Stephanie Romiszewski never worries about sleep - ever. And she has helped over 10,000 patients do the same. A clear-eyed and passionate antidote to both individual sleep anxiety and our current obsessive, perfectionist culture, her first book will unpack the science and fundamentals of sleep - including misunderstood concepts such as sleep drive, sleep debt and sleep sensitivity - and arm readers with simple tools for how we can each improve something we spend a third of our lives doing. Stephanie will reveal, among other counterintuitive
- The importance of a consistent wake time rather than a rigid bedtime.
- How to trust your body's natural sleep drive and rhythms.
- That 'bad' nights don't ruin your health, and variability is normal.
- That sleep isn't fragile - it's adaptable, resilient, and smarter than any hack you could throw at it.
This book was so good that I only read the opening third of it. While that would sound counterintuitive in a novel, it's a testament to its quality as a self-help book that it sorted out my sleep issues more or less by the end of the opening chapter.
It's even arguable that the author sorted out my sleep issues before I picked up the book. I saw her on a documentary about sleep by Denise van Outen, and what she said on that about my particular issue, which is that I wake up in the middle of the night most nights and then struggle to get back to sleep, immediately made me less concerned about the issue. Being less concerned about the issue has, in turn, led to me finding it much easier to get back to sleep when I wake up in the middle of the night.
Intrigued by the immediate effect, I Googled the author and found this book. Some of what I've learned from it and the documentary has been significant to the point of life-changing (or at least, sleep-changing). To have a sleep specialist make statements such as "thirty minutes of good sleep are better than four hours of bad sleep" is truly liberating. I received some liberation of a sort several years ago when I first discovered that it was considered the norm in the Middle Ages to sleep in two shifts with an hour of wakefulness in the middle. Even more liberating was to learn two things from the author about the nature of the second sleep: first, it is normal for it to comprise a lighter form of sleep than the first sleep; and second, that studies have shown that during periods of lighter sleep people often believe that they are awake. Perhaps more to the point, different types of sleep have different functions, and those functions are fulfilled as well by sleeping deeply for three hours and then lightly for another three, possibly so lightly that one believes oneself to be awake for a lot of it, as they are by the classic 'eight hours of unbroken sleep' (which turns out to be a myth).
There is an unintended consequence of this book. For the last decade or so I've done a significant amount of my reading when I wake up in the middle of the night - one of the major benefits of having a backlit Kindle. Since I watched the documentary, my nighttime reading has become drastically reduced because I'm finding it so easy to fall back asleep. A book so good that I didn't finish it and that it's reduced the amount I read. Go figure.
accessible and reassuring, writing style did grate (kinda sounds like ChatGPT in parts?? so many sentences with ‘it’s not…., it’s ….’. But content pretty helpful
Nu există cât îi de faină cartea asta! Efectiv a dat de pământ cu TOT ce știam despre somn!
2 dintre cele mai puternice idei:
📖 Corpul nostru este deja un “expert în somn” și nu are nevoie de ajutorul nostru. Când acumulăm o datorie de somn, corpul nostru nu compensează neapărat crescând durata totală a somnului. În schimb, realocă timpul petrecut în anumite stadii de somn pentru a acorda prioritate fazelor lipsă.
📖 Obiceiurile noastre matinale, în special orele constante de trezire și expunerea la lumină, au un impact mult mai mare decât orice rutină de seară.
Nu există urmă de îndoială, toate stelele din lume la “Gândește mai puțin, dormi mai mult” se duc 💫 Este nonficțiunea anului pentru mine 📖🤍
A fab book, packed full of evidence-based insights and practical guidance. All delivered with a huge amount of compassion and warmth. I’ve learned so much about sleep, and it has eased a niggle that had potential to grow into one of those pesky sleep gremlins that Steph mentions in the book.
Stephanie Romiszewski’s book focuses on taking the stress out of sleep by breaking down concepts in a way that feels simple and clear. She explains why a consistent wake time matters more than a strict bedtime, how to trust your body’s natural rhythms, and why bad nights are normal and not something to panic over. Her message is that sleep is not fragile but adaptable and resilient, which makes the whole topic feel much less intimidating.
I found the book easy to read and very practical. Stephanie shares evidence based insights with a lot of compassion and warmth, and I learned a lot from the way she explains things. Everything felt straightforward, and I never struggled to understand what she was trying to communicate. It is a helpful guide for anyone looking to feel more confident about their sleep, especially if they want to build healthy sleep habits or reduce sleep related anxiety.
Thank you NetGalley and St. Martin's Essential for the advanced reader copy. This is my honest review.
A fantastic book, which I’m so glad I discovered in Waterstones. I’ve been struggling with my sleep recently, and am currently having a course of CBTi therapy. To be honest I’ve found it a bit lacking, but this book has not only reinforced what I’ve learnt, but it’s given me so much extra information that CBTi hasn’t. My struggles aren’t totally over, because I suffer from sleep anxiety and it’s a tough cycle to break. But this book has taught me so much, and comforted me, in a way that nothing else has. I do feel I’m getting there. It’s just so nice that someone totally understands my problem. A lot of this book could have been written for me! Forget reading anything else about sleep. Anyone who worries about their sleep or feels they struggle with it should read this book. HIGHLY recommended.
Note : according to Goodreads this book isn’t yet published. I think two versions of the book have got mixed up. My book has this exact title but has a yellow cover, not black. And it’s definitely published because I’ve just read it!
I found this a refreshingly down to earth and practical book. The author is a very well known professional in the field of sleep, but she expresses herself in a way that we can all understand and relate to. Which of us hasn’t had an awful night or a spate of them? However Stephanie reassuringly reminds us , that left to get on with it, our bodies will sort out our sleep, without the need for drugs or exaggerated pre-sleep rituals. Only a very few people will need further treatment. This is a must read for anyone who is interested in their sleep or who has ever been worried about the lack of it.
Liked this one! I found the Dos and Don’ts lists especially useful, and the knowledgeable yet casual tone notably accessible. The structure of the book was also great, as I could focus more on the sections that felt relevant to me. Glad to have won a paperback ARC of this title in a Goodreads Giveaway. Will be keeping this so I can continue to reference it in the future!
Lots of repetition. Seriously she says the same thing repeatedly throughout.
There was nothing here that I saw which would help me sleep better, except maybe reading the book; that’s likely to put you to sleep. It would have been better as a 50-page pamphlet. It may work for others, but the book just did not gel for me.
Thanks to St. Martin’s for the Advance Reader copy.
Book is good. Could be more concise, but I get that the author is trying to repeatedly hammer the important points, so I'm not that against it. Dispels popular sleep hacks and explains the foundation for good sleep. Hopefully will help me sleep👍 would give It 4.5 if that was an option.
Sound advice that is already changing the way I go about sleep. However..., all this advice could fit 50 pages of text easily. The book is full of repetitions and filler content. Feels like the author asked ChatGPT to stretch the manuscript to make it 290 pages long.
Had some helpful advice but was quite repetitive. I felt like 80% of each chapter just repeated what the previous chapter stated. However, it was really informative and interesting to learn the different types of sleep cycles.
O abordare foarte relaxată asupra somnului, utilă pentru cei care văd somnul o problemă și care se confruntă cu dificultăți în această zonă. Somnul nu trebuie să fie perfect iar corpul nostru știe deja ce trebuie să facă.
The main tips were helpful. My main takeaways were have a consistent wake up time, your sleep drive and circadian rhythm are important, and the tech and stuff aren’t worth it. It was really repetitive but definitely drove the points home.
I enjoyed learning more about sleep and how your body and mind works with it and definitely picked up a few insights that i would like to start trying to see if it makes any difference.
The title immediately grabbed my attention because my sleep has not been the same since having a baby 🥲 I used to sleep through anything — now the tiniest sound wakes me up.
This book was eye-opening, practical, and full of tools I’ll genuinely be applying to my life. It completely shifted how I think about sleep.
Some key takeaways for me: 🌅 Wake up at the same time every day 🌿 Get outside and move your body 🛏️ Sleep is subjective — it’s not a perfect science
Such a helpful and reassuring read.
Perfect for: 😴 Tired moms 🧠 Overthinkers at bedtime 🌙 Anyone struggling with inconsistent sleep
📅 Releasing July 7
Thank you NetGalley and St. Martin’s Press for the ARC in exchange for an honest review 🤍✨