Tantrums!: Managing Meltdowns in Public and Private

by Thomas W. Phelan

A straightforward approach to managing tantrums.

 

Noting that of all the behavioral problems parents face from their children, temper tantrums may be the most upsetting, this handbook arms confused and frustrated parents with simple, easy-to-follow directions on how to best manage the problem and guide kids appropriately. Readers will learn the three main causes of temper tantrums, the true power of the "10-Second Rule," the anatomy of a typical tantrum, and the chief problems with attempting to reason with or distract a child. A sound and effective tantrum-management plan is critical to the well being of everyone in the family, and this book details an effortless four-step process for marshalling tantrums as well as guidance on how to handle dreaded tantrums in public places, allowing parents to no longer fear tantrums and regain control of their own homes.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Adult

100 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2014

Reviews

[Botezatu Mihaela Alexandra · Rating 2 out of 5]

Am terminat această carte și, din păcate, nu am rezonat aproape deloc cu părerile autorului. Mă așteptam să găsesc în ea ceva revelator, ceva care să ajute dar m-am tot lovit de ideea că, atunci când care un tantrum, copilul trebuie oarecum ignorat... Refuz să cred că asta ar fi soluția sau că astfel trebuie să privim lucrurile ...

[Laurie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Very quick read. Slightly disappointing. Nothing I haven’t already learned on the job. Basically, ignore the tantrum and avoid reasoning with your child. Most helpful part was the introduction. 20% of 2 and 3 year old have a tantrum every day. Your child is not mentally ill- they are highly focused on their goal. Tantrums are a normal response to good parenting. And it takes longer for the parents to recover from meltdowns than the child. I thought it was funny there was a section on how not to get reported to CPS 😂 Act like you know what you’re doing and you’ll be fine. You’re doing a good job, Momma.

[Jill · Rating 2 out of 5]

Nothing new compared to 123 Magic.

[Lauren Duffy · Rating 3 out of 5]

A very quick read. I have previously read another book by the author and I liked the layout of this book and found the information straight forward and helpful. I will be able to start implementing the parenting techniques immediately.

[Elizabeth A · Rating 2 out of 5]

I can't imagine what Daniel Siegel would have to say about this book. It does not follow attachment/attuned parenting whatsoever. Our pediatrician recommended this book which is why I read it. I may try some steps but will not be locking myself in the bathroom.....

[Kelley - rva_reader · Rating 3 out of 5]

A really quick read that probably could have just been a one page handout. I liked the examples and pictures but there wasn’t a whole lot to it. Basically, when your kid is having a tantrum, just ignore them, which is easier said than done, especially when out in public.

[Jemmie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Informative and short. Please stop reasoning with your screaming toddler, lord!

[Cathy · Rating 3 out of 5]

Quick easy read. Nicely laid out. I’m terrible at this though I hate ignoring my kids. Prob why I’m a crappy parent

[Klee · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great advice and strategies

New parents should read this book. It is a practical explanation about how to handle tantrums. Also, refer to the Love and Logic website.

[KellyAnn · Rating 2 out of 5]

I really enjoyed 123 Magic and found it super helpful but this tantrums book was essentially a reminder of things from the original. I would suggest skipping this and go straight to the full 123 magic book

[Karen · Rating 2 out of 5]

Purchased this for our parenting collection. Most of the information seems to be helpful however you have to dig to find it. Not really a fan of the comic nature of the book. Specifically almost had my own meltdown on page 68..(Question)...What if they keep pleading or follow me around screaming?...(Answer) .Lock yourself in the bathroom..........REALLY. Well I tried some deep breathing and got past this page.

[Lorna · Rating 4 out of 5]

A brief, practical guide to the best way to respond to a tantrum. Lots of comics-style illustrations make for fast and easy reading (perfect for the harried parent who lacks much time to read). The advice is basically to ignore the tantrum. Responding to the tantrum only makes things worse. Helpful, but nothing most parents haven't already heard or learned on the job.

[Robin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Clear and concise with cartoons. It would have been nice to have more examples of effective consequences for different ages and how to safely disengage when your child is physically attacking you. Recommended, but we will see if it is effective.

[Renee · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really quick read with common sense strategies that you can easily implement. Spells the problem and remedy out in plain english without the extraneous psycho-babble of many parenting books!

[Nicholette · Rating 4 out of 5]

I got a 90% on the final exam! Not having a toddler just yet, I do feel mentally prepared to handle tantrums with a healthy outcome. We will see when I actually have a toddler with actual tantrums!

[Kari · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very helpful and easy to incorporate. The 1-2-3 Magic really does work.

[Laura LeAnn · Rating 4 out of 5]

A very simple read that pulls out the section on tantrums from the 1-2-3 Magic book written by the same author. The comic nature of the book helped my husband want to read the book. For me, the book helped explain the reason for tantrum behavior, how to not feed into it and make it worse, and the ultimate goals of my child in having a tantrum. Knowing those things, I feel better prepared to respond when he has another tantrum.