How To Identify and Change Your Twisted Beliefs

by Barry K. Weinhold

Do you remember how you felt when you found out that your belief in Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny or the Tooth Fairy was not true? I felt conflicted because I liked all the gifts that came with the lie. This is like Woody Allen saying that his uncle thought he was a chicken, but they didn’t correct him because they needed the eggs. Santa Claus was portrayed as a person who supposedly watched you to see if you were good or bad and would reward you accordingly on Christmas morning. The threat was if you weren’t good enough, you could end up with a lump of coal. How deceitful do you have to be to control your kid’s behavior? However, I ended up telling my kids the same lies for the same reasons. Go figure!Other lies that I was told and believed had far more damaging effects on my life. For example, I learned in church that I was born a sinner and will always be one. They were pretty convincing and I believed what they told me. I also learned from my parents what a “Bad Boy” I was when I did something that displeased them.Most people, including me, were told they were not “good enough” in some important way enough times that we believed this must be true. This process began very early in life. Research shows that parents say the word “no” to their child over 20,000 times before he/she reaches the age of two. How did this affect your life when you grew up? Most people can give you a long list of what they believe is wrong with them, but are hard-pressed to think of any good qualities. What can you do to change your negative beliefs about yourself? I provide answers to these and other related questions in my new book, “How to Identify and Change Your Twisted Beliefs.” In this book, I have included many self-awareness and self-correction exercises to help you identify and correct any lies that you were told while growing up. For example, I include a self-inventory to help you identify thirty-six common twisted beliefs that you may have learned while growing up in your family, church or schools. The problem is that most people do not realize how damaging it is for them to hold these twisted beliefs. The first part of the book helps you identify any twisted beliefs you might have. It also identifies the probable negative effects that holding these twisted beliefs can have on your life.The second half of the book shows you how you can change your twisted beliefs. For example, I describe how twisted beliefs caused cancer to grow in my body and then I explain how I was able to reverse that growth by changing my twisted beliefs. My main point is that twisted beliefs about yourself can cause stress that leads to degenerative diseases. I write about how I identified and changed my twisted beliefs and share with you what I learned in that process. It is a very personal book that I felt compelled to write and share with others who are interested in personal growth and change.

169 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 22, 2014