A fun, science-backed dating guide that interrupts the patterns keeping love just out of reach—and empowers readers with the tools to build lasting connection
Dubbed the “scientific Carrie Bradshaw” by The Observer, relationship expert Amy Chan has helped countless people transform their love lives through her world-renowned Breakup Bootcamp and Dating Bootcamps. What she’s discovered is surprising: Most singles aren’t failing at love because they need years of therapy or a complete personality overhaul. They’re stuck in a recurring pattern—and once that pattern is identified and interrupted, everything changes.
In this groundbreaking guide, Chan introduces the Dating Funnel framework, a step-by-step system that pinpoints exactly where people are getting stuck and why. Whether it’s struggling to meet quality matches, stalling after the first few dates, or getting caught in situationship purgatory, Unsingle offers a practical roadmap to update dating skills and heal the deeper wounds that block connection.
Chan’s approach is refreshingly honest and often hilarious: Sometimes the common denominator in all those dating disasters isn’t bad luck—it’s a pattern. She’s here to lovingly call it out and teach exactly how to shift it. Backed by cutting-edge research, real client transformations, and her signature blend of tough love and genuine warmth, Unsingle proves that creating lasting love isn’t about luck—it’s about skill.
Amy Chan is a leading expert in social and relational skills and the author of the bestselling Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart.
She founded Renew Breakup Bootcamp, the world’s first science-based heartbreak retreat, and has been dubbed “a scientific Carrie Bradshaw” by The Observer.
Amy has taught at Google, YouTube, has guest lectured at Columbia University, and is faculty at Esalen and The Omega Institute. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, The Guardian, USA Today, on Good Morning America, The Today Show and more.
Unsingle is Amy’s latest book, publishing in April 2026.