This book isn’t your typical breakup guide—it’s not sugar-coated, it’s not polite, and it doesn’t pull punches. It’s about healing after heartbreak, learning to sit in the silence, and facing the version of yourself that shows up when everything falls apart. It walks through the mess of divorce, breakups, grief, and identity loss—and shows you how to rebuild from the ground up.
It’s about taking ownership, not playing the victim. About learning to love yourself, not in some cliché, bubble bath kind of way, but in the deep, uncomfortable, honest way that actually changes your life. It dives into the brutal truths about attachment, codependency, trauma bonds, and what love isn’t—so you can finally figure out what it is.
This book helps you clean out the wreckage, reclaim your peace, and start choosing yourself. And when you're finally ready to date again? You're doing it with intention. With clarity. With standards born from pain, growth, and healing.
This isn’t just a breakup recovery book. It’s a wake-up call. A mirror. A blueprint for becoming someone you’re proud to be.
I adore Chris and Peaches, they have helped me so much, they helped me build so much strengh and trust within myself. This book came at a time where I am processing trauma and my own actions on a toxic past relationship while being on a new very loving relationship, where I am softening to the bone.
This book has supported me in the times I no longer know what to do about what I find in myself, and stay a bit stuck witnessing my scared and overprotective nervous system.
As always with Chris, he gave me the massive trusting push to move foward by staring into myself, which I already do, but softning is not as confortable as we may think it is, it challanges a lot in me, and it has made me understand so much of, not only my triggers, but my pains, it makes me see them. Softening truly is about giving myself the space to feel the things that arise within, and breathe present through it, planting the seeds of a healthy change and a healthy life, I see those moments of staring within the most fertile soil for planting these seeds, alogn with every moment of every day. This book is supporting me greatly on that, on keeping myself accountable without falling into blaming myself for everything, it has brought me a loving kind view of myself.
This book gave me tools and perspective, direction and courage, clarity and trust. Thank you Chris for writing it and for reading it so bravely and amazingly, I loved listening, and I cried with you, and now with you and Peaches I grow even further, thank you for everything.
After a month, I finally finished the book (and highlighting) and this book has added more insight for me. Though I’m not going through a breakup nor a divorce, I can add to my marriage to make things better. Thank you Chris, for another great book!