Highly recommended book. See below an overview of the three main sections.
"I believe in the sun even when it isn't shining. I believe in love even when I am alone. I believe in God even when he is silent."
Everyone has unanswered prayers, don't deny or hide this.
Maundy Thursday. How am I going to get through this?
Unanswered prayers happen to everyone and can be challenging. But never forget God is a God who loves us. God is also a Holy and powerful God able to do anything. In the pain do not forget that. God will ultimately make all things new.
Be honest and have naked trust before God. Lamenting is not only a way of expressing emotion but a fruit of a deepening spiritual life that is able to stand naked before God with no shame or pretence.
There is sometimes an anointing that can only come through the darker trust of unanswered prayer.
Still pray about small things: it is a privilege to be heard by God and natural to ask for help, communicate like any relationship. God sometimes can answer small things if they actually have large implications. Praying about small things opens our eyes to God's daily blessing, so we can live in greater gratitude. The Great Minimum of Life (G.K. Chesterton) beholds the wonder of everyday miracles, where the smallest pleasures are answers to prayers.
Good Friday. Why are my prayers not being answered?
Life is hard. Do not be surprised at suffering. The world is fallen, do not expect things to be perfect, adjust your expectations. Do not think: Why me? As if you're immune to human afflictions. Why not me? Christian hope is not to escape from suffering but a deeper relationship with the 'Man of sorrows familiar with suffering' who loves us and lives in us. Believe in God even more than we believe in miracles. We almost always pray for God to remove the negative, rather than to endure the negative with a proper attitude. Yet we should not actively seek suffering! And God hates suffering, one day there will be a new hope.
God's Will is the best. And we will not be able to understand it all. How tragic if our destiny followed our own logic and imagination. We shall come over the day to a heaven where we shall gratefully know that God's great refusals were sometimes the true answers to our truest prayers. It is always more important why we pray than how we pray or what we say. Miracles only happen when our prayers harmonise with God broad desires in our life, we are promised these prayers will always be answered!
"Try to exclude the possibility of suffering which the order of nature and existence of free will involves, and you will find that you have excluded life itself." Clive Staples Lewis.
Evil is real and there is a demonic world. This is clear in the Bible. Be aware but not over-occupied, pray to God. A balanced posture is to stand firm, resist him and attack when you need to with the word of God. God's will and God's world will eventually harmonise because Jesus has won God's war. Satan is cornered and fighting back. Don't get daring and take the fight to the enemy. Stand firm, resist him and he will flee.
Faith in God comes from getting to know his faithfulness. It is from God. A relational posture of trust to receive his Will in ways others can't handle. 10 keys to unlocking faith:
1. Prayer and worship. Focus on God and his goodness.
2. Fellowship. Be expectant and find inspiration in biographies
3. Fasting. Focuses prayer.
4. Start small.
5. Impulsiveness. Trust God immediately if prompted.
6. Adventure. Move into the uncertainty.
7. Bible study. Learn his promises. His Will is clear, pray with assurance.
8. Pilgrimage. Faith is easier in certain environments.
9. Journalling. Recording God's work in our lives.
10. Listening to God. Faith comes by hearing.
Why unanswered prayer:
God's world:
1. Common sense. Some prayers are just stupid.
2. Contradiction. Some prayers contradict others.
3. The laws of nature. Some prayers would be detrimental to the world and to the lives of others. Miracles by definition are not common because we live in a stable world.
4. Life is tough. Creation has not yet been fully liberated from bondage. Life is inevitably doing to be difficult at times.
5. Doctrine. Some prayers aren't answered the way we think because our expectations and understanding of God are wrong.
God's Will:
6. God is best. He has in store something even better for us.
7. Motive. Some prayers are selfishly motivated.
8. Relationship. God is a greater answer then what we are asking for and He wants to use our sense of need to draw us into a deeper relationship with Himself.
9. Free will. God will not force a person to do something they do not want to do.
10. Influence. Some prayers are working gradually and not as impersonal mechanisms of forced control.
God's War:
11. Satanic opposition. Some prayers are directly contested by 'spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms'. Perseverance, faith, courage and authoritative use of the word of God are vital in winning.
12. Faith. Some prayers we don't believe will get answered. However, faith grows as we get to know God.
13. Perseverance. Some prayers aren't answered yet. Whether they are being resisted by spiritual forces, stubborn people or God himself, don't give up praying.
14. Sin. Because we have areas of disobedience. Are there hidden sins to confess or actions to take to lend power to prayers? Live with integrity.
15. Justice. Because of our disregard for the needs of others in our communities and other nations.
Holy Saturday. Where is God when heaven is silent?
We can often live on this day. Jesus died for us yesterday and there will be miracles tomorrow, but where is God now?
God may seem silent but has promised to never leave us or forsake us. God withdraws and falls silent in order to bring us into a deeper relationship with him that is only possible when we move away from outward experiences. As long as it makes perfect sense to serve God and live for him, where everything goes our way, our faith can only mature so far. Only past this can we walk by faith not by sight. How fragile our faith is if we can't stay sad, confused and doubting for a time. Do not deny or rush through the painful seasons.
Life's great trials either make you bitter or better, never unchanged. Engage the silence and redeem your disappointments to be a creative force for God. How:
Looking back: Remembering God's word in the silence
By the distant light of past encounters and promises from the word of God, we can navigate the present darkness.
Looking around: encountering God in other people and places
Human beings are God's language. God speaks through us. Other people can help us bear emotional pain. Or a place, a book, a piece of music to remind you of God's goodness.
Speaking out: expressing God's word in the silence
Whatever else God may or may not be, he is present in the pain.
God is present in the midst of suffering because we are present in it.
Easter Sunday. When every prayer is answered
There is divine alchemy at work in all faithful suffering.
In acceptance lies peace.
Encountering Jesus is even more desirable than miracles and explanations. Of the 10 lepers healed only one came back to give thanks. The other 9 considered their answer to prayer more thrilling than the presence of the answerer.
In dealing with pain lament to God. Then after, stop and hear how he speaks your name.
In dealing with confusion allow Jesus to explain the scriptures to you by his holy spirit. Study and think. Discuss with friends.
In dealing with doubt tell Him. Honestly share your disappointments with others. You can pray like others: I believe, help my unbelief!
When we suffer Jesus comes with questions to refine and enhance our humanity.
The greatest miracle in all the world is the grace unleashed by a life of suffering. It was first released when Jesus endured death so that we might receive a living hope that never dies.
Revelations 5. Our unanswered prayers may be stored up by God waiting for greater fulfilment than we ever anticipated.
The future resurrection and afterlife is a mystery. We may have miraculous answers or may never find the answers we look for and the healing we pray for. Yet we acknowledge that "though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all" 2 Corinthians 4:16-17
Highly recommended.