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The Road Less Triggered: Turning Conflict into Connection with a Single Choice—The Self-Help Guide to Conflict-Proof Communication, Healthy Relationships & the Belonging You Seek
There is a moment that repeats itself over and over again in your relationships--it's the moment you're triggered to flip from connection mode into protection mode. This moment is the unseen source of all disconnection and conflict. However, it happens so quickly and unconsciously most of us feel powerless to choose connection. The Road Less Triggered will empower you
· quickly disrupt your defensiveness
· turn inner turmoil into inner peace
· connect with clarity, curiosity, and compassion
Through a powerful blend of psychology, spirituality, real-world examples, and practical exercises, clinical psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan illustrates in actionable detail the process through which you can free your relationships from the patterns that imprison them. Can you imagine uninterrupted peace with your partner? Kids who leave home but also love to return? Friendships that deepen instead of dwindle? Ruptured relationships restored to their highest potential? A professional life freed from personal hang-ups? All those rewards and more lie just ahead of you, down the road less triggered.
· quickly disrupt your defensiveness
· turn inner turmoil into inner peace
· connect with clarity, curiosity, and compassion
Through a powerful blend of psychology, spirituality, real-world examples, and practical exercises, clinical psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan illustrates in actionable detail the process through which you can free your relationships from the patterns that imprison them. Can you imagine uninterrupted peace with your partner? Kids who leave home but also love to return? Friendships that deepen instead of dwindle? Ruptured relationships restored to their highest potential? A professional life freed from personal hang-ups? All those rewards and more lie just ahead of you, down the road less triggered.
- GenresNonfiction
224 pages, Kindle Edition
Published March 3, 2026
About the author
Kelly Flanagan
5 books81 followersDr. Kelly Flanagan is an award-winning author, international speaker, concierge coach, and clinical psychologist with two decades of expertise in interpersonal relationships. His thought leadership has been featured in THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES, the TODAY Show, and Success Magazine. His first two books, LOVEABLE and TRUE COMPANIONS were #1 New Releases in Interpersonal Relations on Amazon, and his debut novel, THE UNHIDING OF ELIJAH CAMPBELL, won multiple literary awards. The proprietary frameworks in his book THE ROAD LESS TRIGGERED will take your relationships to a level that traditional communication strategies can’t touch. He is married to another clinical psychologist named Kelly, and they have three children—one adulting, and two at home in their small town outside of Chicago.
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April 6, 2026
This is one of the best books I have ever, ever read. I recommend it for everyone. I’ve already bought several copies for other people.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
I had the opportunity to review an ARC of this book and was deeply grateful for the experience. I look forward to rereading when my physical copy arrives next week! Dr Kelly presents a thoughtfully considered, personally practiced process for responding to the challenges that trigger uncomfortable/unwanted responses in us. Grounded in the evidence-base of therapeutic literature and the wisdom of ancient spiritual practices, the book is also intensely practical. I found it easy to immediately begin to implement these ideas just based on different awareness of how my heart closes and how to work to keep it open. It will continue to impact my personal growth, as well as my work with patients.
May 7, 2026
I was already familiar with Dr. Kelly Flanagan as I read and reviewed his first book, Loveable, in 2017. I remembered finding that book helpful so looked forward to The Road Less Triggered.
The Road Less Triggered has a lot of good advice in it for improving your relationships on your own. I think it could also be helpful book to use with a therapist too. Dr. Flanagan divides this book into three parts:
Get Calm
Get Free
Get Connected
You have to read The Road Less Triggered to understand what those three parts really mean. There are three chapters in each section. Through the stories of others who have followed this advice, the reader can then apply that information to improve their own relationships. Dr. Flanagan especially follows one couple through the book to best see the ups and downs of learning this strategy. The key concept throughout the book is that the reader works to have an open heart. Dr. Flanagan explains how to do that and how to use this concept to stay calm when you are triggered. I especially like how this author used this plan for his own relationships before using it with others. He helps the reader better understand why they do what they do in their relationships. I would recommend The Road Less Triggered to anyone and everyone. It is easy to read, to relate to, and to understand. Now putting it in practice is going to take some work, but I think it will be worth it.
I received a copy of this book from the publisher. All opinions are my own.
The Road Less Triggered has a lot of good advice in it for improving your relationships on your own. I think it could also be helpful book to use with a therapist too. Dr. Flanagan divides this book into three parts:
Get Calm
Get Free
Get Connected
You have to read The Road Less Triggered to understand what those three parts really mean. There are three chapters in each section. Through the stories of others who have followed this advice, the reader can then apply that information to improve their own relationships. Dr. Flanagan especially follows one couple through the book to best see the ups and downs of learning this strategy. The key concept throughout the book is that the reader works to have an open heart. Dr. Flanagan explains how to do that and how to use this concept to stay calm when you are triggered. I especially like how this author used this plan for his own relationships before using it with others. He helps the reader better understand why they do what they do in their relationships. I would recommend The Road Less Triggered to anyone and everyone. It is easy to read, to relate to, and to understand. Now putting it in practice is going to take some work, but I think it will be worth it.
I received a copy of this book from the publisher. All opinions are my own.
April 28, 2026
Dr. Flanagan has a wonderful knack for taking complex psychological concepts and distilling them into digestible and memorable tools for transformation. His writing style is smooth, rhythmically paced, easy to read, and genuinely enjoyable. In The Road Less Triggered, Dr. Kelly gives a mixture of personal stories, anecdotes, and a consistent case study that runs the entire duration of the book, framing the tools offered brilliantly.
STRENGTHS OF THE BOOK:
The book is set up in three distinct sections:
Part 1: Get Calm
Part 2: Get Free
Part 3: Get Connected
Flanagan does well to take the reader on a journey toward freedom through each of these sections, emphasizing that pain is an unavoidable part of the human experience, feelings are meant to be experienced, our past presses into our future, and boundaries can promote connection rather than distance. All of this is framed within the context of recognizing the condition of the heart, whether it is closed or open, and learning how to actively open your heart toward yourself, your past, and others.
Throughout the book, the reader is equipped with charts describing the various tendencies of closed or open-hearted relationships, as well as tools to self-assess, self-regulate, self-encourage, and respond to others rather than merely react to situations.
The tools, and specifically the questions that The Road Less Triggered offers, are quite sticky. I found the questions coming to mind in moments of tension, pain, and internal conflict. “This wouldn’t hurt so bad if it weren’t so similar to…” continuously sprang to mind during the week I was reading the book, as I was experiencing decisions in my office environment that affected me but were outside of my control. The tools helped trace the feelings I was experiencing beyond the current situation back to early experiences where I developed trigger responses.
The remarkable effectiveness of the book is that the tools are relatively simple yet carry a significant impact in helping you trace the sources of emotion, embrace emotions, fully experience the pain of an event, or establish clear boundaries that position you for open-hearted and healthy relationships rather than embattled, walled-off disconnection. Even in the short time since working through the book, I can tell you they are effective in helping regulate and respond in appropriate ways.
There is also a study guide for personal reflection and group discussion at the conclusion of the book.
MY CHALLENGES WITH THE BOOK:
My one complaint with the book (and for me, it is a significant challenge) is that it is marketed as a Christian Living book (even noted on the back cover) from a Baker Publishing division, and yet the person and work of Christ and His Spirit do not come up once in the book (aside from a pull quote from Thomas Merton on p. 187).
Instead, we are left with a clinical toolbelt packaged for a lay audience with a handful of Christian pull quotes. Albeit effective tools, they have an overall tendency of throwing the reader back upon themselves with new tools and a general sense that change only comes through acceptance of defenses that cannot be changed (p. 52), self-love (p. 167), and viewing others as a “pain-body” (p. 186).
There is no mention of Christ’s love by which we can love; forgiveness by which we forgive; His transforming work; His new-creation work; or His ongoing activity, presence, and voice in our lives by the Spirit. In my opinion, this is a heartbreaking miss.
I believe a more Christ-centered approach would only elevate material that already has merit on its own but ultimately leaves its readers to their own devices, even if those devices have been retooled to move closer to health. A book on open-heartedness from a Christian publishing house, in my reviewing opinion, missed the major movement for a minor one.
WHO IS THIS BOOK FOR?
Even with my Christ-centered gripe, I do believe this book has much to offer almost anyone willing to walk the journey toward health and freedom. Everyone experiences some sort of trigger and reactionary blind spot in life. This is a great book for growing in personal awareness and learning the rhythms of turning toward your pain rather than running away from it.
I would merely encourage you to listen for Christ’s voice and the guidance of the Spirit as you do so, allowing Him to lead and guide you along the way.
For anyone in pastoral care, spiritual direction, or counseling, there are remarkable tools to be learned here for helping others walk through pain and tension.
I thank Baker Publishing Group for the review copy of this book. All of the opinions expressed here are my honest reflections on the book.
STRENGTHS OF THE BOOK:
The book is set up in three distinct sections:
Part 1: Get Calm
Part 2: Get Free
Part 3: Get Connected
Flanagan does well to take the reader on a journey toward freedom through each of these sections, emphasizing that pain is an unavoidable part of the human experience, feelings are meant to be experienced, our past presses into our future, and boundaries can promote connection rather than distance. All of this is framed within the context of recognizing the condition of the heart, whether it is closed or open, and learning how to actively open your heart toward yourself, your past, and others.
Throughout the book, the reader is equipped with charts describing the various tendencies of closed or open-hearted relationships, as well as tools to self-assess, self-regulate, self-encourage, and respond to others rather than merely react to situations.
The tools, and specifically the questions that The Road Less Triggered offers, are quite sticky. I found the questions coming to mind in moments of tension, pain, and internal conflict. “This wouldn’t hurt so bad if it weren’t so similar to…” continuously sprang to mind during the week I was reading the book, as I was experiencing decisions in my office environment that affected me but were outside of my control. The tools helped trace the feelings I was experiencing beyond the current situation back to early experiences where I developed trigger responses.
The remarkable effectiveness of the book is that the tools are relatively simple yet carry a significant impact in helping you trace the sources of emotion, embrace emotions, fully experience the pain of an event, or establish clear boundaries that position you for open-hearted and healthy relationships rather than embattled, walled-off disconnection. Even in the short time since working through the book, I can tell you they are effective in helping regulate and respond in appropriate ways.
There is also a study guide for personal reflection and group discussion at the conclusion of the book.
MY CHALLENGES WITH THE BOOK:
My one complaint with the book (and for me, it is a significant challenge) is that it is marketed as a Christian Living book (even noted on the back cover) from a Baker Publishing division, and yet the person and work of Christ and His Spirit do not come up once in the book (aside from a pull quote from Thomas Merton on p. 187).
Instead, we are left with a clinical toolbelt packaged for a lay audience with a handful of Christian pull quotes. Albeit effective tools, they have an overall tendency of throwing the reader back upon themselves with new tools and a general sense that change only comes through acceptance of defenses that cannot be changed (p. 52), self-love (p. 167), and viewing others as a “pain-body” (p. 186).
There is no mention of Christ’s love by which we can love; forgiveness by which we forgive; His transforming work; His new-creation work; or His ongoing activity, presence, and voice in our lives by the Spirit. In my opinion, this is a heartbreaking miss.
I believe a more Christ-centered approach would only elevate material that already has merit on its own but ultimately leaves its readers to their own devices, even if those devices have been retooled to move closer to health. A book on open-heartedness from a Christian publishing house, in my reviewing opinion, missed the major movement for a minor one.
WHO IS THIS BOOK FOR?
Even with my Christ-centered gripe, I do believe this book has much to offer almost anyone willing to walk the journey toward health and freedom. Everyone experiences some sort of trigger and reactionary blind spot in life. This is a great book for growing in personal awareness and learning the rhythms of turning toward your pain rather than running away from it.
I would merely encourage you to listen for Christ’s voice and the guidance of the Spirit as you do so, allowing Him to lead and guide you along the way.
For anyone in pastoral care, spiritual direction, or counseling, there are remarkable tools to be learned here for helping others walk through pain and tension.
I thank Baker Publishing Group for the review copy of this book. All of the opinions expressed here are my honest reflections on the book.
March 3, 2026
Reading Kelly's first book Loveable helped me see how misaligned my sense of worth had become. After reading that book and spending four years doing internal work , I can now go deeper into Kelly's "Peaceful Pivot Process" and reap the benefits of calming my emotional barking dog so my wise owl can be heard. I have many years of practice ahead of me in order to make these choices habitual, but taking this journey with Kelly's guidance will bring about positive change, strengthening not only my external relationships but more importantly, my relationship with myself. Being reminded not to "pay attention to what's happening around" me but instead to "pay attention to what's tightening within" me ironically helps me approach my conflicts simultaneously in subjective and objective ways. With encouragement like, "You don't understand your way to feeling; you feel your way to understanding," I will walk this path toward a more practical way of living out my inner transformation of the heart by the Spirit of God, which aligns with my desire to follow the “fruit of the Spirit” passage of Galatians 5:16–25: “Walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh… But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control… Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.” In practical language, Kelly is helping me transform my inner being through re-framing. It's not control, but surrender. Not reaction, but Spirit-formed response. Not external management, but internal renewal. Not agenda, but love. For anyone else who seeks answers to the questions regarding HOW to bring about Spirit-led transformation, I suggest purchasing this book and embracing (which sometimes feels like wrestling with) its concepts. Your future self and relationships will thank you.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
Dr. Kelly Flanagan has had a profound impact in my life. His is a fabulous person, loving father and I imagine a wonderful husband but most importantly he is a consummate professional. He has grown and perfected his craft as a clinical psychologist. He is a gifted author who is full of wisdom in his quest for assisting his followers, friends and readers toward improving deeper more meaningful personal connections. The Road Less Triggered: Turning Conflict into Connection with a Single Choice is a book that is packed with ways in which we can connect with our hearts, openly, toward more meaningful and loving relationships. Relationships that many of us desire. Many of us struggle with patterns of behavior that are counter-intuitive toward open hearted relationship. The book will help the reader explore the instances of self sabotage and behaviors that lead to disconnection. Dr. Kelly's practical and pragmatic approach toward achieving more meaningful connection is so very relatable. His examples and experiences add wisdom that shines through with yet another fantastic book. His way of communicating by example has over the years been an amazing help in my journey as an open hearted and deeply loving person.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
I have been following Dr. Kelly Flanagan's writing for more than a decade, and in my opinion, this is his best book yet. Not only is the content helpful for anyone who finds themselves getting triggered by ... well ... almost anything, but especially by other humans, it also has *actionable* things to do, including charts, illustrations and more. There is a discussion guide at the end that is intended for groups, but I think the questions could also be good for my own introspection and understanding. There is a link at the bottom of page 200 to a website with many printable tools which I also found helpful.
I have begun to catch myself when my heart is closing in situations, and am understanding what needs to happen next. It's not a quick fix, but it will be lasting.
One of the things I like best about the content is that Dr. Flanagan is so relatable. He is honest about how this book came from a miserable 2020 and even beyond, and how the things he learned about his own sometimes-closed heart, including the steps he took to keep it open moment by moment, is endearing and inspiring. No plaster saint is he (you didn't think psychologist never have anything to work on in their own lives, did you?); you will smile and probably sigh, but if you follow the path, you will be changed.
I have begun to catch myself when my heart is closing in situations, and am understanding what needs to happen next. It's not a quick fix, but it will be lasting.
One of the things I like best about the content is that Dr. Flanagan is so relatable. He is honest about how this book came from a miserable 2020 and even beyond, and how the things he learned about his own sometimes-closed heart, including the steps he took to keep it open moment by moment, is endearing and inspiring. No plaster saint is he (you didn't think psychologist never have anything to work on in their own lives, did you?); you will smile and probably sigh, but if you follow the path, you will be changed.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
SO MANY AH HA MOMENTS
Prior to reading this book, I didn't understand why I would feel fine in one moment and have a strong, negative reaction in the next when someone would ask for one more thing or ask me to correct what I had done. Through the process outlined in this book such as Trace Your Triggers Through Time, I learned I wasn't reacting to the present moment but to past experiences. Now I can pause and choose to respond in a different manner.
This book is a must read if you would like to identify and change behavior patterns that no longer serve you or your relationships. Dr. Kelly's message is clearly written, including a process with easy to follow action steps and many clarifying examples.
Prior to reading this book, I didn't understand why I would feel fine in one moment and have a strong, negative reaction in the next when someone would ask for one more thing or ask me to correct what I had done. Through the process outlined in this book such as Trace Your Triggers Through Time, I learned I wasn't reacting to the present moment but to past experiences. Now I can pause and choose to respond in a different manner.
This book is a must read if you would like to identify and change behavior patterns that no longer serve you or your relationships. Dr. Kelly's message is clearly written, including a process with easy to follow action steps and many clarifying examples.
April 23, 2026
I enjoy reading Christian counseling books for personal growth, and this one is exceptional. Dr. Kelly Flanagan explains how conflict can lead to deep connection, using practical examples to consistently support his teaching. The book is broken up into 3 parts: get calm, get free, get connected, and focuses on how to have an open heart and be compassionate even in times of conflict. Flanagan is a strong writer and makes the content of this book memorable. I read through this book quickly because I could not put it down, but I will be returning to it to reread and process through at a slower pace over time.
I received a copy of this book from the publisher. My review reflects my honest opinion.
I received a copy of this book from the publisher. My review reflects my honest opinion.
Review of advance copy received from Author
SO many "Ah-ha" moments!
"Control is weakness masquerading as strength; power is strength accepting its weakness."
Understanding that quote has been a revelation to me. Understanding that I have a choice between conflict or connection with the tools in this book is a road I want to be on.
This is not your typical self-help book. It's transparent, wise, funny, and thought-provoking. Dr. Kelly is a man of faith and character. He writes from experience, both his own and as a practitioner with many years of helping people find their way along life's bumpy roads. I personally found it not just enlightening; there are things in Dr. Kelly's writing that stop you in your tracks and make you re-read a line you just read. To me, that's the mark of a great writer.
"Control is weakness masquerading as strength; power is strength accepting its weakness."
Understanding that quote has been a revelation to me. Understanding that I have a choice between conflict or connection with the tools in this book is a road I want to be on.
This is not your typical self-help book. It's transparent, wise, funny, and thought-provoking. Dr. Kelly is a man of faith and character. He writes from experience, both his own and as a practitioner with many years of helping people find their way along life's bumpy roads. I personally found it not just enlightening; there are things in Dr. Kelly's writing that stop you in your tracks and make you re-read a line you just read. To me, that's the mark of a great writer.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
This book was the play book I followed to restore one my most important relationships. I was struggling to maintain any semblance of harmony with my 12 year old son. Surviving our daily conflicts was the best we could hope for. Today, after reading, integrating and applying what I learned in this book, our relationship is stronger than it's ever been. Not perfect but we are well past surviving. I'd describe us as thriving more often than not.
And the best part is, all my other relationships (even the ones I would have categorized as fairly healthy) have improved too. This is a must read for anyone who has relationships that they want to improve.
And the best part is, all my other relationships (even the ones I would have categorized as fairly healthy) have improved too. This is a must read for anyone who has relationships that they want to improve.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
Communicate for Connection
As described in this book, I would “close my communication toolbox” at just the moment I needed to keep it open. I'm someone who tends to shut down and avoid facing my feelings, but thanks to the book’s “Peaceful Pivot Process,” I’m learning to notice and identify what is going on with me internally BEFORE conflict with someone occurs, keep my “toolbox” and my heart open, and stay in the right frame of mind to communicate for positive connection. It is making a real difference in my life. If you want clear steps to better communicate with people, especially when you sense conflict coming, this book is for you.
As described in this book, I would “close my communication toolbox” at just the moment I needed to keep it open. I'm someone who tends to shut down and avoid facing my feelings, but thanks to the book’s “Peaceful Pivot Process,” I’m learning to notice and identify what is going on with me internally BEFORE conflict with someone occurs, keep my “toolbox” and my heart open, and stay in the right frame of mind to communicate for positive connection. It is making a real difference in my life. If you want clear steps to better communicate with people, especially when you sense conflict coming, this book is for you.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
While reading "The Road Less Triggered" by Author Dr. Kelly Flanagan. I found myself wondering how someone could take topics that people have always struggled with and make them clear. The advanced understanding is evident through the simplified terminology. It is the work of an expert masterfully written to provide guidance that the laymen can easily apply to their own lives and relationships.
Disclaimer: I received an e-copy ARC from the publisher in exchange for my honest review. No positive review was required. All opinions are my own.
Disclaimer: I received an e-copy ARC from the publisher in exchange for my honest review. No positive review was required. All opinions are my own.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
Change Yourself, and the World Changes Around You
Too often we wish someone else would “be different” and react with a closed heart when there is relational friction. This book provides both insight and practical application to help you understand yourself in new ways and show up to interactions with a novel roadmap for navigating any terrain. You’ll improve not only relationships with those closest to you, but with all your day-to-day human connections. This is for anyone who wants a true return on the time they spend to improve their well-being.
Too often we wish someone else would “be different” and react with a closed heart when there is relational friction. This book provides both insight and practical application to help you understand yourself in new ways and show up to interactions with a novel roadmap for navigating any terrain. You’ll improve not only relationships with those closest to you, but with all your day-to-day human connections. This is for anyone who wants a true return on the time they spend to improve their well-being.
Review of advance copy received from Author
A Book that will Resonate Deeply with your Heart
I’m gifting this book to my adult children, nieces, and nephews. Why? Because I believe this book has so much insight and practical application, they will undoubtedly find a nugget that helps them in their marriages, child-rearing, work, and friendships. The writing style is beautiful, and the book is engaging, so I know they won’t be bored with it in 2 seconds. I’d recommend this book to anyone who wants to improve their relationship journey.
I’m gifting this book to my adult children, nieces, and nephews. Why? Because I believe this book has so much insight and practical application, they will undoubtedly find a nugget that helps them in their marriages, child-rearing, work, and friendships. The writing style is beautiful, and the book is engaging, so I know they won’t be bored with it in 2 seconds. I’d recommend this book to anyone who wants to improve their relationship journey.
March 3, 2026
So many of our relational conflicts appear to be on a 'rinse and repeat' cycle. And, too often, shame and resentment shadow these conflicts. Dr. Kelly Flanagan gently helps us take the journey inward, learning to take a pause, see our pain rather than blame, and offers a choice point for navigating relational conflict. I have been a Developmental Psychologist for many years and this book is the most compelling roadmap for transforming developmental pain into open-hearted growth and wise boundary setting than I have ever read. I can't recommend it highly enough!
April 26, 2026
This book had me experiencing so many different emotions. Sometimes reading a sentence just made me squint my eyes and just stare at the wall for a while. Sometimes it would make me shake my head in awe of how Dr. Flanagan seamlessly makes these seemingly-abstract ideas easily understandable. Of course there were parts that made me cry, particularly the parts where the techniques were being applied. Then there were times that i laughed just because of all of the vulnerability in the stories. I am so grateful I picked up this book and I am so excited to practice what I have learned
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
Kelly Flanagan generously shares his own open and closed heart with the reader, through easily relatable life experiences, applying his Peaceful Pivot Process to any triggering encounter. I learned so much about how to bring awareness and compassion to myself and another... all the while staying connected! The effects from practicing these techniques in my life have been nothing short of astounding.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
I've read a pre-release copy of _The Road Less Triggered_ and it's eye (and heart) opening. If you have found yourself trapped in repeating reactive loops, Dr. Kelly Flannagan's _The Road Less Triggered_ walks through a very accessible map to being able to respond rather than react to the people and events in your life. In some ways, this book is the backstory going on throughout his earlier book _The Unhiding of Elijah Campbell_.
Review of advance copy received from Author
I have tried to control my triggers and avoid triggering others for as long as I can remember. Dr Kelly Flanagan’s newest book, The Road Less Triggered, has unlocked the door to “turning conflict [within oneself and with others] into connection”. He masterfully blends his research, storytelling and application exercises in one book that can help you on your journey to get calm, to get free from the terror of triggers and have more openhearted relationships too.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
Man oh man...there are parts that made me cry. There's so much converging for me personally right now around the patterns in our emotions, the habits we create to stay safe and really slowing down to pay attention and learning to respond rather than react. The Road Less Triggered has the blueprint for this and so much more!
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
I was an eggshell walker deeply afraid of conflict in my marriage. Using the teachings in this book helped me learn to live life with an open heart so I could transform my triggers into turning points. If it is true that your triggers are your teacher, that makes Kelly Flanagan and this new book a sacred guide to the freedom and renewed connections that can come from understanding them.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
I thought being consistently calm with myself and others was unattainable for me. This book taught me”When you can welcome what’s inside you forever, you can work with what comes out of you today.” Through real-life stories and practical tools, it helped me learn to stay calm, so I can show up more truly connected with others.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
In an emotionally heated era, many find it hard to love their neighbor. The Road Less Triggered offers a simple path to an open heart. For anyone struggling to care well for others while still caring well for themselves, this book is a game changer.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
I was afraid to feel joy; I didn't even know that was the case. The Peaceful Pivot Process helped me to feel my way to understanding. If you want meaningful steps to follow that will bring joy back into your life, then this is the book for you.
April 8, 2026
Kelly does a great job tackling a difficult subject and breaking down the issues to easily understandable concepts. I've worked one on one with Kelly for several years and I will attest to him being the real deal and this stuff actually works if you're willing to put in the time.
April 29, 2026
This book has practical guidance for dealing with personal as well as interpersonal issues. I highly recommend it for anyone struggling with accepting who they are or the circumstances of their life. We may not be able to rid ourselves of conflict, but we can change the way we face and handle it.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
Poetic and Pragmatic
I have felt exhausted from being stuck in the same patterns of reactivity. The step-by-step process in this book helped me first of all see and accept those patterns, and then gave me a roadmap for working with them. It's also beautifully readable, speaking to my heart with deeply personal stories, while inviting me to apply these insights to my own growth. If you've felt stuck (and really, who hasn't?) I invite you to check it out. If you want to sample Dr. Kelly Flanagan's writing first to see if it's for you, you can read a ton for free at his website or on Substack.
I have felt exhausted from being stuck in the same patterns of reactivity. The step-by-step process in this book helped me first of all see and accept those patterns, and then gave me a roadmap for working with them. It's also beautifully readable, speaking to my heart with deeply personal stories, while inviting me to apply these insights to my own growth. If you've felt stuck (and really, who hasn't?) I invite you to check it out. If you want to sample Dr. Kelly Flanagan's writing first to see if it's for you, you can read a ton for free at his website or on Substack.
March 28, 2026
Wow!
A must-read, powerful guide to living with an open heart and choosing connection and compassion with intention.
A must-read, powerful guide to living with an open heart and choosing connection and compassion with intention.
April 30, 2026
Life changing understandings!!
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