Pleasure, Please!: The Black Woman's Guide to Unapologetic Pleasure and Confidence

by Ashley K. Cobb

A fun, exciting, and informative guide to sexual health, wellness, and pleasure for women of color

In Pleasure, Please! The Black Woman's Guide to Unapologetic Pleasure and Confidence, certified sex educator Ashley Cobb delivers a comprehensive and empowering new exploration of sexual wellness for women of color (and especially Black women). Cobb draws on her extensive experience and expertise in women's health, sexuality, and activism to walk you through everything from individual empowerment to effective ways to confront and overcome the barriers and stigma that Black women face.

You'll discover expert advice interwoven with real stories from real women who have been in your shoes and dealt with the same issues you deal with every day. You'll also find answers to the questions women most frequently ask the author to answer, as well as crystal-clear, informative guidance you can apply in your own life and relationships to help you make your life better now.

Pleasure, Please! also

Tips and advice on self-love, body positivity, and improving your sense of sexual agency Techniques for pleasure and self-exploration to help you enhance your sexual pleasure and explore what you desire–and how to best satisfy those desires Specific guidance for navigating the unique sexual health and pleasure challenges that Black women often face Perfect for all women of color who want to improve their sexual health and get more fulfillment, enjoyment, and pleasure from their bodies, Pleasure, Please! is also an essential listen for the partners of those women who want to help and support their partners' sex education and body positivity.

256 pages, Paperback

Published February 17, 2026

Reviews

[Gabrielle]

I have followed Ashley Cobb (@sexwithashley) on Instagram for years and always thought she gave sound sexual health recommendations to Black women so I was happy to support by purchasing her book. I love the format of an encyclopedia of different sex and sexual health topics with lots of information and even pictures! I was not expecting to get the vignettes for each chapter with stories from Ashley or her clients (anonymously) to further a concept. (Who knew she she was in a purity cult! I completely missed that!) I especially think this book will be helpful for women who grew up as "church girls" or "good girls" and came later to sexual experiences and hands-on education. Every Black woman or any person who loves or has sex with Black women should read this book. The one critique, if any, is while the book says it is really for anyone, I do think it leans heavily towards heterosexual Black women. Highly recommended.

[Gabrielle]

I thought the book overall was great. I took plenty of annotated notes. I loved that the book was black woman centered. I would recommending reading any book that she writes. Finished this book in less than a week. Also, I recommend buying this book and keeping it in your personal book collection because there were so many great tips and ideas shared throughout the book.

[G]

Yes p!ease!

Pleasure for Black women? Yes please! This is a good started book for woman interested in leaning into their sexuality which every woman who wants it deserves. The main thing missing is discussion of lesbian and bi issues but it's a pretty good overview otherwise.

[Devin Shuman]

A good basic book on the topic