Avoidant To Secure: The 21-Day Self-Regulation Reset

by Jeff Milner

This reset is a practical, compassionate guide for those who’ve learned to cope with connection by pulling away. If intimacy feels overwhelming, vulnerability unsafe, or emotions hard to access, this reset is for you. Over 21 days, you’ll gently reconnect with your emotional world, explore the roots of your avoidant patterns, and learn how to feel safe in closeness—without losing yourself. With daily reflections, regulation tools, and grounded exercises, this guide will help you shift from isolation to secure, balanced relating at your own pace.

67 pages, Kindle Edition

Published July 25, 2025

Reviews

[chloevswords · Rating 5 out of 5]

Jeff Milner's book on avoidant to secure was truly eye-opening. It broke down the patterns of my attachment style in a clear, compassionate way and helped me see exactly where I needed to grow. The exercises and insights made me feel both understood and empowered, and I now have the practical tools to create healthier, more secure connections. This isn't just theory-it's guidance you can actually use. If you've ever struggled with attachment related issues, this book is a must-read.