Emotional Intelligence: How They Determine Our Success - Increase Your EQ by Mastering Your Emotions

by Dan Miller

Everyone is confronted by our own emotions in addition to those of other people. The manner in which we manage these emotions will determine how other people perceive us and our effectiveness in getting things done. By increasing our emotional intelligence, we will be better equipped to respond to situations around us with a high degree of maturity. Studies by renowned researchers such as John Mayer, Peter Salovey and Konstantin Vasily Petrides have shown that people who have a high emotional intelligence become better leaders and are exemplary in whatever they do. In his doctoral thesis entitled - A study of Developing Emotional Intelligence, Wayne Payne became the first person to use the term emotional intelligence. Compared to intelligence quotient (IQ), emotional intelligence appears to be superior because it covers a wide range of faculties and aspects of people’s behavior. Studying emotional intelligence will help you understand the source and impact of your emotions. This is important because it enhances self awareness. You will also have an opportunity to understand the behavior of other people and the underlying reasons why they act the way they do. Conflict management borrows heavily from emotional intelligence. By understanding the emotional needs of other people, you will be better placed to handle conflicts and resolve them in a manner that benefits every party. When conflicts are resolved amicably, they give you an opportunity to establish even stronger relationships and social bonds. A mastery of interpersonal skills such as listening, verbal communication, non-verbal communication, self management and assertiveness will make you gain trust and respect from others thereby becoming an influential person in social circles. Emotional intelligence is an interesting subject because it teaches and trains us to better relate with other people. With the pace at which
the world is fast becoming a global village, it is essential that you learn how to listen and interpret information coming to you from others. This will in turn help you in structuring your response. While many people confuse emotional intelligence and intelligence quotient, this book makes it clear that intelligence quotient is a subset of emotional intelligence. When you learn how to command your emotions, you will exercise more control over your life and unlock opportunities that would have otherwise remained hidden. Emotional maturity is something that every one of us is working towards attaining. This means that you should not be discouraged and sidetracked but rather press on and aggressively pursue your emotional goals to their final end.

Genres: Self Help

97 pages, Kindle Edition

First published November 14, 2014

Reviews

[Vivu Sagitragon · Rating 3 out of 5]

The first half of the title i.e "Emotional Intelligence: How They Determine Our Success" is elucidated adequately.
But the other half is not sufficiently set forth.

There is lack of clarity on the usage of copping, when denial and avoidance are ineffective in dealing with Stressors.
Also, it is not explained as to how one should manage anger, when the cause of anger is not resolved and surfaces frequently.

Conclusion:
This book can be considered as an Introductory Reading Material to understand Emotional Intelligence.
But to "Increase Your EQ by Mastering Your Emotions",

One has to either look for a book that puts forth a
- Detailed Program
Or as Dan Miller himself suggests
- " Seek professional help ".

[christopher conroy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book

Lots of very good advice to practice and follow on our every day lives. Read attentively and practice what the author mentions to increase emotional intelligence.

[Kumoyo Mukunyandela · Rating 1 out of 5]

When I read a book, I expect to learn something new...there is nothing memorable I can recall from this book or that I can apply going forward apart from the fact that the author stated what is constantly stated by many EQ proponents i.e. that EQ is more important than IQ (try telling that to the machines) which I think should be more qualified as when seeking cooperation with other humans, having a higher EQ is more important than IQ. If I was seeking to cooperate with beings (whether organic or inorganic) who don't share our common beliefs and values (as humans) I would doubt that EQ would be of any help, IQ on the other hand make turn you into a MacGyver who might develop something to outwit the potential threat.

[April · Rating 4 out of 5]

Light-hearted

A quick lighthearted read and brushing up on the ins and outs of emotional intelligence. Bringing awareness to our different emotions and reactions. I was not aware that meditation increases memory.

[Talmasvla · Rating 3 out of 5]

A nice read about emotional intelligence and other psychology condition, but it's certainly doesn't content any detailed things about psychology related fields.

[Victoria Greer · Rating 4 out of 5]

Audiobook version. Was very surprised that this was such a great audiobook given how cheap it was (around $6). Don't pass this one over just because of the low price. Lots of good information.

[Patrick Mugabeni · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great Practical book,