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CU Love & Respect Book & Workbook 2 in 1: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs
Based upon Ephesians 5:33 and extensive biblical and psychological research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs reveals the power of unconditional love and unconditional respect and how husbands and wives can reap the benefits of marriage that God intended. **Also includes the Workbook.**
501 pages, Kindle Edition
First published September 22, 2010
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October 30, 2014
Good concept. But this really should have been an essay, and not a book. At the most, it should have had 10 chapters. I am dying by Chapter 7, because all of his chapters have the same pattern so far: 1/2 of the chapter is emails/anecdotes from former clients/couples he has counseled; the other half is telling people that men have to unconditionally love their wives, and women have to unconditionally respect their husbands in different combinations of words. It's almost torturous to read.
My advice: Read the first few chapters to get the gist, then skip around to the parts that you think will be useful/practical.
My advice: Read the first few chapters to get the gist, then skip around to the parts that you think will be useful/practical.
June 19, 2015
There are just much better books on marriage out there.
April 4, 2020
This was an informative, fast moving read from a pastor/author who has been helping couples for at least a couple of decades. The message is husbands love your wives and wives respect your husbands. And the book takes off from there. Husbands and wives desires differ in a marriage and it's easy to misinterpret, not care after a few years, or just not get it. Lots of lessons, personal stories that make you think and dig deeper to learn how to love/respect each other more intentionally. I will come out of it with a stronger, more communicative marriage and that's the goal.
May 10, 2015
you can be right but wrong at the top of your voice, St Paul unconditional, the crazy cycle, stepping on air hose, gauge behavior by that desired for son daughter, mutual understanding in need for love and respect, love is choice commitment, rebound and go after again, hear the cry and respond with unconditional love, cleave the first year, affectionate every day, no bitter harsh, need someone to listen, getting historic, fools rush in where angels fear to tread, worth and respect in job, people as good willed or not as lead, servant to the Lord, crisis of faith.
April 24, 2015
Review coming soon.
September 27, 2018
I am so amaze that this book knows so much about the behaviours we depict. I'm so totally sold! Now I have to keep practising these suggestions so that my wife and I don't end up on the crazy cycle. This teachings should be the basis for any couple who plans to get married.
April 2, 2022
Boring. Couldn’t complete
July 17, 2024
Poignant and practical. They put words to a lot of what I had been feeling but didn’t know how to say.
March 8, 2017
Very good, borderline revolutionary way to look at how we "Love Each Other" by explaining how the different genders view it. Even if you don't hold the same religious views (author is vocal Christian, and uses Biblical passages in his arguments) the principles are very good for helping a marriage as the genders interact and view the concepts of "Love" differently.
January 9, 2016
This book was good to me because we had a married couple Bible study with Emerson's videos. I kept thinking "Is this guy for real?" I bought the book after Emerson said something outrageous on the video about evolution, the "subversive use of adderall to control men" and feminists. I knew a Bible study with other couples was good for us, but I wanted to quit because Eggerichs was including so much other unrelated religious "propaganda". The book is decent. It is soundly written grammatically and it is a good reminder to be respectful of tongue and tone, but Eggerichs just gets it wrong for women. I'm sure a man wouldn't mind if his wife behaves as Eggerichs suggests, but his philosophy for a woman is just kind of soul killing (in my opinion). I forced myself to read the whole thing thinking "I'm going to be a better wife, I'm going to be a better wife." I probably am a better wife after reading it, and I probably do understand my husband better, but there are just better marriage books out there. It is important to respect and love, and it is good to go about a Biblical approach to marriage, but as a woman, I just felt that Eggerichs didn't have a flexible understanding of a woman's nature or her heart. He is a rigid thinker, analytical, and perhaps a little jaded from his childhood experiences. He doesn't seem to love the idea of women with a joyful heart. Obedience and respect are good, but they aren't the resonance of a woman's being. Worth the read in a social Bible study setting or as the fifth attempt in line to improve your marriage, but I never would have read this on my own and it certainly hasn't been the most helpful thing in my marriage.
February 14, 2012
This book is worth reading for anyone. Yes, it has cheesy parts and it sometimes seems written for a caveman audience but the author did not start out as a writer, so be forgiving. The first section is continual self promotion for the book but skip it or skim through it quickly (unless you still need to be sold on why you should read the book further). The part that is most effective is where the author finally spells out how to love and respect your spouse.
We both agree that this book has helped us to understand each other better and pinpoint exactly what we want or feel is missing instead of just complaining that we are not happy. I've read many books and completed many group studies on relationships and this is the most all-encompassing for improving communication and sense of connection.
We both agree that this book has helped us to understand each other better and pinpoint exactly what we want or feel is missing instead of just complaining that we are not happy. I've read many books and completed many group studies on relationships and this is the most all-encompassing for improving communication and sense of connection.
February 20, 2012
We are reading this book together as a young marrieds group of 7-8 couples. We tried using the workbook together but eventually stopped. Honest sharing and confession is the better route - and choosing to discuss one main thought per chapter. This workbook is not necessary and again, it comes across as self-promoting. The book is good material for counseling though. Take it one chapter at a time and spread it over a year - that way you don't get tired of hearing the same message again and again.
May 9, 2015
Wow. And Ouch. This book is completely politically INcorrect, but IS unapologetically biblical. We've been so programed by society to obsess over our RIGHT to be happy, what we DESERVE. I myself, have expressed disgust at our entitled generation, never dreaming that I had also fallen victim of this mentality as well. I felt myself being convicted over and over again. This book will change your marriage.
October 16, 2014
My wife and I have been really enjoying the book, but have found the workbook wordy and it feals as though we are reading the book a second time was we work through this guide. "Not a workbook for the easily swayed or faint of heart reader...
July 28, 2014
Some practical advice, but it was very, very, VERY sexist. It was annoying because I felt like a lot of traits he used to describe each sex was the opposite for my marriage.
We did the video series with the workbook and those were torture to watch for the most part.
We did the video series with the workbook and those were torture to watch for the most part.
September 16, 2012
Good principles in this book, but I didn't agree with everything.
June 7, 2011
everyone in a relationship, married or not MUST READ.
December 3, 2011
I haven't finished reading... but the author seems to put the burden primarily on the wives' shoulders. Really, a man SHOULD keep up his end to earn his partner's respect.
September 22, 2014
Excellent book with a life changing message.
May 30, 2013
This was an awesome book filled with great advice on how to try and have a happy marriage. With some humor also. Loved this book.
August 7, 2013
Recommended by a friend. Hits the nail on the head.
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September 6, 2015I can't say...
I didn't finish.
it's been by my bedside for the longest time.
I'm not a non-fiction reader, I guess...
I didn't finish.
it's been by my bedside for the longest time.
I'm not a non-fiction reader, I guess...
May 8, 2016
It is a good companion to the book. It got us talking, and I think that was the point. Some of it might seem silly or to simple but it is worth doing with your spouse or spouse to be.
March 4, 2019
Good questions for discussion.
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