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Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory
Natalie Davis's candid memoir chronicles the transformation of her traditional monogamous marriage into a vibrant polyamorous lifestyle.
When her husband suggests they have sex with strangers, Natalie is incredulous. Yet, in the aftermath of his infidelity and while battling the voice in her head urging her to leave him, she agrees to try non-monogamy. What follows surprises no one more than Natalie—a soccer mom and lawyer—as she embarks on a daring journey down the rabbit hole of polyamory.
Fearing for her livelihood and community standing, Natalie must keep her new lifestyle secret. She navigates complex relationships, including clashes with her boyfriend's wife, confronting a therapist who claims polyamory is abusive, and debating what to tell her family and friends. Along the way, she discovers her own bold sexuality, experiences the thrill of young lovers, finds empathy from her husband's poly girlfriend, and learns to weather heartbreak and find bliss.
Saying Yes offers an unvarnished look into Natalie's world, as she explores excitement, intimacy, and connection in unexpected places, including a few stairwells. With humor, heart, and raw honesty, this memoir is for anyone who has ever wondered what might happen if we say yes to what lies beyond conventional relationships.
“Few books capture the real, lived experience of opening a relationship with such honesty and heart. Saying Yes invites us into the raw, beautiful, and sometimes messy process of navigating love, jealousy, desire, and growth outside traditional norms. With refreshing candor and courage, she illuminates the longing, uncertainty, joy, and heartbreak that can arise along the way. For anyone curious about consensual non-monogamy or seeking to better understand their own relationship landscape, this book is a generous and affirming companion.” --Jessica Fern, author of Polysecure and Polywise
“This memoir is witty, refreshingly honest, and deeply relatable. Natalie’s voice is endearing without ever turning saccharine, offering a vulnerable and candid exploration of polyamory with all its trials, tribulations, and hard-earned triumphs.” Kate Kincaid, LPC, author of Polyamory Journal: A Relationship Book: Prompts and Practices for Navigating Non-Monogamy.
“The sincerity, earnestness, and authenticity of Natalie's journey had me entranced from the very first page. This book is not to be missed!”--Lorelei James, New York Times bestselling author
“Any couple thinking about consensual non-monogamy can learn a lot from reading, and discussing, this book.”--Alan MacRobert, Polyamory in the News
"In the tone of your wise best friend, Natalie Davis blends intimate life stories with practical information, including a much needed legal perspective and a spotlight on the challenges and importance of finding a poly-affirming therapist.” Tamara Pincus, co-author of It’s Called “Polyamory”
“Through vivid and vulnerable storytelling, Natalie Davis offers the kind of authentic polyamory narrative that builds understanding and breaks down barriers.”--Brett Chamberlin, Exec. Dir. of OPEN
“Saying Yes not only gives insight on the highs and lows of polyamory, from the very title it reminds us of the value of giving yourself permission and putting yourself out there.”--Kevin Patterson, author of Love's Not Colorblind
When her husband suggests they have sex with strangers, Natalie is incredulous. Yet, in the aftermath of his infidelity and while battling the voice in her head urging her to leave him, she agrees to try non-monogamy. What follows surprises no one more than Natalie—a soccer mom and lawyer—as she embarks on a daring journey down the rabbit hole of polyamory.
Fearing for her livelihood and community standing, Natalie must keep her new lifestyle secret. She navigates complex relationships, including clashes with her boyfriend's wife, confronting a therapist who claims polyamory is abusive, and debating what to tell her family and friends. Along the way, she discovers her own bold sexuality, experiences the thrill of young lovers, finds empathy from her husband's poly girlfriend, and learns to weather heartbreak and find bliss.
Saying Yes offers an unvarnished look into Natalie's world, as she explores excitement, intimacy, and connection in unexpected places, including a few stairwells. With humor, heart, and raw honesty, this memoir is for anyone who has ever wondered what might happen if we say yes to what lies beyond conventional relationships.
“Few books capture the real, lived experience of opening a relationship with such honesty and heart. Saying Yes invites us into the raw, beautiful, and sometimes messy process of navigating love, jealousy, desire, and growth outside traditional norms. With refreshing candor and courage, she illuminates the longing, uncertainty, joy, and heartbreak that can arise along the way. For anyone curious about consensual non-monogamy or seeking to better understand their own relationship landscape, this book is a generous and affirming companion.” --Jessica Fern, author of Polysecure and Polywise
“This memoir is witty, refreshingly honest, and deeply relatable. Natalie’s voice is endearing without ever turning saccharine, offering a vulnerable and candid exploration of polyamory with all its trials, tribulations, and hard-earned triumphs.” Kate Kincaid, LPC, author of Polyamory Journal: A Relationship Book: Prompts and Practices for Navigating Non-Monogamy.
“The sincerity, earnestness, and authenticity of Natalie's journey had me entranced from the very first page. This book is not to be missed!”--Lorelei James, New York Times bestselling author
“Any couple thinking about consensual non-monogamy can learn a lot from reading, and discussing, this book.”--Alan MacRobert, Polyamory in the News
"In the tone of your wise best friend, Natalie Davis blends intimate life stories with practical information, including a much needed legal perspective and a spotlight on the challenges and importance of finding a poly-affirming therapist.” Tamara Pincus, co-author of It’s Called “Polyamory”
“Through vivid and vulnerable storytelling, Natalie Davis offers the kind of authentic polyamory narrative that builds understanding and breaks down barriers.”--Brett Chamberlin, Exec. Dir. of OPEN
“Saying Yes not only gives insight on the highs and lows of polyamory, from the very title it reminds us of the value of giving yourself permission and putting yourself out there.”--Kevin Patterson, author of Love's Not Colorblind
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288 pages, Hardcover
Published January 13, 2026
About the author
Natalie Davis
1 book1 followerNatalie Davis is the editor of the online publication Polyamory Today. Her work has appeared in Heart Affairs, Discovering Polyamory, Monogamish, and The Memoirist, and her views on polyamory have been published in The Washington Post. She was interviewed on the podcast Normalizing Non-monogamy and presents workshops on communication and non-monogamy from Philadelphia to Phoenix to Portland. She lives in the Washington, DC, area with her partner and metamour. You can find her on Instagram and Medium.com @nataliedavisadventures.
Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory (Jan. 13, 2026 pub. date) is Natalie’s first book.
It chronicles the transformation of her traditional monogamous marriage to her college boyfriend into a vibrant, and often challenging, polyamorous lifestyle. The genesis of Natalie’s journey in some ways was her husband’s infidelity, but that is far from the whole story. At first, she was incredulous when he suggested we have sex with strangers. Yet, as she battled the voice in my head urging her to leave him—because that was the only option for any self-respecting feminist, right?—she agreed to try non-monogamy. What followed surprised no one more than Natalie—a soccer mom and trial lawyer—as she journeyed down the rabbit hole of polyamory. Saying Yes offers an unvarnished look into her world, as she explored excitement, intimacy, and connection in unexpected places, including a few stairwells. Natalie offers humor and heart to make the book accessible to anyone who has ever wondered what might happen if we say yes to what lies beyond conventional relationships.
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Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory (Jan. 13, 2026 pub. date) is Natalie’s first book.
It chronicles the transformation of her traditional monogamous marriage to her college boyfriend into a vibrant, and often challenging, polyamorous lifestyle. The genesis of Natalie’s journey in some ways was her husband’s infidelity, but that is far from the whole story. At first, she was incredulous when he suggested we have sex with strangers. Yet, as she battled the voice in my head urging her to leave him—because that was the only option for any self-respecting feminist, right?—she agreed to try non-monogamy. What followed surprised no one more than Natalie—a soccer mom and trial lawyer—as she journeyed down the rabbit hole of polyamory. Saying Yes offers an unvarnished look into her world, as she explored excitement, intimacy, and connection in unexpected places, including a few stairwells. Natalie offers humor and heart to make the book accessible to anyone who has ever wondered what might happen if we say yes to what lies beyond conventional relationships.
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April 12, 2026
"Dumb" is the word that comes to mind when reading this book. A dumb woman makes dumb choices and ends up becoming a dumb feminist who actually buys into to her husband's sexual-freedom wishes.
From the beginning it's clear that Davis's husband is a creep who is having secret affairs and trolling sex sites--she lets him get away with it all, even going with him to swingers' clubs while he gets to sleep around literally under her nose. She doesn't like it, and after years of internal turmoil where "a corner of my heart is torn away," she keeps giving in until she finds her happiness with others. It's the old "if you can't beat him, join him" concept, which happens when he's doing military service in Iraq and she's lonely at home. Funny how him being out of the picture suddenly made her toss out any supposed "ethics" she had to start going alone to sex clubs and have one night stands.
That is how this polyamorous woman claims to be standing up for herself as a feminist--complaining about the pains inflicted on her by a present husband who devotes his attention to other women, then turning around and doing the same thing he did while he's out of the country. Sleeping around is her way of both punishing herself for being so tolerant and controlling the uncontrollable while he's off bedding others.
Her writing style doesn't help. First she says one thing, then she goes backwards to say another thing, then she adds a comment she should have mentioned up front that changes the whole story. Just give it to us straight!
She starts the book telling us what a great "monogamous" goth marriage she has, only to discover the couple a couple pages later the couple had years earlier been nude in a hot tub with another pair and swapped partners, and then a bit later that her husband also had a secret affair with another woman! Why is she misleading the reader and tossing in asides that contradict what she has already written? It sounds like not only her sex life is overfilled with confusion but so are her mental abilities to straighten all this out.
Her husband basically tricks her into polyamory because of her meekness and she, dumb again, goes right along with it. She called that "one of the worst years of my life...my control over my relationship, and my life, seemed to be wobbling." What she never sees is that this is all HER CHOICE. She blames him, blames his new partner, even blames her own insecurities, but doesn't see that she was doing the opposite of what she claimed! This is no feminist supporting her man, this is a woman subjecting herself to a tricky lying husband that has figured out how to manipulate her into his getting multiple women!
The author uses the pages to complain a lot about what she feels was done to her, even admitting she had to start therapy that first year of polyamory (then condemns the female counselor, who gives it to Davis straight about how she's being abused yet the author rejects it). Davus continues to bark at her supposedly waffling husband "I am not your mother." Yet in his mind this is all a game; he acts confused with his emotions, using them to make her feel needed like a mommy while he's lustfully going after all sorts of other women. A feminist mommy, he knows, always forgives her big boy and "never judges."
Once he flies away for a year's military service in Iraq she quickly becomes the woman her husband would want--seductive, sleeping with guys within a couple hours of meeting, yearning for attention from married men. There's nothing intelligent about this lawyer's logic or actions. But after that year he's gone there's no turning back and the rest of the book becomes a dull rehashing of softcore porn stories mixed in with her non-stop anxieties and hunger for any man's attention.
She understands that many consider her "crazy" and she repeatedly looks for assurance that she's not (sorry, but she needs serious mental health help). Davis tries hard to be a "judgment-free zone" in allowing all the men in her life to do what they want (which ends up being walking all over her, lusting one minute then ignoring the next).
This is the lack of logic that so many in the leftist progressive community have, claiming to not judge. But everyone makes judgments about others constantly, and simply withholding words that sound condemning doesn't make you any less mentally judgmental. She struggled due to her inner conflict, expecting to be the perfect open-minded spouse and sex partner but knowing it was tearing her apart not being completely satisfied or accepting.
"I never figured out how to make a relationship work with someone who seemed to crave me with a panther-like hunger one minute and evaporate into the ether like a specter the next." Well, Natalie, that means you don't understand people because that's true of just about everybody, particularly men looking for sexual highs.
It's important to add that judgment is a GOOD quality, something we do every day in order to stay alive and healthy and stable. She actually needed to do more of it. Or maybe you prefer the word "discernment." She certainly has no trouble filling the book with judgy comments about virtually everyone, including sex partners, their spouses, and strangers in clubs. To strive to be "judgment-free" ADDS to anxiety and insecurities--this woman is proof of it! Instead, she should be a more open, honest, direct communicator who verbally shares her boundaries and expectations while hearing those of others and deciding how to react when they don't match hers!
One place she missed the mark was with her son--he was in his bedroom while she was in the master with her hookup and her husband was in the guest bedroom with his "secondary girlfriend." What did the kid think when four adults were having breakfast together in the morning? Did any of them ever think of the damage they may be doing him to others? It doesn't sound like it. Instead they all selfishly have lots of hidden rendezvous and dangerous sexual encounters where they just take the word of strangers as true and ignore the fact that children may be impacted. (When he's 18 and she asks if he knew what was going on, she seems comforted that he did even though they never told him!)
Then there's the issue of whether we can believe any of this. Davos clearly states up front that names, locations, circumstances and dialogue are made up. Her definitions of polyamory (and other terminology) are not only unclear but often wrong, and many in the lifestyle will cringe at her descriptions of unhappiness or manipulation. So you have to decide whether to believe any of it.
Reading this reinforces all sorts of negative conclusions about polyamory and non-monogamy. Women love drama, they are filled with insecurities and anxiety, feed off troublemaking men, yet they cause many of their own problems by tolerating abuse in the guise of being "non-judgmental" instead of truly standing up for themselves.
I have no trouble with consenting honest adults doing what they want with whomever they want in the privacy of their bedroom, but this author's life is way beyond that and worse than a soap opera. When you start getting six to ten other people impacted by your decision as a couple to sneak around in clubs for random sex, then you're not just confining things to the privacy of your bedroom.
The author started out feeble and whiny, only to make choices that made her life worse by not seeing what her man was really doing to her. Davis masked her unhappiness by going deeper into non-monogamy, which increased the mental health dissonance and ultimately she's never truly happy. Why any woman would go along with this lifestyle is beyond me, except as a faulty attempt to fill a hole in the heart or calm the voices of mental illness. Don't be dumb about it--saying no is best unless you can really live it in a private, honest way that doesn't impact others and that can truly give you peace.
From the beginning it's clear that Davis's husband is a creep who is having secret affairs and trolling sex sites--she lets him get away with it all, even going with him to swingers' clubs while he gets to sleep around literally under her nose. She doesn't like it, and after years of internal turmoil where "a corner of my heart is torn away," she keeps giving in until she finds her happiness with others. It's the old "if you can't beat him, join him" concept, which happens when he's doing military service in Iraq and she's lonely at home. Funny how him being out of the picture suddenly made her toss out any supposed "ethics" she had to start going alone to sex clubs and have one night stands.
That is how this polyamorous woman claims to be standing up for herself as a feminist--complaining about the pains inflicted on her by a present husband who devotes his attention to other women, then turning around and doing the same thing he did while he's out of the country. Sleeping around is her way of both punishing herself for being so tolerant and controlling the uncontrollable while he's off bedding others.
Her writing style doesn't help. First she says one thing, then she goes backwards to say another thing, then she adds a comment she should have mentioned up front that changes the whole story. Just give it to us straight!
She starts the book telling us what a great "monogamous" goth marriage she has, only to discover the couple a couple pages later the couple had years earlier been nude in a hot tub with another pair and swapped partners, and then a bit later that her husband also had a secret affair with another woman! Why is she misleading the reader and tossing in asides that contradict what she has already written? It sounds like not only her sex life is overfilled with confusion but so are her mental abilities to straighten all this out.
Her husband basically tricks her into polyamory because of her meekness and she, dumb again, goes right along with it. She called that "one of the worst years of my life...my control over my relationship, and my life, seemed to be wobbling." What she never sees is that this is all HER CHOICE. She blames him, blames his new partner, even blames her own insecurities, but doesn't see that she was doing the opposite of what she claimed! This is no feminist supporting her man, this is a woman subjecting herself to a tricky lying husband that has figured out how to manipulate her into his getting multiple women!
The author uses the pages to complain a lot about what she feels was done to her, even admitting she had to start therapy that first year of polyamory (then condemns the female counselor, who gives it to Davis straight about how she's being abused yet the author rejects it). Davus continues to bark at her supposedly waffling husband "I am not your mother." Yet in his mind this is all a game; he acts confused with his emotions, using them to make her feel needed like a mommy while he's lustfully going after all sorts of other women. A feminist mommy, he knows, always forgives her big boy and "never judges."
Once he flies away for a year's military service in Iraq she quickly becomes the woman her husband would want--seductive, sleeping with guys within a couple hours of meeting, yearning for attention from married men. There's nothing intelligent about this lawyer's logic or actions. But after that year he's gone there's no turning back and the rest of the book becomes a dull rehashing of softcore porn stories mixed in with her non-stop anxieties and hunger for any man's attention.
She understands that many consider her "crazy" and she repeatedly looks for assurance that she's not (sorry, but she needs serious mental health help). Davis tries hard to be a "judgment-free zone" in allowing all the men in her life to do what they want (which ends up being walking all over her, lusting one minute then ignoring the next).
This is the lack of logic that so many in the leftist progressive community have, claiming to not judge. But everyone makes judgments about others constantly, and simply withholding words that sound condemning doesn't make you any less mentally judgmental. She struggled due to her inner conflict, expecting to be the perfect open-minded spouse and sex partner but knowing it was tearing her apart not being completely satisfied or accepting.
"I never figured out how to make a relationship work with someone who seemed to crave me with a panther-like hunger one minute and evaporate into the ether like a specter the next." Well, Natalie, that means you don't understand people because that's true of just about everybody, particularly men looking for sexual highs.
It's important to add that judgment is a GOOD quality, something we do every day in order to stay alive and healthy and stable. She actually needed to do more of it. Or maybe you prefer the word "discernment." She certainly has no trouble filling the book with judgy comments about virtually everyone, including sex partners, their spouses, and strangers in clubs. To strive to be "judgment-free" ADDS to anxiety and insecurities--this woman is proof of it! Instead, she should be a more open, honest, direct communicator who verbally shares her boundaries and expectations while hearing those of others and deciding how to react when they don't match hers!
One place she missed the mark was with her son--he was in his bedroom while she was in the master with her hookup and her husband was in the guest bedroom with his "secondary girlfriend." What did the kid think when four adults were having breakfast together in the morning? Did any of them ever think of the damage they may be doing him to others? It doesn't sound like it. Instead they all selfishly have lots of hidden rendezvous and dangerous sexual encounters where they just take the word of strangers as true and ignore the fact that children may be impacted. (When he's 18 and she asks if he knew what was going on, she seems comforted that he did even though they never told him!)
Then there's the issue of whether we can believe any of this. Davos clearly states up front that names, locations, circumstances and dialogue are made up. Her definitions of polyamory (and other terminology) are not only unclear but often wrong, and many in the lifestyle will cringe at her descriptions of unhappiness or manipulation. So you have to decide whether to believe any of it.
Reading this reinforces all sorts of negative conclusions about polyamory and non-monogamy. Women love drama, they are filled with insecurities and anxiety, feed off troublemaking men, yet they cause many of their own problems by tolerating abuse in the guise of being "non-judgmental" instead of truly standing up for themselves.
I have no trouble with consenting honest adults doing what they want with whomever they want in the privacy of their bedroom, but this author's life is way beyond that and worse than a soap opera. When you start getting six to ten other people impacted by your decision as a couple to sneak around in clubs for random sex, then you're not just confining things to the privacy of your bedroom.
The author started out feeble and whiny, only to make choices that made her life worse by not seeing what her man was really doing to her. Davis masked her unhappiness by going deeper into non-monogamy, which increased the mental health dissonance and ultimately she's never truly happy. Why any woman would go along with this lifestyle is beyond me, except as a faulty attempt to fill a hole in the heart or calm the voices of mental illness. Don't be dumb about it--saying no is best unless you can really live it in a private, honest way that doesn't impact others and that can truly give you peace.
January 24, 2026
There's something deeply satisfying about watching someone refuse to follow the expected narrative. When Natalie Davis's husband cheated, she could have spiraled. Instead, she did something far more interesting: she got angry BUT ALSO curious.
"Saying Yes" is the story of how one DC lawyer mom's life script got completely rewritten, and how she chose to be the author of that revision rather than a victim of circumstance. Davis chronicles her entry into polyamory with a wit and self-awareness that kept me turning pages, laughing out loud at her dry observations, yelling at the manic pixie dream boy she dated for a few years, and also cheering for her growth.
What I loved most: Davis doesn't present herself as having all the answers. She's sometimes sweetly optimistic about people, sometimes cynical about their foibles. The book shines brightest in the specific episodes where she takes us through complete dating experiences from start to finish, letting us live these moments with her rather than just hearing about them. Her dialogue with partners crackles with genuine connection, and there's a memorable Thanksgiving scene that captures everything complex and beautiful about chosen family.
This is a story about a woman who believed in playing by the rules, doing the right thing, and trusting that life would take care of itself if she just behaved appropriately. Then she discovered that sometimes the most growth happens when you stop following the script altogether, and the people you love can and will hurt you sometimes. She examines her internalized misogyny, questions her beliefs about desirability and worth, and emerges as a dynamic character who's learned to embrace flexibility over certainty.
Perfect for readers who appreciate memoirs with--as everyone has been saying--“humor and heart,” unconventional relationship stories, or anyone interested in narratives about Gen X women reclaiming their autonomy in midlife that doesn’t involve divorce.
"Saying Yes" is the story of how one DC lawyer mom's life script got completely rewritten, and how she chose to be the author of that revision rather than a victim of circumstance. Davis chronicles her entry into polyamory with a wit and self-awareness that kept me turning pages, laughing out loud at her dry observations, yelling at the manic pixie dream boy she dated for a few years, and also cheering for her growth.
What I loved most: Davis doesn't present herself as having all the answers. She's sometimes sweetly optimistic about people, sometimes cynical about their foibles. The book shines brightest in the specific episodes where she takes us through complete dating experiences from start to finish, letting us live these moments with her rather than just hearing about them. Her dialogue with partners crackles with genuine connection, and there's a memorable Thanksgiving scene that captures everything complex and beautiful about chosen family.
This is a story about a woman who believed in playing by the rules, doing the right thing, and trusting that life would take care of itself if she just behaved appropriately. Then she discovered that sometimes the most growth happens when you stop following the script altogether, and the people you love can and will hurt you sometimes. She examines her internalized misogyny, questions her beliefs about desirability and worth, and emerges as a dynamic character who's learned to embrace flexibility over certainty.
Perfect for readers who appreciate memoirs with--as everyone has been saying--“humor and heart,” unconventional relationship stories, or anyone interested in narratives about Gen X women reclaiming their autonomy in midlife that doesn’t involve divorce.
July 30, 2026
Considered 2 stars, mostly because information in some sections information is repeated and unnecessary details are included.
This is another book where being “poly” is suggested by the husband after he’s cheated on his wife and he has someone in mind. Especially incredulous that the woman he has in mind is the one with whom he cheated on his wife (and outright lied to her about it when asked). She also wasn’t the first woman he cheated with, but he then also cheated on his wife when they opened their marriage by not following the rules they agreed on.
Her husband isn’t the only issue she doesn’t address. Her first “partner” has a wife who’s verbally and physically abusive and has outbursts, including throwing and breaking household objects with her teen at home. She never mentions this being a serious problem. She just talks about it in a gossipy way but never mentions how it could affect the teen or her “partner.” At a minumum, she should point out that she sees there are issues and suggest to the partner that he get his wife (and the teen) help.
These are just some of the things in the book that overshadow the topic. I didn’t find it vulnerable on the author’s part; I found it unacceptable behavior.
Perhaps others would get something out of the book, but I couldn’t get past the lack of basic decency and behavior standards, not even related to polyamory itself.
This is another book where being “poly” is suggested by the husband after he’s cheated on his wife and he has someone in mind. Especially incredulous that the woman he has in mind is the one with whom he cheated on his wife (and outright lied to her about it when asked). She also wasn’t the first woman he cheated with, but he then also cheated on his wife when they opened their marriage by not following the rules they agreed on.
Her husband isn’t the only issue she doesn’t address. Her first “partner” has a wife who’s verbally and physically abusive and has outbursts, including throwing and breaking household objects with her teen at home. She never mentions this being a serious problem. She just talks about it in a gossipy way but never mentions how it could affect the teen or her “partner.” At a minumum, she should point out that she sees there are issues and suggest to the partner that he get his wife (and the teen) help.
These are just some of the things in the book that overshadow the topic. I didn’t find it vulnerable on the author’s part; I found it unacceptable behavior.
Perhaps others would get something out of the book, but I couldn’t get past the lack of basic decency and behavior standards, not even related to polyamory itself.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
February 4, 2026
Absolutely first-rate book about navigating polyamory.
If you've ever wondered why someone would choose polyamory, or what the draw is, this book does a great job of explaining the concept as well as terms (I now know the difference between a triad and a V with a hinge), plus walking newbies through all the pros and cons of the poly life. The author includes humor and self-deprecation to make her story more accessible. I had several laugh-out-loud moments and plenty of giggles while reading. There is a lot of sex in the book, but it seems that it's always presented to make a point, not just to show off the body count.
To paraphrase the author, a principle in poly is that love is infinite. Is one friend enough for you? Is three? What about children... is one enough or is three? Who's to say what is enough?
I applaud the author for putting her life in print. To express herself in such a raw and real way is to be commended.
Definitely a five-star book.
If you've ever wondered why someone would choose polyamory, or what the draw is, this book does a great job of explaining the concept as well as terms (I now know the difference between a triad and a V with a hinge), plus walking newbies through all the pros and cons of the poly life. The author includes humor and self-deprecation to make her story more accessible. I had several laugh-out-loud moments and plenty of giggles while reading. There is a lot of sex in the book, but it seems that it's always presented to make a point, not just to show off the body count.
To paraphrase the author, a principle in poly is that love is infinite. Is one friend enough for you? Is three? What about children... is one enough or is three? Who's to say what is enough?
I applaud the author for putting her life in print. To express herself in such a raw and real way is to be commended.
Definitely a five-star book.
March 25, 2026
An excellent recollection of one woman's journey through the ups and downs of non-monogamy into polyamory. Natalie's voice is compelling and addictive. Once I started, I had a hard time putting it down!
January 21, 2026
A thoughtful, compassionate, insightful take on one woman’s poly journey. This book will be a valuable resource for those new and not-so-new to polyamory.
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