Me, You & Us: Moving Beyond Relational Trauma and Disorder (Anxious/Avoidant Attachment, Codependency, BPD) to Build a Stable, Lasting Relationship

by Brian Birdbell

A guide to healing relational patterns, setting boundaries, and building the emotionally healthy love you’ve always wanted

For years, I struggled in romantic relationships—trapped in people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and emotional disconnection. I didn’t know how to set boundaries, communicate honestly, or feel safe being myself. Like many people with a history of codependency or relational trauma, I was stuck in survival mode—longing for intimacy but afraid to be truly seen.

Whether you're recovering from toxic relationships, navigating attachment wounds, or simply want to show up more authentically in love, this book will help

Understand your emotional patterns and triggersCommunicate with honesty and curiosityCreate safety, trust, and intimacy with your partnerBreak free from performance, people-pleasing, and self-betrayalBuild a relationship rooted in mutual respect, care, and desireIf you’re ready to stop performing and start connecting—for real—this book is your invitation.

Perfect for readers

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191 pages, Paperback

Published June 11, 2025

About the author

Brian, with his wife Stephanie, hosts the acclaimed podcast A Codependent Mind.

Reviews

[Nina · Rating 3 out of 5]

Loved the content, resonated a lot with it and I like the personal style of writing. Unfortunately I couldn’t help but think it was written partly with the help of AI to weave it all together or even paragraphs itself.