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Nine Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage: Because a Great Relationship Doesn't Happen by Accident
Is what you believe about marriage getting in the way of a GREAT relationship?
When you’ve put into practice all the usual advice, but your marriage still falls short of the intimacy and joy you want, what then? Are patience and perseverance your only hope for a better relationship?
Author and speaker Sheila Wray Gregoire says, “Absolutely not!” The solution to a happier relationship is not found in being a more patient, more perfect wife, but in taking responsibility for what you can do—and especially for how you think about your marriage. She challenges you to replace pat Christian answers with nine biblical truths that will radically shift your perspective on your husband, your relationship, and your role in God’s design for marriage, including…
· My Husband Can’t Make Me Mad
· Being One Is More Important Than Being Right
· Having Sex Is Not the Same as Making Love
With humor and honesty, Sheila invites you to believe that God wants to bring oneness and intimacy to your marriage—and challenges you to partner with Him in that process by changing the way you think.
When you’ve put into practice all the usual advice, but your marriage still falls short of the intimacy and joy you want, what then? Are patience and perseverance your only hope for a better relationship?
Author and speaker Sheila Wray Gregoire says, “Absolutely not!” The solution to a happier relationship is not found in being a more patient, more perfect wife, but in taking responsibility for what you can do—and especially for how you think about your marriage. She challenges you to replace pat Christian answers with nine biblical truths that will radically shift your perspective on your husband, your relationship, and your role in God’s design for marriage, including…
· My Husband Can’t Make Me Mad
· Being One Is More Important Than Being Right
· Having Sex Is Not the Same as Making Love
With humor and honesty, Sheila invites you to believe that God wants to bring oneness and intimacy to your marriage—and challenges you to partner with Him in that process by changing the way you think.
240 pages, Paperback
First published August 18, 2015
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Sheila Wray Gregoire
31 books733 followersSheila Wray Gregoire is an award-winning author of 9 books, including the ground-breaking Great Sex Rescue, and founder of BareMarriage.com. She's passionate about changing the evangelical conversation about sex to something that is mutual, initimate, and pleasurable for both. She heads up a team of researchers who want to bring evidence-based, healthy advice to evangelicalism when it comes to relationships. Sheila lives in Belleville, Ontario, with her husband Keith. They are the parents of two adult daughters.
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August 24, 2015
Sheila Wray Gregoire’s new book, 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage, accomplishes something quite difficult: Saying something fresh about marriage. After reading and/or reviewing so many marriage books that focus on male/female communication and seeing the world as either pink or blue and offer cute little catchphrases, I loved how Gregoire dug a bit deeper. She tackles commonly held cliches or superficial Christian marriage beliefs and replaces them with 9 thoughts that could change the way you think about what it means to love your husband.
Her first thought sounds so simple: “My Husband is My Neighbor.” But in that one simple thought, she addresses an attitude adjustment that we need to make as wives. She writes, “it’s often easier to feel compassion for people in the abstract than for individuals we know up close and personal” (16) and also, “I have this sneaking suspicion that most of us save our best behavior for those whom we barely know and show our worst side to those we know the best” (17). Isn’t that so true? We often display grace, forgiveness, and compassion for those outside of our home, strangers even who we meet at the grocery story or the bank, but then snap at every flaw we see in the one person we are to treasure the most.
Her other thoughts are just as important, valuable, and challenging, including “My Husband Can’t Make Me Mad,” My Husband Was Not Put on This Earth to Make Me Happy” and (my favorite), “I”m Called to Be a Peacemaker, not a Peacekeeper.” In this last chapter, she argues that “pursuing peace does not mean seeking an absence of conflict.” Instead, God’s heart is for oneness, and sometimes that means choosing to work together to fix differences instead of simply ignoring them in an effort to “keep the peace.”
Gregoire manages to maintain a very difficult balance. Submission and respecting our husbands does not mean allowing them to do whatever they feel like it, no matter how abusive, harmful, irresponsible, and hurtful. Her question is, “If you step back and ‘submit,’ are you being a ‘suitable helper’ to him? Or are you enabling him?” Nor does establishing boundaries in marriage mean threatening divorce or harping on his every flaw and failing. She suggests that holiness in marriage results from lovingly helping each become more Christ-like, loving each other enough to speak truth in love when necessary.
Throughout each chapter, Gregoire includes Action Steps and then she includes a summary of all of the action steps at the end of the chapter so they are easy to find and implement. You may not be able to do each action step in a chapter, but with several choices, there is usually something you can put into practice. Some action steps involve your husband and some you can do on your own, like “Pray about where God is leading your husband. Ask God, ‘How can I tangibly support my husband in that?’
She also provides a helpful appendix with her favorite marriage resources in various categories, such as: Make Your Marriage Great, The Purpose of Marriage, Sex, Handling Conflict and Setting Boundaries, and Roles in Marriage. I loved this resource list because it’s likely that as you read her book, you’d identify the weaker aspects of your marriage and then find further information and encouragement on those specific areas.
Ultimately, this is a marriage book for an engaged woman, the newly married, the seasoned wife with a great marriage and the woman in a marriage that is struggling. While not every one of her thoughts will fit your own marriage needs, there are most likely at least some healthy reminders or fresh encouragements to help any wife make her marriage better.
I received this book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
Her first thought sounds so simple: “My Husband is My Neighbor.” But in that one simple thought, she addresses an attitude adjustment that we need to make as wives. She writes, “it’s often easier to feel compassion for people in the abstract than for individuals we know up close and personal” (16) and also, “I have this sneaking suspicion that most of us save our best behavior for those whom we barely know and show our worst side to those we know the best” (17). Isn’t that so true? We often display grace, forgiveness, and compassion for those outside of our home, strangers even who we meet at the grocery story or the bank, but then snap at every flaw we see in the one person we are to treasure the most.
Her other thoughts are just as important, valuable, and challenging, including “My Husband Can’t Make Me Mad,” My Husband Was Not Put on This Earth to Make Me Happy” and (my favorite), “I”m Called to Be a Peacemaker, not a Peacekeeper.” In this last chapter, she argues that “pursuing peace does not mean seeking an absence of conflict.” Instead, God’s heart is for oneness, and sometimes that means choosing to work together to fix differences instead of simply ignoring them in an effort to “keep the peace.”
Gregoire manages to maintain a very difficult balance. Submission and respecting our husbands does not mean allowing them to do whatever they feel like it, no matter how abusive, harmful, irresponsible, and hurtful. Her question is, “If you step back and ‘submit,’ are you being a ‘suitable helper’ to him? Or are you enabling him?” Nor does establishing boundaries in marriage mean threatening divorce or harping on his every flaw and failing. She suggests that holiness in marriage results from lovingly helping each become more Christ-like, loving each other enough to speak truth in love when necessary.
Throughout each chapter, Gregoire includes Action Steps and then she includes a summary of all of the action steps at the end of the chapter so they are easy to find and implement. You may not be able to do each action step in a chapter, but with several choices, there is usually something you can put into practice. Some action steps involve your husband and some you can do on your own, like “Pray about where God is leading your husband. Ask God, ‘How can I tangibly support my husband in that?’
She also provides a helpful appendix with her favorite marriage resources in various categories, such as: Make Your Marriage Great, The Purpose of Marriage, Sex, Handling Conflict and Setting Boundaries, and Roles in Marriage. I loved this resource list because it’s likely that as you read her book, you’d identify the weaker aspects of your marriage and then find further information and encouragement on those specific areas.
Ultimately, this is a marriage book for an engaged woman, the newly married, the seasoned wife with a great marriage and the woman in a marriage that is struggling. While not every one of her thoughts will fit your own marriage needs, there are most likely at least some healthy reminders or fresh encouragements to help any wife make her marriage better.
I received this book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
August 19, 2015
Great Book Whether You Have a "Good" Marriage or one that needs some TLC!
My husband and I have been married going-on-three-years. I know, ancient. We have agood great marriage. It's not perfect (neither of us are), but we've grown a lot and worked through things together. We understand each other better now, and we try to make sure we're fighting for each other, not with each other.
Even though we're blessed to be in our relationship and for it to be so strong already, I'm always trying to learn new ways I can better serve my husband. Because I love him. I thoroughly enjoyed Shelia's To Love, To Honor, and To Vacuum so when I had the opportunity to review her newest book Nine Thoughts that can Change Your Marriage, I jumped on it.
What Shelia does in this book is very important. She gives you the tools you need to change your marriage. A change starts with you. Oh, she doesn't ignore the reality that your husband may be at fault, but she shows that by changing how you think in 9 areas, you can make a difference in your marriage regardless of if he changes or not.
It sounds lofty, but here's the lovely part: each thought Shelia makes totally actionable.
Take her first thought, as an example: My husband is my neighbor.
Here are her action steps:
How well do you know your husband? Every day for the next two weeks, ask your husband something new about him - and share something about yourself.
Show your husband he is your priority. Put on makeup for him, greet him at the door, or kiss him before you kiss anybody else.
Tell your husband daily why you love him.
Make confession part of your prayer life every day - and apologize whenever you feel an inkling that you have done wrong.
Practice random acts of kindness. Choose two to three from pages 28-30 to make into habits.
Now, the books is not just a list of thoughts and action steps. Shelia takes time to talk about each point and really make them applicable, candidly sharing her experiences and how these thoughts and actions helped turn her marriage from one of frustration to one of fun.
This is a great book regardless of if you feel you and your husband are at odds. My husband and I have already worked through some of this in our time together. When I read why and how Shelia recommended going about some of these suggestions, I really felt validated that my husband and I were doing a good job of working together.
But that's not enough.
I want to make sure I don't let things stagnate, and I found this book full of practical suggestions to make sure I'm taking care of my husband and our marriage, which, after my relationship with God, is my top priority ... and the best gift I can give to our children.
Highly recommend.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from Blogging for Books in exchange for my honest opinion.
My husband and I have been married going-on-three-years. I know, ancient. We have a
Even though we're blessed to be in our relationship and for it to be so strong already, I'm always trying to learn new ways I can better serve my husband. Because I love him. I thoroughly enjoyed Shelia's To Love, To Honor, and To Vacuum so when I had the opportunity to review her newest book Nine Thoughts that can Change Your Marriage, I jumped on it.
What Shelia does in this book is very important. She gives you the tools you need to change your marriage. A change starts with you. Oh, she doesn't ignore the reality that your husband may be at fault, but she shows that by changing how you think in 9 areas, you can make a difference in your marriage regardless of if he changes or not.
It sounds lofty, but here's the lovely part: each thought Shelia makes totally actionable.
Take her first thought, as an example: My husband is my neighbor.
Here are her action steps:
How well do you know your husband? Every day for the next two weeks, ask your husband something new about him - and share something about yourself.
Show your husband he is your priority. Put on makeup for him, greet him at the door, or kiss him before you kiss anybody else.
Tell your husband daily why you love him.
Make confession part of your prayer life every day - and apologize whenever you feel an inkling that you have done wrong.
Practice random acts of kindness. Choose two to three from pages 28-30 to make into habits.
Now, the books is not just a list of thoughts and action steps. Shelia takes time to talk about each point and really make them applicable, candidly sharing her experiences and how these thoughts and actions helped turn her marriage from one of frustration to one of fun.
This is a great book regardless of if you feel you and your husband are at odds. My husband and I have already worked through some of this in our time together. When I read why and how Shelia recommended going about some of these suggestions, I really felt validated that my husband and I were doing a good job of working together.
But that's not enough.
I want to make sure I don't let things stagnate, and I found this book full of practical suggestions to make sure I'm taking care of my husband and our marriage, which, after my relationship with God, is my top priority ... and the best gift I can give to our children.
Highly recommend.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from Blogging for Books in exchange for my honest opinion.
September 8, 2015
If you’re looking for a new marriage book to dig into, I highly recommend Sheila’s new book. It offers REAL solutions to REAL problems people face in their marriages. And it does so without giving pat Christian answers.
Sheila walks through 9 specific thoughts you can change that will make a huge impact on your marriage. Some of these thoughts include:
-My husband is my neighbor.
-My husband is not put on this earth to make me happy.
-Being one is more important than being right.
And more!
My greatest takeaway was Sheila's challenge to treat your spouse as kindly as you'd treat a stranger. Sheila wrote, “Most of us save our best behavior for those whom we barely know and show our worst side to those we know the best.” It’s sad, isn’t it, that we treat our spouses and our kids in ways we wouldn’t think of treating someone we barely know?
This book challenged me to do better...to love better...and to stop allowing my thoughts to defeat my marriage.
*I received this book for free, but all opinions are my own. I was not required to write a positive review of this book.
Sheila walks through 9 specific thoughts you can change that will make a huge impact on your marriage. Some of these thoughts include:
-My husband is my neighbor.
-My husband is not put on this earth to make me happy.
-Being one is more important than being right.
And more!
My greatest takeaway was Sheila's challenge to treat your spouse as kindly as you'd treat a stranger. Sheila wrote, “Most of us save our best behavior for those whom we barely know and show our worst side to those we know the best.” It’s sad, isn’t it, that we treat our spouses and our kids in ways we wouldn’t think of treating someone we barely know?
This book challenged me to do better...to love better...and to stop allowing my thoughts to defeat my marriage.
*I received this book for free, but all opinions are my own. I was not required to write a positive review of this book.
March 24, 2017
What a phenomenal book! Sheila Wray Gregoire tackles tough subjects in marriage with great humor and wit, but never releases or negates the wife's responsibility for her own attitudes and actions. She openly shares some of the times she messed up in her own marriage, and then relates the difference a few small (or sometimes BIG) changes made. Whether you are struggling or think married life is pretty good, I'm sure you can find some truth in this book to make things so much better.
December 27, 2020
The beginning seemed like it would be helpful for someone very immature in their relationships. I found her spaghetti analogy annoying and not particularly accurate. I was not at all impressed with the beginning.
As the book continues she presents some valuable ideas on dealing with real challenges and struggles in marriage from a Christian perspective. I really appreciate it as I feel like these ideas aren’t discussed enough in religion and particularly with females in religion. The message is often only turn the other cheek.
My favorite take away was that as Christian’s we are supposed to be “good” not “nice.” Being good is not always nice. For example, if your husband has a porn problem, or plays video games all day and doesn’t help provide for the family, the good thing is not to be accepting and supportive of it. That would be the nice thing to do. The good thing to do would be to help him overcome it which might require some unkind actions.
As the book continues she presents some valuable ideas on dealing with real challenges and struggles in marriage from a Christian perspective. I really appreciate it as I feel like these ideas aren’t discussed enough in religion and particularly with females in religion. The message is often only turn the other cheek.
My favorite take away was that as Christian’s we are supposed to be “good” not “nice.” Being good is not always nice. For example, if your husband has a porn problem, or plays video games all day and doesn’t help provide for the family, the good thing is not to be accepting and supportive of it. That would be the nice thing to do. The good thing to do would be to help him overcome it which might require some unkind actions.
January 24, 2025
I am torn between a 3 and a 4. There were parts that I found helpful and appreciated the faith-based approach in this book. If you are not a person of faith, this book is not for you as the basic tenants revolve around the ideology of a Christian marriage. There are great principles and ideas in the book regardless of your faith but faith is the basis of the strength of a marriage and the author continually refers to faith and keep God and your faith at the forefront of your marriage. My biggest issue is like many books, though not as bad as some; the underlying message is please/make your husband happy, and he will be a good husband, and you will be happy. I think I may read this again in written format versus audio, take some notes, and attempt to implement some action steps. I liked some of what the author had to say, and I think it did help with my perspective in a way, but I am not 100% on board. If you are looking for some answers, I do feel this is worth a read.
October 9, 2019
Such a refreshing addition to the marriage book canon! I really appreciated Sheila’s focus on personal responsibility in our marriages. She unpacks nine concepts (things like “my husband was not put on this earth to make me happy” and “I am not in competition with my husband” and “if I’m not careful we’ll drift apart”); points out problems with oft-used marriage “pat answers”; and provides alternative ways of thinking, including lots of easily accessible action steps. Great practical and Biblical perspective for working to make your marriage the best it can be. Definitely a resource that I will continue to reference!
February 7, 2021
Best book I've read on marriage! I loved how practical it was, and how balanced. So many books put all the weight onto the woman to fix the issues in the marriage -- be a better doormat, give him more sex, have less opinions, be quieter, think less.... Not so with this book! Sheila lays it all out how pursuing Jesus is the most important, and making sure our behaviors in marriage and out of it reflect what He calls us too. Then all the pieces can fall into place in a healthy way, one that values both partners in a marriage.
This is THE book I would give for wedding/shower gifts
This is THE book I would give for wedding/shower gifts
September 17, 2025
Lei otro libro de la autora y lo disfrute bastante, por lo que tenia curiosidad de leer otro libro de ella y decidí leer este también. Me parece un libro de gran valor porque lo que para mí resulta lógico, para muchas parejas no lo es, y ahí es donde Sheila logra dar claridad.
Me gusta que ella escribe de una forma muy práctica, con ejemplos fáciles de entender y aplicar en la vida diaria. No es un libro cargado de teorías, sino de principios bíblicos que realmente pueden transformar la forma en que un matrimonio se relaciona.
Me gusta que ella escribe de una forma muy práctica, con ejemplos fáciles de entender y aplicar en la vida diaria. No es un libro cargado de teorías, sino de principios bíblicos que realmente pueden transformar la forma en que un matrimonio se relaciona.
June 25, 2020
If all of us wives could think the nine thoughts that are talked about in this book and act them out, I am confident that we would all have much much better marriages. Such practical advice, written in a highly readable manner with lots of such personal stories of both the author herself and of the people that she talked to.
Perfect gift for a newlywed wife!
Thank you Netgalley and Waterbrook Multnomah for the review copy. So sorry this took so long, but this is my honest opinion.
Perfect gift for a newlywed wife!
Thank you Netgalley and Waterbrook Multnomah for the review copy. So sorry this took so long, but this is my honest opinion.
August 24, 2018
Whether you've been married for 5 minutes or 80 years, whether your marriage is lousy or fantastic, you need to read this book. My marriage is great and we've been married a while, but I still found this book to have a wonderfully positive impact on my marriage.
March 3, 2022
A book filled with common sense advice. You might not find the exact answer that you seek but there is often something relatable that will fill the gap. - see the rest on Simply honest reviews on webador
May 14, 2021
Solid, practical reading.
December 10, 2021
Good! Want to read her best seller now.
February 15, 2022
3.5 rounded up to 4
A change in perspective can do a lot.
A change in perspective can do a lot.
March 4, 2022
Thought provoking! It definitely gives you a lot to think about and shows you what and how you think about your husband matters.
April 7, 2023
Had some practical ideas of what to do to strengthen a marriage.
January 27, 2024
Largely helpful; little bit about sex, mostly about the relationship. Mileage will vary based on the person and relationship and context while reading.
February 17, 2024
While geared towards wives, there are so many applicable points to husbands as well. Thought provoking and insightful, this book has the potential to improve and make marriages stronger.
July 5, 2024
Her books are on Hoopla, so I've been reading and listening through them since I read The Great Sex Rescue last summer.
January 14, 2025
I always appreciate Sheila’s bold take on important topics. This book was a good read.
February 18, 2025
Such good reminders of the mindsets that can help our marriages, and also some new ideas that I really appreciated! Great, easy read if you want to give your marriage a boost!
August 19, 2020
A good book which doesn't lend itself to the usual Christian pat answers. It certainly isn't one of those "if there are issues in your marriage then just go away and pray about it". It's full of real stories, practical advise and action points on how to change your thinking, which in turn will change how you view your marriage. Running through the book are several key Bible passages, one of which is Micah 6:8:........to act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.
October 27, 2015
There are many marriage relationship books I've read over the last 17 years of marriage. Honestly, most of them haven't really "stuck" and some of them I didn't even get all the way through. This book, on the other hand, is one that really hit home with me. The author is so wise yet down-to-earth in each of the chapters. She describes several of the lies many of us women believe and gives us an action plan to turn things around to the betterment of our marriages. I love the practical applications she offers and how she isn't afraid to tell us all about her failures and shortcomings - authenticity is a big deal for me.
One of my favorite thoughts is: Your Husband Is Your Neighbor. Ever thought about that idea? Well, think about it: Shouldn't you treat your husband better than you treat your neighbor? Yet we usually treat complete strangers better than we treat those we love the most! Sheila takes it even further; once married, the two of us are now “one” so this means if he is hurting, I hurt too! So Sheila tells us not to hurt ourselves by causing division and pain with our other half.
Things that should be common sense to us really aren't and need to be broken down easily, and the author does that well. Truly, this is one of the most life-changing books on marriage I have ever read. I suggest that any wife-to-be or wife read it, whether she thinks her marriage is perfect, or whether she's ready to call it quits. Every wife can glean something from Sheila's words of wisdom. It would be a wonderful wedding or wedding shower gift so the young women in your life can get started the right way, instead of needing to backtrack and fix problems later in a marriage.
Thanks, Sheila, and God bless you!
I was given a free copy of this book for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
One of my favorite thoughts is: Your Husband Is Your Neighbor. Ever thought about that idea? Well, think about it: Shouldn't you treat your husband better than you treat your neighbor? Yet we usually treat complete strangers better than we treat those we love the most! Sheila takes it even further; once married, the two of us are now “one” so this means if he is hurting, I hurt too! So Sheila tells us not to hurt ourselves by causing division and pain with our other half.
Things that should be common sense to us really aren't and need to be broken down easily, and the author does that well. Truly, this is one of the most life-changing books on marriage I have ever read. I suggest that any wife-to-be or wife read it, whether she thinks her marriage is perfect, or whether she's ready to call it quits. Every wife can glean something from Sheila's words of wisdom. It would be a wonderful wedding or wedding shower gift so the young women in your life can get started the right way, instead of needing to backtrack and fix problems later in a marriage.
Thanks, Sheila, and God bless you!
I was given a free copy of this book for an honest review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
May 2, 2022
This book is one of many books written by a women for women. I bought it because my wife likes her approach better than that of men writing about marriage. This is one of her favorite authors.
Partial Contents - The 9 Thoughts
1. My Husband Is My Neighbor
2. My Husband can’t make Me Mad
3. My Husband Was Not Put on This Earth to Make Me Happy
4. I Can’t Mold My Husband into My Image
5. I’m Not in Competition with My Husband
6. I’m Called to Be a Peacemaker, Not a Peacekeeper
7. Being One Is More Important Than Being Right
8. Having Sex Is Not the Same as Making Love
9. If I’m Not Careful, We’ll Drift Apart
The Appendix has a pleasantly short list of recommended books. At 3 pages can I really call it short. Yes, because the layout gives enough room for each book to make it pleasant to read.
Chapter 1 feels like it is advocating the same sort of thing that she has been railing against all through year 2020. After that, it got better.
I liked that she has action points sprinkled throughout the chapters, and has them again at the end of each of the nine chapters.
Partial Contents - The 9 Thoughts
1. My Husband Is My Neighbor
2. My Husband can’t make Me Mad
3. My Husband Was Not Put on This Earth to Make Me Happy
4. I Can’t Mold My Husband into My Image
5. I’m Not in Competition with My Husband
6. I’m Called to Be a Peacemaker, Not a Peacekeeper
7. Being One Is More Important Than Being Right
8. Having Sex Is Not the Same as Making Love
9. If I’m Not Careful, We’ll Drift Apart
The Appendix has a pleasantly short list of recommended books. At 3 pages can I really call it short. Yes, because the layout gives enough room for each book to make it pleasant to read.
Chapter 1 feels like it is advocating the same sort of thing that she has been railing against all through year 2020. After that, it got better.
I liked that she has action points sprinkled throughout the chapters, and has them again at the end of each of the nine chapters.
May 24, 2016
Although this book was not life-changing for me, it was thought-provoking. I was able to take away at least one thing from each of the nine thoughts that will make an impact of my marriage, family and myself.
This book is well worth reading even for those women who are engaged or have been "happily" married for many years.
My only complaint is that she sometimes misapplies scripture to make her point. Meaning she uses particle verses or takes verses out of context. I don't think her intention is to mislead but when you read the entire verse in context you realize that it is not referring to what she is using it for.
Overall all this is a good read that has value for any woman that wants to understand herself and her husband while improving her marriage.
This book is well worth reading even for those women who are engaged or have been "happily" married for many years.
My only complaint is that she sometimes misapplies scripture to make her point. Meaning she uses particle verses or takes verses out of context. I don't think her intention is to mislead but when you read the entire verse in context you realize that it is not referring to what she is using it for.
Overall all this is a good read that has value for any woman that wants to understand herself and her husband while improving her marriage.
January 6, 2023
Loved it. It is very Christian, and I am not. But many ideas expressed in this book spoke to me. There were a couple of "aha" moments.
I am really glad I read it. Now I need to keep coming back to this book to remember all the valuable information and advice this woman shared. Thank you, Sheila!
Also, I really like this writing style! I truly enjoyed reading this book.
I am really glad I read it. Now I need to keep coming back to this book to remember all the valuable information and advice this woman shared. Thank you, Sheila!
Also, I really like this writing style! I truly enjoyed reading this book.
November 13, 2015
I appreciated her honest writing and approach to some of the more touchy subjects of marriage. The action steps through out the book are a great way to take the ideas and put them into your everyday, real life and interactions with your husband.
December 10, 2015
I love this book because it takes you by the ear and forces you to look in the mirror! The tag line is “because a great relationship doesn’t happen by accident” - Sheila helps you see how you can change the dynamics of your marriage, instead of waiting for your spouse to change. Super fun read!
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