How We Relate: A Psychologist’s Guide to Building and Maintaining Good Relationships

by Dr Ahona Guha

Understanding relationships isn’t just about other people―it starts with understanding yourself and where you've come from.

In How We Relate, clinical and forensic psychologist Dr Ahona Guha takes us on an illuminating journey through the psychology of human connection. Drawing from her many years of clinical experience, she reveals how our earliest relationships shape every connection we form―from family and friendships to romance and work.

How do childhood blueprints influence adult behaviors? Why do some friendships fail while others flourish? What makes the difference between healthy and toxic dynamics? With warmth and practical insight, Guha explores the hidden patterns that govern our interactions, offering concrete strategies for breaking free from destructive cycles.

Whether you’re struggling with difficult family members, navigating workplace politics, or seeking deeper intimacy in love, this book provides the psychological tools to understand yourself and transform your relationships. How We Relate is your guide to building the meaningful connections you deserve.

Genres: Psychology

320 pages, Paperback

Published July 7, 2026

Reviews

[cursedb]

I came across this book completely by coincidence, and I’m so glad I did. I ended up finishing it in one sitting. If you’re interested in psychology, especially attachment theory and the ways our childhood experiences and relationships with our parents shape who we become, I highly recommend giving this book a try. There are countless books on these topics, but not all of them are approachable. What I appreciated most about this one was how accessible it felt. It explains complex psychological concepts in a clear, engaging way without overwhelming the reader with excessive jargon or technical terminology. Even though I’ve read quite a few books on attachment and childhood development, I still came away with new insights. That’s not something I can say very often. I’m honestly surprised this book doesn’t have more reviews because it deserves far more attention. I really hope it finds the audience it’s written for, because I think many people could learn something valuable from it.

[VinitaF]

I went to a talk with the author as part of the Sydney Writers festival.
I’ve always had an interest in psychology.
This book gives you an easy access to self reflection and a balanced view of others around you. It supports understanding over knowledge and focuses on areas of our lives such as work, family, family of origin allowing us to explore different domains to bring it together. I think the reflective exercises would be particularly useful to anyone wanting to get more out of reading this book.

[astrid bee]

love all of ahona’s books, so good for gen pop and also clinicians

[Carly Dober]

What can’t she do etc