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Love Will Find You: 9 Magnets to Bring You and Your Soulmate Together

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Forget The Rules, so what if He's Just Not That Into You? Love and relationship guru Kathryn Alice tells you everything you need to know about finding your soulmate — and helping your soulmate find you. Love Will Find You is a true antidote to all the strict rules-oriented dating books out there, explaining why every one of the 110 million single Americans have reason to celebrate: Nothing will keep love from you Even if you never leave the house, your soulmate will find you You are never too old, too fat, or too poor for love There is no such thing as rejection, only the wrong fit Hate going out? Does every singles' event feel like a convention of desperation? Are you stuck in a past "crazy love" relationship you can't shake? Using the nine love magnets, Kathryn Alice has helped thousands of people to discard their old notions of dating, teaching practical steps to get love, including: healing your perceived "fatal flaws"; decluttering your heart and releasing old loves; sending out a soul call; and banishing the idea that you need to kiss 100 frogs to find your prince(ss).

288 pages, Paperback

First published January 7, 2006

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Kathryn Alice

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Kathryn Alice is a soulmate and dating expert who teaches on 5 continents. She has helped tens of thousands of people recover from heartbreak and go on to magnetize their One. Her work has appeared in the AP, Psychology Today, USA Today, Parade, New York Times, Body+Soul and on Montel and NBC. She directed the Agape Crisis Support Team for 6 years.

Her upbeat message of hope that there is a "lid for every pot" is in direct contrast to teachings that you have to do everything "just so" to get love. Many have imitated her work but this is the ORIGINAL. Kathryn appears in the 2012 feature film "Secrets of Love."

Kathryn has been traveling the world for the past 5 years with her husband of over a decade and children, spreading her message of love & soulmates to people all over the globe. Her book is sold in every major English-speaking country in the world. The popular book that is a great introduction to her work is called LOVE WILL FIND YOU and her two popular CDs are MANIFESTING LOVE (to call forth your soulmate) and RELEASING A PERSON (to recover from heartbreak and even the worst pain after divorce or breakup). To find out more about Kathryn's work, visit her website: www.KathrynAlice.com

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March 2, 2012
My original review in TheCelebrityCafe.com: http://thecelebritycafe.com/reviews/b...-

The essence of true attraction

Now that Christmas is over, the inevitable retail season of hearts and candies is upon us. Yes, the former Catholic holiday in honor of St. Valentine has followed the path of Christmas. Instead of going to mass and lighting a candle we are subjected to constant commercials for dating sites, restaurants, and all sorts of romantic ideas. Unlike Christmas, this particular holiday is exclusive to those who are in pair bonds. According to some marketing statistics the highest number of membership purchases on dating sites or matchmaking companies is often after Christmas or Valentine's Day. Since we are inundated with matchmaking shows it appears that everyone is an expert on finding the one.

Before you part with your money for a match.com membership or put a down payment on a profile with a pricey matchmaking service, consider this book. Kathryn Alice offers a soul-based and very supportive book on bringing in that special person into your life. Sure, there are plenty of books like how to make someone fall in love with you or how to market yourself to find a husband after over 35, but this book is a little different.

Alice offers a nine step for magnetizing a soulmate. What is interesting about this book is that she does not focus on changing your approach, getting a makeover, or taking a flirting class. Instead, Alice talks about the inner work that often must be done for a person to be ready for a relationship. The fact is, there are no guarantees but with a little faith, trust, and some authentic self-love, you may increase your chances.

If you feel let down by some of the more mainstream books that tell you to settle for less, advise you to take on a new personality of a pickup artist, or just have left you feeling that you need to do things that are uncomfortable then this book could be for you. Alice also brings in her experience as a religious science practitioner in her writings. She had been a longtime member of the Agape Church in Los Angeles before starting her travels with her family in 2007. If you are unfamiliar with religious science or Agape, this book is still easy to understand. What Alice leads her readers to, is a path of faith, but not wishful thinking. Alice is about nurturing a mindset that attracts love into all areas of your life.

In each of the nine steps outlined in this book, none of it is complicated or hard to implement. Some of the basics in attracting a soulmate, according to Alice, is how important it is to be clear from the past and stay true to oneself. These principles were part of a workshop that she taught in Los Angeles for many years that apparently had a lot of happy endings. Alice likes to call soulmates the people who have crackling chemistry. So, here are the nine magnets:

Believe he is out there: if you doubt you delay your date with destiny.

Invite love in: you can't just expect people to show up to your party. You must send them an invitation. Same thing with your soulmate. You have to invite them into your life and Alice provides a meditation and a series of exercises that do this.

Put your fears to bed: it has been said that the energy of fear is very constricting. People who are afraid may become so fearful that they will not try new things. In extreme cases this is called phobia. For some, they have a form of love phobia. What this means is they are so afraid that they will be hurt that they avoid meeting new people at all costs. Unfortunately, you can't have it both ways. You cannot be afraid of love and yet want it the same time. If you want love then let go of the fear. Alice gives simple tips to gradually release your fears. If this is difficult she does recommend other resources to deal with the fear.

Shine your unique light: this was one of the loveliest chapters in the book. It is not hard to feel that you need to do something different with your appearance or personality to have a chance for love. If you become who you are not, you will find someone who likes someone who does not exist. If you stay long enough together the other person will eventually discover the real you. Think of the movie The Ugly Truth. Gerard Butler's character had helped Kathryn Heigl in getting a man she was interested in. Problem was, the man was not in love with her but with a persona that was the complete opposite of who she really was. Had she not ended her relationship him she would not have ended up with the man who loved her as she was.

Another interesting thing about this chapter is that it reminded me of some preconceived notions I have observed in myself and others. Growing up, I had been one of the rare minorities in a population mostly filled with blue-eyed blondes. This was not California but a place that was in the middle of nowhere. I grew up thinking that I didn't have much of a chance for a boyfriend because I did not look like Cameron Diaz. Later on, when I moved to New York, I discovered that there were people who were innately attracted to women who looked exotic. Alice says that this is natural. We are born with particular preferences that were placed in our heart to actually lead us to the right person. Besides, I smiled when I read this chapter because I had just finished reading some fan page comments about Michael Fassbender. The actor seems to have a preference for exotic women. As a teenager, I was convinced that men who looks like him only had eyes for a Cameron Diaz. So the lucky woman who gets to date him should be very glad she looks the way she does. And I'm guessing that he would not notice her will if she looked any other way.

Release old loves: remember the film One More Kiss starring Gerard Butler? In this film a man named Sam runs a restaurant with his wife. One night he gets a knock on the door. It is his long-lost love Sara who has returned to Scotland from New York. Even though Sam is married and has a home and business life with his wife, he was never over Sara, and it destroys his marriage. The moral of the story is, if you cannot let the past go, you cannot hope for a future no matter how great it is.

Create a haven for your heart: This chapter is devoted to protecting your heart from those who do not support its desires. This could be people who mention statistics that leaves you feeling hopeless. Protect your heart from these types of environments because they do not support your wish.

Discover your own love style: do you ever notice that there are people who can get away dressing like they are a punk kid well into their 30s? If such people were to suddenly dress in pinstripe suits it would look weird. Such as fashion style is unique to a person so is your dating style. Some of us are successful in doing online or speed dating but others are not. Alice says that if you are a homebody you don’t need to go out every night. Love will find you at home. True love never comes from manipulation or being unnatural.

Date in a completely different manner: Alice emphasizes that the objective of dating is to determine compatibility. She also asserts that there is no such thing as rejection but only a lack of compatibility.

Get ready for the ride of your life: remember when you were a kid and you knew that the next day you were going to some place that was really fun? You were so excited you could not sleep and had no doubt that tomorrow would come. This is a chapter on how to have that same feeling as you prepare to welcome in a new experience of life with a soulmate.

Now I am off to magnetize my real life Magneto!Kathryn Alice
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April 27, 2013
This book is total BS. Kathryn Alice and her teachings are full of contradictions. On one hand Alice teaches Divine Timing and on the other she says you need not be that patient. Then there is the story of the woman who stalked the guy she liked while Alice says that your soulmate will recognize you and nothing will keep them from you. Hard to tell which is which. Alice means well but the outcomes of her program appear inconsistent.

On Amazon one reviewer was bold enough to say that the overtly positive reviews on Alice and her work were fake. It's hard to verify but I did her Love Club and went 100% in when I did her programs only to be told that I was trying to hard one moment and then that I was lazy the next when I asked Alice what I may have missed in attracting my soulmate. Confusion is an understatement. Alice left me in tears on a few occasions with her words of blame and make wrong that I stopped doing her work all together since attracting the love of your life should be fun after all.

Alice left me confused, heartbroken, and feeling burned. There are a few others who have spent much longer in her program and still single so not sure what to make of how effective the Love Will Find You method is. However, if anyone has has similar results to me in that they were single despite Alice's claims of her method being the fastest proven method to attracting soulmates and that she has brought 100,000 soulmates together, please do the world a favor and post a review. Then get in touch with me because I'm wondering how honest Kathryn Alice is in her marketing. I still ponder reporting her deceptive marketing practices to the Better Business Bureau since she doesn't give refunds. And her teleseminars over time add up to $1500 in a year. At the very least.
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November 23, 2012
I found this book a delightful read. There are some books that you read just to have a key theme resonate with you. For this book, it was the idea that there isn't a need for me to go crazy over not having a husband by 30 as part of my life checklist. This book, with alongside reading "The Feminine Mistake: Are We Giving Up Too Much" by Leslie Bennetts and "The Power of Coincidence: How Life Shows Us What We Need to Know" by David Richo, allowed me relax, take a step back and again, RELAX. I don't know if I believe in the one true fit of a lifetime soul mate. But, what I do believe in is a partner that is a mate match is not by chance, but by fate. And that as such, nothing that is mine will pass me by.

This book allowed me to deeper realize (through key life experiences) my previous attraction to unavailable me due to a mistaken belief that I wasn't worthy of a wholesome, truly kind and beneficial relationship with a man that was open to viewing me - AS ME - and not a stand in until they traded up. Mrs. Alice's work reminded me of the spiritual aspect of relationships and mating, beyond what one dating coach dreamed up as a processes to "catch" or "snag" a man.

Within these pages, I realized that I do - indeed- wish to be asked out on a date, courted and loved. Not programmed with a "oh crap, you're 30 and you get scraps" mindset as some books I've read aspire. This book isn't earth shattering. It's more of a gentle nudge forward with a hug.

There is love - real, deep and soulfully penetrating love out there for each of us and within us. This book is a fabulous reminder. I would suggest that, if you are drawn to it, read it and become aware of what shifts happen in your life.
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February 5, 2018
I really enjoyed reading this book. So much so that I got in touch with the author and asked her if she would do a teleseminar with me on how to attract a loving relationship. I have a few certifications in Human Needs psychology and as a life coach and personal trainer, etc. so I was excited to host a teleseminar for her as she spoke to listeners who signed up for the free teleseminar and then she answered selected questions that came in after the teleseminar. The book explains how our inner beliefs about ourselves effects whether or not we will find love. And also that when we are in the right frame of mind and are happy with ourselves, we become a magnet for love. Kathryn, who wrote the book, has helped ten's of thousands of people find love and is very happily married herself, so, the proof is in the pudding that her methods work. This is her first book and it is a bit basic as far as what she teaches. It is a good start to get a feel for her work. Her teleseminars and advanced workshops and courses go into a much deeper understandings of how to attract love. But, this book is a good start, but, it doesn't tell you everything or answer every question.
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February 1, 2013
I loved this book! I have bought several of these books and given them to my friends and even went to a seminar of Kathryn's. Kathryn was very delightful. I am rereading it again for about the 6th time with my friend's. We all are discussing it chapter by chapter.

I am relieved to know I dont have to get out their Mix and Mingle like most people tell you to do unless that is who you are. I love knowing that if i stay positive that He will come to me at the right time.
Kathryn Thank you for writing this and giving me hope that my Soul Mate is out there. And for giving all my friend's Hope. God Bless you and your family. I highly Highly Recommend this book on Love.

Thank you Thank you
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February 17, 2015
I am such a sucker for love books and couldn't resist buying this one. I am glad I did. Every time I read the book I felt lighter, something in my heart was opening up. For the first time I felt the joy of self acceptance and self love. Nothing was wrong with me, life was not working against me and there is, indeed, a lid for every pot. I know , for sure that one day true love will find me.
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doing good so far... easy to read and enjoyable stories. Makes me feel like I can't go wrong in love... so good all the way around!
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April 24, 2009
Interesting..its got me thinking.
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March 10, 2010
Amazing. This is the most hopeful, inspiring book on finding your soulmate that I have ever read. If you are looking for your One, read this book.
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November 13, 2018
This book helped instill in me some positive affirmations that love and the One is out there. I loved the idea that you and your soulmate are moving closer to each other each day. To me, that is a fun and comforting thought.

Some religious undertones in here, but mostly a fairly neutral read. It was quick, light hearted but real, and provided me lots of food for thought. While I didn’t agree with every aspect of it, overall I really enjoyed the read and plan on running through it once more to incorporate the journaling pieces.

If you need a confidence boost or just a reminder that healthy love and fulfilling love is out there, this is a great read.
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November 23, 2020
Although I'm sure Kathryn Alice has earned them many times before, she has surely earned her angel's wings and many places in heaven for writing this book! She has given me so much hope, with much detail, covering all the bases and contexts of love, including how we view death, which is something I sure need...

She is so inspiring, loving, and supportive, you feel she's right there besides you holding your hand.
I am so grateful for her and this book--it's a must read for all..

Thank you!
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June 16, 2025
I have read this in 2011 and I.have faith my soulmate will come
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February 15, 2018
So I bought this book after experiencing a horrible breakup in 2017 in order to change the way I think. It is an easy read and it triggers positive thoughts in the reader (or at least I felt quite happy after reading it) – it gives one hope that the soul mate is out there somewhere. While I do not believe in all the stories that she has mentioned (e.g. the woman stalking the man and then ending up falling in love with each other – seems a bit far-fetched to me!), I do believe that if you follow these magnetizing steps, you will put yourself into a better mood, you will radiate happiness and contentment which will attract much more people than being grumpy and frustrated at home.
Hence if you like to boost your charisma a bit, I´d recommend reading it.
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November 1, 2015
"Love will find you" is a full of simple yet powerful advise. Its a working book that requires thinking and writing out thoughts and feelings. Kathryn speaks from the heart and allows the reader to easily apply the tips in the book. She covers everything that could stand in the way of finding true love and provides helpful strategies. She required the reader to do some digging up of old thoughts and beliefs that could be limiting. She is a big proponent of affirmations - replacing negative thoughts with positive ones and affirming them as true. She includes examples of her many clients and takes pride in all the weddings that resulted from her coaching. I have met her personally and I am taking one of her workshops. Among the many love gurus out there, I like her simple, non-nonsense approach to finding your soulmate.
"I believe the ultimate purpose of a soulmate relationship is to help others heal, to better the planet, and to shine the light of your love as a beacon to all."
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June 22, 2015
Kathryn Alice's book, Love Will Find You, is one of the most significant relationship self-help books that I have ever read. She urges you to be your authentic self while dating and have faith that your Soulmate will show up, and, when s/he does, s/he will not be able to see past you. This book contains inspirational stories, advice, writing exercises, and techniques, including how to release past relationships, develop your own love style, and nurture a soulful relationship. While Kathryn does stress the value of doing inner work over anything else, I also found her suggested external action steps to be helpful. Reading this book and doing the work really boasted my self-confidence. Thank you, Kathryn, for giving me the tools to persist in dating!
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December 24, 2012
Definite help to calm down and just let love happen and a good daily affirmation read. A lot of the exercises seemed a little dumb, but overall a good book for anyone convinced they are either unlovable or will never find "the One".
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March 28, 2015
I'll use this religiously because I wholeheartedly believe in this woman and her teachings!!
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