I'm not sure how to begin this review. Despite the one star review I gave it, I did enjoy it more so towards the ending and there was a lot of spiritual wisdom and entertainment speckled throughout it.. buutttt there were just some things I didn't like about this book. And since I got to start somewhere, I might as well get my "problems" with the book out of the way. So brace yourself peeps.
In this Mark of the Lion series, I noticed a discomforting trend. The romantic relationships between the main characters (Hadassah and Marcus in the first two books, and then Atretes and Rizpah and the third) all began on tumultuous and dangerous grounds. I'm talking about abuse here, people: emotional, physical, and spiritual. You can argue that it is to be somewhat expected in the first two books due to Hadassah being a slave and Marcus her owner and although that doesn't make it right, I appreciate how Francine shows the darker nature of that time and slavery and the effects of living in it. But in As Sure As Dawn, it was very unsettling as I continued to read Rizpah and Atretes love story unfold.
As Sure As Dawn picks up with Atretes seeking out his son only to discover that the child, though still a babe, is not willing to depart from his mother so easily to be weaned by another and Rizpah is as unwilling to yield her son back to his father who abandoned him. Thus begins their rocky relationship. Though Atretes is cruel to her in speech and in his handling with her, and also regards her Christian faith mockingly, somehow Rizpah realizes that she has fallen head over heels in love with him. Uh... come again?
Let's rewind and push pause.
Problem #1: This literally happened out of nowhere and in such a short time frame from their meet. There was no build or possible sustenance to her love. He hadn't showed any amount of kindness to her, practically threw her out of his house when they first met, threatened to kill her, and exerted physical and emotional pain on her, and she constantly found herself brought to her worst when ever she was around him. This leads me to believe that ultimately, Rizpah fell in love with the handsome face and build of Atretes which is more akin to lust than I dare say would be called romantic love, so can we just call it that.
I admit it is easy to fall into this trap, I mean so many of real-life relationship abuse stories start off on rocky ground, so I appreciate Mrs. Rivers bringing this to light, however, the abuse Rizpah endured from Atretes seemed to be glazed over and unconfronted as if it's something to be expected from such a "manly man". Pfft! It might as well been an issue that stayed in the dark if it was only going to encourage women who are in such situations to stay and endure, and that things will eventually get better!
Atretes had all the warning signs of being abusive. So are we really surprise when we find out that he is? I'm glad Francine didn't hide this even after Atretes "sees the light". However, at the same time, I felt like Francine may have undermined the effects of abuse. It was never challenged, or flagged as wrong but daily introduced as normal.
Problem #2: As soon as Atretes meets Rizpah, he begins to lust after her when he notices how beautiful she is and somehow that is translated into love. Um... no. I seriously did not see where his lust ended in his love began. Throughout the book, he makes it a goal to break down Ripzah walls to take pleasure in her as if she's a conquest. He orders her around like a slave (and she is in no way in bondage to him) and treats her like one as well. Multiple times he takes advantage of her by forcing himself upon his embrace and kissing her harshly when she definitively says no and despite her pushing away.
Sidebar: If you are in a relationship that is showing early signs of abuse (possessiveness, jealousy, domineering behavior, etc.), whether through words or actions, don't stick around! That's a relationship that you don't need to be in. Seek guidance and help. And please don't marry them thinking it will make things better!
I appreciate books that bring the trauma of relationship abuse to the forefront but to make it okay or to dance it over it? Uh... NO. You have a choice and a voice in a relationship and women especially should see that walking away from this type of behavior early on is perhaps the best route to take!
I have no problem at all with Christian books bringing some of these "problems" to light in their books because these are real issues and life just isn't peaches and rainbows. But I just felt that the issues were hardly addressed as being negative, were glazed over, and to an extent encourages women readers that this type of behavior is okay and to stick it out. You shouldn't have to subject yourself to that type of treatment. Justifying staying in a bad relationship, or even encouraging someone to pursue or entertain someone in order to be a "light" in their life is not honorable or admirable. It's plain dumb, and I mean that in the most encouraging way. Seriously, don't be dumb.
Alright, I know I must sound like a broken record, but I just had to say it because it didn't seem like Mrs. Rivers ever would. My problems with the novel made it such a challenge for me to enjoy anything else that was going on in the story, and it wasn't until I got three-fourths of the way that my interest start to resurface, and a huge portion of this was due to the fact that it was slow pace (and that's a common trait I have found while reading Francine Rivers books). But even though it does get better towards the end, it was all just a little too late for me.
One last thing: Abuse comes in many shapes and forms and if you're lucky you will see the early warning signs. No one deserves to be abused. It is NOT an act of love. If you are being abused, please get help.