L'A.B.C. des émotions

by Claude Steiner

Ce guide d’auto-coaching vous donne les moyens d’apprendre à lire vos émotions et à mieux comprendre vos sentiments comme ceux des autres.

Positives ou négatives, ce sont les émotions qui sont nos moteurs internes et qui nous font bouger. Ce sont elles aussi qui font bouger les autres. Nous ne pouvons nous soustraire à leurs énergies. Autant mieux les connaître, car une fois identifiées et acceptées, nous pouvons leur donner une réponse pertinente et comprendre leur origine ou leur signification. Elles deviennent ainsi source de bienveillance, d’autonomie et de force.

Genres: Psychology, Nonfiction, Self Help

255 pages, Paperback

First published October 2, 1997

About the author

I am a clinical psychologist and transactional analyst. Since 1965 I have studied, written, taught and lectured about the importance of, and relationship between, rational information and the emotions--especially love -- and how these two factors affect our personal power.


I have developed a program for emotional literacy training (click here) using transactional analysis (click here) principles and methods.

Reviews

[JP]

Within the emotional intelligence topic, this book focuses on the intrapersonal dimensions. The writing is weak and the content banal. The overall message feels aligned to a very self-centered pyschology. I was happy to consider the concepts with an open mind and glad to learn that emotional intelligence can be learned. But the incessant theme of "strokes" became tiresome, and a quick scan of the rest of the last half seemed to indicate more of the same. I elected not to finish, which is rare.

[Brian Wilkerson]

This is a useful book for learning about Emotional Literacy, and that's it. It's useful. It's not for engaging narration.
Its kind of like a textbook, with teaching sections, writing exercises and summaries at the end of the chapter. The author is upfront about this. The book is meant to train the reader in emotional literacy.

There are some personal touches. The author will include a joke here and there and share some personal experiences, but only when they relate to the lesson. On the whole, this is a book with practical lessons. The assumption is the reader wants to develop emotional literacy by practicing with someone. It's not a book /about/ emotional literacy.

Even so, I enjoyed reading it. This is simple language for a profound subject.

[Maudg]

Livre sur l’intelligence émotionnelle se basant sur l’Analyse transactionnelle et offrant peu de contenu nouveau si on a déjà des bases en AT. Je n’aime les livres où l’auteur passe les 20-30 premières pages à vendre son concept (j’ai déjà acheté le livre!) et nous fait patienter avant d’arriver au contenu (contenu en plus assez pauvre au final).

[Elena ili]

This book changed my life.

[Elias]

Great book, highly recommended to anyone wanting to have better relationships with other humans.
I'll probably need to refer back to it at some point.

[Julian]

Great insight

[lizz]

A good introduction on emotional intelligence. I’ve jotted down the names of other authors he mentioned and plan to read them as well. I’m fascinated with the idea of “strokes” the author mentions.

[Keith]

About this author (Copied from Goodreads Author's page)
"I am a clinical psychologist and transactional analyst. Since 1965 I have studied, written, taught and lectured about the importance of, and relationship between, rational information and the emotions--especially love -- and how these two factors affect our personal power. "
"I have developed a program for emotional literacy training using transactional analysis principles and methods."

Although Transactional Analysis has had it's day, yet there is a lot of good stuff in this book.

Page 25 tells us that "Training can help you move up the scale of emotional intelligence, which consists of five skills:
1. Knowing your own feelings:
2. Having a sense of empathy:
3. Learning to manage your emotions:
4. Repairing emotional damage:
5. PUtting it all together:

The heart of the book is probably:
The Ten Commandments of Emotional Literacy (on page 187)
1. Thou shalt not power play.
2. Thou shalt not allow yourself to be power played
3. Thou shalt not lie by omission or commission.
4. Thou shalt stand up for how you feel and what you want.
5. Thou shalt respect the feelings and wishes of others.
6. Thou shalt look for the validity in the ideas of others.
7. Thou shalt apologize and make amends for your mistakes.
9. Thou shalt not accept false apologies.
10l Thou shalt follow these commandments according to your best judgement. (After all, they are not written in stone.)