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Feeling Sexy: A Christian Woman's Guide to Sexual Confidence & Desire
You love Jesus—but you’re not always sure what to do with sex. You’re not alone. So many Christian women long to feel confident, connected, and actually look forward to sex—but instead, they feel stuck in shame, confusion, or disconnection. Whether you’re newlywed, seasoned in marriage, or somewhere in between, you’ve probably “Is something wrong with me?”“Why don’t I want sex like my husband does?”“Is it okay to want more… or to want something different?”In Feeling Sexy, husband-and-wife team Josh and Cassie Spurlock offer a funny, tender, and unfiltered guide to cultivating sexual confidence and deep desire—without ditching your faith. Drawing on Scripture, neuroscience, and years of experience as a Certified Sex Therapist (Josh) and women’s mentor (Cassie), they gently dismantle shame and help you rediscover holy pleasure as part of God’s beautiful design. You’ll explore practical truths about arousal, fantasy, communication, healing, and creative intimacy—all with warm encouragement and laugh-out-loud honesty.This book is your invitation to feel seen, understood, and set free to enjoy the kind of sex God always dreamed for joyful, sacred, satisfying, and gloriously fun.
307 pages, Kindle Edition
Published July 23, 2025
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October 29, 2025
As someone who knows Josh & Cassie, I loved getting to witness this book come together, and touch so many women's lives. I know it's touched me and my marriage in ways that I didn't even know it would, but reading the truth come off the page in such a fun, gentle, and Biblically-sound way has been truly inspiring. I pray this book finds the women and couples who need it because I can see how it's such an amazing resource that can provide so much freedom to marriages and people's intimate lives. It has been for mine.
October 29, 2025
Wow so impressive!
April 3, 2026
This book had a lot of issues, but it was not ONLY issues.
On the positive, the writers clearly love Jesus and wrote with humor and patience. Their chapter on pain (and how it is not normal) was absolutely phenomenal and they had a few chapters that were deeply instructional for people who feel uninformed on how to start.
On the negative, The book was wildly cheesy, made frequent use of strange made-up terms (thrive-drive, omazing etc), and most concerningly, endorsed some things as "good and holy" that are clearly forbidden. I found myself saying to my husband that I would never ever put this book in someone's hands because I think they would walk away being given license to do things that could destroy their marriage. The most concerning thing was the fact this book does not call erotica sin and says that you can pray about it and then it's nobody's business but you're own. The pornographic format known as erotica has damaged so many women, I'm shocked that the authors view it as a perfectly reasonable way to achieve arousal! That is not the only example of such license, but it is an important one.
I think the heart of the issue with this book is the fact that they maintain a three-fold test to see if something is okay for a Christian (is it mutually pleasurable, is it monogamous, is it consensual) But of course I think everyone can see the problem with this... a great many things might be agreed upon between a husband and wife that would greatly displease the Lord!
Overall, I would rate this book 2.5 stars. A very discerning, older Christian may be blessed by a few of the chapters for sure, but I would not put it in the hands of someone who is new in the faith or has an underdeveloped theology of sex because I think they might be more confused than helped.
On the positive, the writers clearly love Jesus and wrote with humor and patience. Their chapter on pain (and how it is not normal) was absolutely phenomenal and they had a few chapters that were deeply instructional for people who feel uninformed on how to start.
On the negative, The book was wildly cheesy, made frequent use of strange made-up terms (thrive-drive, omazing etc), and most concerningly, endorsed some things as "good and holy" that are clearly forbidden. I found myself saying to my husband that I would never ever put this book in someone's hands because I think they would walk away being given license to do things that could destroy their marriage. The most concerning thing was the fact this book does not call erotica sin and says that you can pray about it and then it's nobody's business but you're own. The pornographic format known as erotica has damaged so many women, I'm shocked that the authors view it as a perfectly reasonable way to achieve arousal! That is not the only example of such license, but it is an important one.
I think the heart of the issue with this book is the fact that they maintain a three-fold test to see if something is okay for a Christian (is it mutually pleasurable, is it monogamous, is it consensual) But of course I think everyone can see the problem with this... a great many things might be agreed upon between a husband and wife that would greatly displease the Lord!
Overall, I would rate this book 2.5 stars. A very discerning, older Christian may be blessed by a few of the chapters for sure, but I would not put it in the hands of someone who is new in the faith or has an underdeveloped theology of sex because I think they might be more confused than helped.
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