A hilarious, heartfelt memoir for women with ADHD, neurodivergent late bloomers, and anyone who’s ever felt like a beautiful mess in a world built for the organised.
What happens when you spend decades thinking you’re just “too much” — too messy, too emotional, too forgetful — only to discover you’ve actually been neurodivergent all along?
Welcome to my beautifully chaotic life.
This is not a how-to guide. It’s a how-did-I-even-survive-that? guide.
For years, I lived with undiagnosed ADHD, juggling motherhood, marriages, businesses, heartbreaks, breakdowns, and the kind of impulsive decisions that usually start with “I’ve got a great idea…” I lost myself in relationships — one with a gambler, one with a womaniser, and one who gaslit me so effectively I questioned my own sanity. I gave too much, asked for too little, and learned to smile while slowly disappearing.
I didn’t speak up. I didn’t feel worthy. I didn’t know what was wrong with me.
Until I I wasn’t broken. I was wired differently.
From white-knuckling my way through court cases and emotional meltdowns to taking up paragliding at 50 and starting over more times than I can count — this is the story of a woman who lived out loud, even when she was quietly falling apart.
This memoir is for anyone who’s
Forgotten why they walked into a room (and left the oven on)
Felt like the odd one out in life, love, or PTA meetings
Had a brain full of ideas and a house full of laundry
Been too afraid to ask for help or felt “not enough” for far too long
But it’s also for those of us who get back up — again and again — because beneath the chaos lives creativity, humour, heart, and a fierce, unshakable resilience.
So if you're a woman who’s ever thought, Is it just me?, this book is your answer.
It’s not just you. And there’s a whole lot of adventure waiting when you finally stop trying to be “normal.”