big adventure to divide the life she knew from the life ahead. These include the deaths of her husband Tom and daughter Lizzie. This book is heartbreaking, triggering for me and others who have suffered great losses, and yet so, so beautiful. This is the clearest, most realistic account of walking the camino that I have read. It makes me want to go there, too, but I have neither the physical ability nor courage that she shows every step of the way. It raises many important issues that I can’t mention without giving the story away. Take care of your heart while reading this one.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
If you are expecting a dry, dusty book about walking the Camino Trail....look elsewhere.
This book was raw, emotional, and observant on someone deals with grief. WIth walking the Camino Trail thrown in.
I loved that it wasn't straightforward, it wasn't a spiritual journey that people purport to have while walking the trail. It was more about this is real, this is raw, this is the author coming to terms with her grief, her life, her future.
The reader can feel the trail, the backpack gouging into her collarbone, the rain, the poncho, the smell of diesel fumes, the rooms to stay in, the cafe con leche.
The reader can also feel the despair, the grief, the desire to find a new place in the world without her husband and child.
This book is exquisitely written, raw in feelings, and yet reserved the reader won't know everything about the lives of her husband and daughter.
This book is for everyone who wants a raw account of walking the Camino Trail, of walking with grief.
Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for this ARC in exchange for this honest review.
This book was raw, emotional, and observant on someone deals with grief. WIth walking the Camino Trail thrown in.
I loved that it wasn't straightforward, it wasn't a spiritual journey that people purport to have while walking the trail. It was more about this is real, this is raw, this is the author coming to terms with her grief, her life, her future.
The reader can feel the trail, the backpack gouging into her collarbone, the rain, the poncho, the smell of diesel fumes, the rooms to stay in, the cafe con leche.
The reader can also feel the despair, the grief, the desire to find a new place in the world without her husband and child.
This book is exquisitely written, raw in feelings, and yet reserved the reader won't know everything about the lives of her husband and daughter.
This book is for everyone who wants a raw account of walking the Camino Trail, of walking with grief.
Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for this ARC in exchange for this honest review.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
I received a free copy of, Everything Changes Everything, by Lauren Kessler, from the publisher and Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. Lauren Kessler decides to walk the Camino de Santiago, in Spain, for over a month. People deal with grief in their own ways, Lauren decide to walk for a month in Spain, to help her deal with her loss. This was a good read.
Review of advance copy received from Publisher
An absolutely beautiful, deep, and raw memoir.
Thank you to the publisher for my early gifted copy & to the author for sharing her story.
Thank you to the publisher for my early gifted copy & to the author for sharing her story.
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