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Burning Up, Frozen Out
Let's be most men feel completely unprepared for the menopause. And it can come at you fast. One moment, life feels normal. The next, everything's changed - her mood, her sleep, her energy, your connection. You want to help, but you don't know how - and you're worried you'll only make things worse. Sound familiar? You're not alone. But it's time to stop guessing - and start getting it right.
Burning Up, Frozen Out is the first practical, expert-led guide to perimenopause written specifically for men. It's not about fixing her - it's about understanding what's really going on, learning what helps, and becoming the partner who shows up when she needs you most. Clear, compassionate and refreshingly straightforward, it demystifies the science, explains the symptoms, and gives you the tools to navigate everything from hot flushes and hormone therapy to stress, sleep, sex and communication - without putting your foot in it. Again.
But it's not just about her - men go through big changes in midlife too. You'll also learn what's happening with you - hormonally, physically, emotionally - and get science-backed advice on sleep, stress, food and fitness to help you both build a fitter, happier, healthier future together.
Written by award-winning authors Joe Warner and Rob Kemp, and packed with insights from world-leading experts including Dr Louise Newson, Dr Stacy Sims and Dr Kelly Casperson, Burning Up, Frozen Out will give you the clarity, confidence and game plan for getting through menopause together - more connected and better prepared for whatever life throws at you.
Burning Up, Frozen Out is the first practical, expert-led guide to perimenopause written specifically for men. It's not about fixing her - it's about understanding what's really going on, learning what helps, and becoming the partner who shows up when she needs you most. Clear, compassionate and refreshingly straightforward, it demystifies the science, explains the symptoms, and gives you the tools to navigate everything from hot flushes and hormone therapy to stress, sleep, sex and communication - without putting your foot in it. Again.
But it's not just about her - men go through big changes in midlife too. You'll also learn what's happening with you - hormonally, physically, emotionally - and get science-backed advice on sleep, stress, food and fitness to help you both build a fitter, happier, healthier future together.
Written by award-winning authors Joe Warner and Rob Kemp, and packed with insights from world-leading experts including Dr Louise Newson, Dr Stacy Sims and Dr Kelly Casperson, Burning Up, Frozen Out will give you the clarity, confidence and game plan for getting through menopause together - more connected and better prepared for whatever life throws at you.
224 pages, Paperback
Published March 24, 2026
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April 14, 2026
On the one hand, wow! Most WOMEN I know don’t have adequate information on menopause and now we even have a book for men to understand it? Awesome! On the other hand, good luck getting most men to read this book…? But I hope they do. This book covers a ton of ground and I even learned a lot, even though I’m well into menopause. So this book might even be great if you’re a woman, and then leave it laying around, who knows? The books sections are Knowledge, Communication and Power, with really practical information. Menopause is a topic that needs a LOT more exposure, so I’m happy this book is out there.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
Thank you, gentlemen!! I can not wait to buy a copy of this for my husband!
It's funny and totally relatable. I found myself laughing constantly throughout it! It covers hormones, the stages, and types of menopause. It has easy-to-read lists of perimenopause symptoms, and then breaks each one down into what it feels like for the woman, what causes it, and what makes it worse and better, which I found super understandable. It breaks down symptoms, giving each of them a "Smoking Gun" score, which I found really cute, too!
Lots of beautiful messages throughout, as a perimenopausal woman, I want to plaster messages from this book all over my house for my husband to read! <3
It goes on to talk about how men can learn to "reframe their reactions," a section I really enjoyed. Plus, it has a whole "OK, but what about me" section for men, which talks about what they are going through at this time too. Low testosterone in men, how to help if he's lost his libido, and how "sorting yourself is the first step to supporting her better." All great topics.
Some further chapters cover communication and how to support her when dealing with doctors. I will say that I found this section helpful, even though it was UK-based and I'm in the US.
It covers sleep, mental health, nutrition, supplements, and working out. It even shares some strength training workouts and prompts him to empower and support her in her training - everything I would wish my husband would learn more about. And if it's ever going to happen, I could see this book actually grabbing his interest!
Last, but surely not least, it talks about sex and how it changes and what exactly we (as women) may be dealing with. And then it attempts to reframe their view, which I absolutely loved reading.
A fabulous resource for men and one I will absolutely be recommending across all of my menopause platforms!! THIS is what we need more of, so THANK YOU!!
It's funny and totally relatable. I found myself laughing constantly throughout it! It covers hormones, the stages, and types of menopause. It has easy-to-read lists of perimenopause symptoms, and then breaks each one down into what it feels like for the woman, what causes it, and what makes it worse and better, which I found super understandable. It breaks down symptoms, giving each of them a "Smoking Gun" score, which I found really cute, too!
Lots of beautiful messages throughout, as a perimenopausal woman, I want to plaster messages from this book all over my house for my husband to read! <3
It goes on to talk about how men can learn to "reframe their reactions," a section I really enjoyed. Plus, it has a whole "OK, but what about me" section for men, which talks about what they are going through at this time too. Low testosterone in men, how to help if he's lost his libido, and how "sorting yourself is the first step to supporting her better." All great topics.
Some further chapters cover communication and how to support her when dealing with doctors. I will say that I found this section helpful, even though it was UK-based and I'm in the US.
It covers sleep, mental health, nutrition, supplements, and working out. It even shares some strength training workouts and prompts him to empower and support her in her training - everything I would wish my husband would learn more about. And if it's ever going to happen, I could see this book actually grabbing his interest!
Last, but surely not least, it talks about sex and how it changes and what exactly we (as women) may be dealing with. And then it attempts to reframe their view, which I absolutely loved reading.
A fabulous resource for men and one I will absolutely be recommending across all of my menopause platforms!! THIS is what we need more of, so THANK YOU!!
June 2, 2026
Me parece un libro totalmente interesante porque aunque sea joven, creo que es importante que todo mundo conozca los sintomas, tanto hombres como mujeres y que muchos de los sintomas quizas los hemos escuchado en nuestros padres y ni siquiera sepamos que es la perimenopausia. Y algunas mujeres comienzan a finales de los 30 y otras comienzan mucho despues. Sintomas de los cuales pueden ser inclusive ojos secos, sensibilidad a la luz, cambio de olor corporal, estreñimiento, entre muchos otros, los cuales desconocemos porque existe una magnitud de ignorancia dentro de este tema que se vive y que se vivira con mayor incremento debido a que la población esta envejeciendo y es una etapa natural del cuerpo de nosotras las mujeres. Aprendi demasiado y sin duda lo recomiendo muchisimo porque en serio, necesita haber mas educacion sobre este tipo de tema. Curiosamente el autor nos menciona que apenas comenzaron a abordar la educacion en Reino Unido pero en Estados Unidos aun no comienza, y yo, desde la perspectiva de una mexicana, tampoco en mi país existe mucha educacion sobre este tema. Sin duda lo recomiendo demasiado y lo recomendare aun mas a mi circulo cercano. Necesitamos mas educacion y mas libros de este tipo. Mil gracias a Netgalley por este ARC a cambio de una reseña honesta
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
I read Burning Up, Frozen Out while breastfeeding my third child. As a female, not yet in menopause, this book feels like the holy grail to marriage. I’m buying multiple copies for my husband, brothers and to keep on hand to hand out when needed.
The writing style is perfect for a self-help read; meaning no jargon, lots of real world/applicable examples and lots of options.
As an academic, I was really impressed with the citations. I was discussing the HRT chapter to my mom (65+ female) who was hell bent on HRT causing breast cancer. This research discusses why that 2002 study suggested that and the evolution of HRT from then to now. Without this read, I could have easily followed my mom’s generation of “white knuckling” menopause and leaving a wake of destruction with my loved ones. I feel very empowered after this read and look forward to sharing this book with male and female loved ones in my life. Thank you to the authors Joe Warner and Rob Kemp for this work. I am ever grateful for your courage to pursue your research. Hats off to you!
The writing style is perfect for a self-help read; meaning no jargon, lots of real world/applicable examples and lots of options.
As an academic, I was really impressed with the citations. I was discussing the HRT chapter to my mom (65+ female) who was hell bent on HRT causing breast cancer. This research discusses why that 2002 study suggested that and the evolution of HRT from then to now. Without this read, I could have easily followed my mom’s generation of “white knuckling” menopause and leaving a wake of destruction with my loved ones. I feel very empowered after this read and look forward to sharing this book with male and female loved ones in my life. Thank you to the authors Joe Warner and Rob Kemp for this work. I am ever grateful for your courage to pursue your research. Hats off to you!
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
I read this book because I am currently a Pelvic floor therapist and I wanted to learn more about Menopause and how to teach my patient's how to tell their partners about it. I don't know if it was the format of it by reading it on my kindle verses on the Netgalley app but I did not like how the chapters and pages were formatted. I thought the information was good and that she had a lot of resources and referred to a lot of various books on menopause. I thought the information was helpful but I also felt like I was reading for myself as female rather then as a partner. The author did refer to the partner frequently but as I was reading it, I was thinking it was directed at me as a female rather then the male or partner "counterpart." I think this is a good book if you want information on menopause and what's going on in your head, body, and physically and mentally.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
This book intrigued me as there is so much I myself still don’t understand and am learning about how menopause will impact me and, in turn, those around me.
This book is well written and accessible to men especially as they help their partners through menopause. Women have long struggled through this transition alone and in silence and I think it’s wonderful how this book includes men in the conversation who are often our biggest support system.
I think this book is an excellent read for men and women alike.
This book is well written and accessible to men especially as they help their partners through menopause. Women have long struggled through this transition alone and in silence and I think it’s wonderful how this book includes men in the conversation who are often our biggest support system.
I think this book is an excellent read for men and women alike.
Review of advance copy received from Netgalley
I read Burning Up, Frozen Out while breastfeeding my third child. As a female, not yet in menopause, this book feels like the holy grail to marriage. I’m buying multiple copies for my husband, brothers and to keep on hand to hand out when needed.
The writing style is perfect for a self-help read; meaning no jargon, lots of real world/applicable examples and lots of options.
As an academic, I was really impressed with the citations. I was discussing the HRT chapter to my mom (65+ female) who was hell bent on HRT causing breast cancer. This research discusses why that 2002 study suggested that and the evolution of HRT from then to now. Without this read, I could have easily followed my mom’s generation of “white knuckling” menopause and leaving a wake of destruction with my loved ones. I feel very empowered after this read and look forward to sharing this book with male and female loved ones in my life. Thank you to the authors Joe Warner and Rob Kemp for this work. I am ever grateful for your courage to pursue your research. Hats off to you!
The writing style is perfect for a self-help read; meaning no jargon, lots of real world/applicable examples and lots of options.
As an academic, I was really impressed with the citations. I was discussing the HRT chapter to my mom (65+ female) who was hell bent on HRT causing breast cancer. This research discusses why that 2002 study suggested that and the evolution of HRT from then to now. Without this read, I could have easily followed my mom’s generation of “white knuckling” menopause and leaving a wake of destruction with my loved ones. I feel very empowered after this read and look forward to sharing this book with male and female loved ones in my life. Thank you to the authors Joe Warner and Rob Kemp for this work. I am ever grateful for your courage to pursue your research. Hats off to you!
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