Zdrowy egoizm

by Sunita Osborn, Paulina Maksymowicz (Translator)

Czy czujesz się winny, kiedy mówisz „nie”? Masz wrażenie, że jeśli nie spełniasz cudzych oczekiwań, to zawodzisz? A może uważasz, że troska o siebie to luksus, na który nie możesz sobie pozwolić?

Jeśli udzieliłeś odpowiedzi twierdzącej na przynajmniej jedno z tych pytań, prawdopodobnie zbyt długo stawiałeś innych na pierwszym miejscu. Sunita Osborn, psycholożka i terapeutka, wprost i bez lukru pokazuje, że stawianie granic, odpoczynek i własne potrzeby to nie egoizm, ale zdrowa odpowiedzialność za siebie.

Autorka obala mity na temat bycia miłym i społecznej presji ciągłego dawania, opowiada historie osób, które odbudowały swoją tożsamość po kryzysie, wypaleniu lub stracie, oraz oferuje praktyczne narzędzia do wyznaczania granic i wzmacniania poczucia własnej wartości.

To nie jest poradnik, który mówi ci, że masz wszystko rzucić i wyjechać w Bieszczady. To książka, która krok po kroku pomaga odzyskać siebie — takiego, który nie przeprasza za swoje istnienie i nie boi się być „wystarczająco ważny”.

Przestań być wszystkim dla wszystkich – zacznij być kimś dla siebie.

Genres: Nonfiction, Psychology, Self Help

240 pages, Paperback

First published May 9, 2023

Reviews

[Monika · Rating 2 out of 5]

Mam pełną świadomość, że niska ocena tej książki wynika z osobistych barier i oporu, nie zaś z jej merytorycznej wartości. Jedynie rozdział o samodyscyplinie wszedł jak nóż w masło, stąd przypuszczenie, że reszta też może być użyteczna. Dopuszczam ponowną lekturę, gdy będę na to gotowa. Póki co książka jest dla mnie bardziej poszlaką niż surowcem, z którego da się wytworzyć narzędzia.

[Jem · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.5/4 good info!

[Maddy Mo · Rating 3 out of 5]

Though corny at first, it ended up not being too bad. The exercises within did make me think, and I will definitely be recommending to my female patients.

[Katriin · Rating 3 out of 5]

I was initially drawn to this book because of its standout cover—5/5 for design! The vibrant and witty visuals, combined with the intriguing subtitle, really spoke to me. It felt like a promise of something refreshingly different from the usual self-help books. The cover conveyed a sense of originality, humor, and perhaps a bold approach to addressing self-love and self-care. For that, I have to say, job well done—it hooked me immediately.

Unfortunately, for me, the inside of the book didn’t live up to the cover. While I had high hopes for a fresh perspective, I found that the content fell back on many of the same ideas and discussions that are already well-trodden in this genre. Topics like affirmations, self-compassion, and setting boundaries—though important—felt recycled rather than groundbreaking. The writing was solid, and the author clearly has expertise, but I didn’t find the unique take I was hoping for based on the promise of the cover.

This book might resonate more with readers new to the self-help category or those who need a gentle reminder of the basics of self-care. But for those who have already explored similar books, Self-ish might not deliver the fresh perspective its cover suggests. Overall, a mixed experience for me—a standout presentation but not quite the substance I was hoping for.

[SusanTalksBooks · Rating 4 out of 5]

This review is for the *audio* version of this book, which is not listed on Goodreads at this time. Author Sunita Osborn has written a book about "self-care" that heavily references social media trends around #selfcare, #selflove and similar hashtags. She explains how many of these social media posts are not really showing self love in a clinical sense. She reiterates known concepts in a new way, about being true to your values, doing what helps you achieve your goals, being your best self. This was a nice refresher with a bit of a new twist. 3.5 stars rounded up. Audio book was about 4 hours and from Los Angeles Public Library.

[Heather Ramshaw · Rating 4 out of 5]

Audiobook version- As someone who was called selfish growing up, and has since done everything in my power to avoid this, ‘Self-ish’ was a very refreshing and important read. Took a lot away that I hope to hold on to. Spoiler: be more selfish!

[Laura L. Lekang · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is great. It's definitely directed at women but the take aways were amazing. She has a really easy, free flowing writing style and adds in humor (which I love). Sarcasm is my native language. Great for anyone who wants to get a better handle on themselves. It's ok to be selfish.

[Eli Täpp · Rating 3 out of 5]

Short and easy non-fiction from MIRKO. I liked the approach that all woman should be more selfish and how general perspective has somehow cornered us. I didn’t like the long descriptions of different dictionaries and social media.

[Marji · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.75/5⭐️. Easy read and some good take always. There is workbook type areas at the end of every chapter.

[Ketlin]

Ma ei oskagi hinnata vs kommenteerida.
Polegi seda tüüp raamat, mis endale siia märksõnadega kirja panna.

[Mel rose ✨ · Rating 4 out of 5]

4.2/5: Women, please read this!