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The Virgin Monologues: Confessions of a Christian Girl in a Twenty-First Century World
An insightful, inspirational, amusing and honest guide to relationships for the modern single Christian woman. How does the single Christian woman maintain her relationships while staying true to herself? How can she thrive in a predominately secular culture and keep her faith in a world that doesn't reflect her values? "The Virgin Monologues" teaches how to do healthy relationships, what to fight for and what to give up on. It gives healthy principles to understand before looking for a team mate.
306 pages, Kindle Edition
Published December 19, 2014
About the author
Carrie Lloyd
6 books40 followersCarrie is a UK journalist and author of The Virgin Monologues and Prude. She is a pastor at Bethel Church, California and a pastor for the leaders network of Global Legacy. She writes between her hometown in Stamford, England and her residence in Northern California. ‘The Carrie On..podcast started in 2017 and can be found on itunes. When not pastoring, speaking or writing, labelled by her students as ‘The Duchess' she has a penchant for good old fashioned vinyl. For more info visit www.carrielloyd.live
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December 30, 2014
I started reading this book because a friend tagged me on a video on FB.
I loved it! It is funny, refreshing and honest. I love that the author has her own life and experiences as a testimony, so the whole book becomes real. You can tell that she has a real relationship with God, so her words become an encouragement for you.
If you are single, dating, engaged, going through a breakup, or have lost hope on guys... this is a MUST READ!
I loved it! It is funny, refreshing and honest. I love that the author has her own life and experiences as a testimony, so the whole book becomes real. You can tell that she has a real relationship with God, so her words become an encouragement for you.
If you are single, dating, engaged, going through a breakup, or have lost hope on guys... this is a MUST READ!
March 2, 2021
Absolutely loved this book as I could relate to it on a whole new level (I don’t say this lightly.) Carrie’s story is very similar to my life experiences and whilst reading this book, I found myself constantly praying and hoping that more singles get to read this book. I just wish I had come across this book in my late teens and early twenties, when though I had been a Christian for a long time, I still didn’t know who I was in Christ.
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The book is plainly monologuing of the author, Carrie Lloyd... Monologues from the time she was a teen, losing her father, becoming atheist, encountering God and living a life of intimacy with God. All these various seasons in her life were intertwined with her dating experiences.
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Carrie transparently and vulnerably addresses topics such as orphanhood to adoption by God, true identity in Christ, encountering God, intimacy with God as opposed to Christian practices, self-confidence and self-love, questions centered around singledom, dating, abstinence, marriage, pornography.
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Now this book does not contain your ordinary kind of knowledge with regards to these topics. It’s not a book where all you will find is “don’t have sex before marriage because God says so.” It’s backed up with facts, and she profoundly tackles these issues, which in my opinion left me more self-assured than ever as to why certain things are deemed to be wrong.
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𝐒𝐨, 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐈 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐭𝐨?
✨Anyone seeking and desiring a life of intimacy with God
✨Anyone going through identity crisis and struggling with self-love and self-acceptance
✨Anyone desiring a more meaningful and a healthy dating relationship
✨Anyone struggling with sexual sin
✨Married people who are probably seeking for more wisdom on how to answer some common questions asked by the singles
✨Any single Christian, really
✨Maybe you aren’t struggling with sexual sin, but you have gotten to live and believe in the following 𝗠𝗬𝗧𝗛𝗦 (and you genuinely wish you could hear different opinions);
MYTH #1: “You are missing out by not having sex before marriage”
MYTH #2: “You ought to have sex before marriage with your partner so that you can be sure of your sexual compatibility”
MYTH #3: “Freedom is the ability to have premarital sex”
MYTH #4: “Women were married at younger ages in the bible so they didn’t have to abstain for a long time, whereas these days women get married way later so having sex before marriage should be acceptable”
MYTH #5: “Porn doesn’t harm or hurt anyone because it’s just you and the screen”
MYTH #6: “A little bit of porn (soft porn) is okay”
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Like any other book, all of the topics might not be relatable to you but there is definitely a thing or two to take from this book. Though this book sounds more directed towards women, I think men could also read it.
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𝘋𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘳: 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘤𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘰𝘭𝘰𝘨𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦, 𝘪𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸. 𝘐’𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘶𝘱 𝘢 𝘥𝘦𝘣𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘳𝘨𝘶𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘢𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘩𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯’𝘵 𝘰𝘬𝘢𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘮𝘺 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸.
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The book is plainly monologuing of the author, Carrie Lloyd... Monologues from the time she was a teen, losing her father, becoming atheist, encountering God and living a life of intimacy with God. All these various seasons in her life were intertwined with her dating experiences.
____________________________
Carrie transparently and vulnerably addresses topics such as orphanhood to adoption by God, true identity in Christ, encountering God, intimacy with God as opposed to Christian practices, self-confidence and self-love, questions centered around singledom, dating, abstinence, marriage, pornography.
____________________________
Now this book does not contain your ordinary kind of knowledge with regards to these topics. It’s not a book where all you will find is “don’t have sex before marriage because God says so.” It’s backed up with facts, and she profoundly tackles these issues, which in my opinion left me more self-assured than ever as to why certain things are deemed to be wrong.
____________________________
𝐒𝐨, 𝐰𝐡𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐈 𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐭𝐨?
✨Anyone seeking and desiring a life of intimacy with God
✨Anyone going through identity crisis and struggling with self-love and self-acceptance
✨Anyone desiring a more meaningful and a healthy dating relationship
✨Anyone struggling with sexual sin
✨Married people who are probably seeking for more wisdom on how to answer some common questions asked by the singles
✨Any single Christian, really
✨Maybe you aren’t struggling with sexual sin, but you have gotten to live and believe in the following 𝗠𝗬𝗧𝗛𝗦 (and you genuinely wish you could hear different opinions);
MYTH #1: “You are missing out by not having sex before marriage”
MYTH #2: “You ought to have sex before marriage with your partner so that you can be sure of your sexual compatibility”
MYTH #3: “Freedom is the ability to have premarital sex”
MYTH #4: “Women were married at younger ages in the bible so they didn’t have to abstain for a long time, whereas these days women get married way later so having sex before marriage should be acceptable”
MYTH #5: “Porn doesn’t harm or hurt anyone because it’s just you and the screen”
MYTH #6: “A little bit of porn (soft porn) is okay”
____________________________
Like any other book, all of the topics might not be relatable to you but there is definitely a thing or two to take from this book. Though this book sounds more directed towards women, I think men could also read it.
____________________________
𝘋𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘳: 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘤𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘰𝘭𝘰𝘨𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦, 𝘪𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸. 𝘐’𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘵𝘳𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘶𝘱 𝘢 𝘥𝘦𝘣𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘳𝘨𝘶𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘢𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘩𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯’𝘵 𝘰𝘬𝘢𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘮𝘺 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘦𝘸.
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October 13, 2017
The Virgin Monologues helped me through a pretty rough season. Confusing too, if I might add. It helped me to understand the complexities of getting into the right relationship that God has planned for you and the travesties prior to coming out of a broken relationship and one that was not ordained for you.
It helped me to discern between, as Carrie calls them, the 'Creepy Crawlies', 'The Mediocre', 'The Jerks', 'Mr.Potential' and finally, 'God's Finest'. She also helped me to be at peace with the fact that not all men are great but then again, women are not that amazing either for the simple reason that we are all still a work in progress. She taught me the art of letting go, forgiveness, healing through the journey of heartbreak, sexual purity, the pursuit of men and so much more. I foresee that I will keep coming back to this book for clarity and wisdom, after seeking God and His Word, of course.
Also, I feel like I need to stress that if you're not a Christian but you're going through a journey of dealing with heartbreak (whether it be over a boy, a girl, a loved one), then this book is for you. After every chapter, I really had to close the book, mull over what I've just learned, make sure I apply it and let it cross stitch over my heart. These lessons are not just for girls but for boys, as well. How to seek for a man who will honour and respect you as the woman you were always destined to be and how to be the woman that men will learn to honour and respect.
If I had to pick just one lesson out of The Virgin Monologues, it would be this; Singledom is not failure, its not finality, it is a season. Embrace it, enjoy it. You may only have this time, for you never know what is coming around the corner. A relationship does not define your worth, God does.
It helped me to discern between, as Carrie calls them, the 'Creepy Crawlies', 'The Mediocre', 'The Jerks', 'Mr.Potential' and finally, 'God's Finest'. She also helped me to be at peace with the fact that not all men are great but then again, women are not that amazing either for the simple reason that we are all still a work in progress. She taught me the art of letting go, forgiveness, healing through the journey of heartbreak, sexual purity, the pursuit of men and so much more. I foresee that I will keep coming back to this book for clarity and wisdom, after seeking God and His Word, of course.
Also, I feel like I need to stress that if you're not a Christian but you're going through a journey of dealing with heartbreak (whether it be over a boy, a girl, a loved one), then this book is for you. After every chapter, I really had to close the book, mull over what I've just learned, make sure I apply it and let it cross stitch over my heart. These lessons are not just for girls but for boys, as well. How to seek for a man who will honour and respect you as the woman you were always destined to be and how to be the woman that men will learn to honour and respect.
If I had to pick just one lesson out of The Virgin Monologues, it would be this; Singledom is not failure, its not finality, it is a season. Embrace it, enjoy it. You may only have this time, for you never know what is coming around the corner. A relationship does not define your worth, God does.
June 9, 2020
I cannot say enough about this book. Such a brilliant mix of wisdom and humor, glued together by love and encouragement. She's not afraid to get real with you, but it's always a wonderful little smack that gets you lifting your gaze back out upon the light.
This is a Must Read for any woman who wants to live a vivacious single life, owning and loving who they are, and growing ever closer to Papa God.
This is a Must Read for any woman who wants to live a vivacious single life, owning and loving who they are, and growing ever closer to Papa God.
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