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No Fats, No Fems: A Guide to Queer Empathy and Unpacking Prejudice
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Expected 19 May 26From queer activist and sex educator Max Hovey, the essential modern guide for understanding what divides us and the path to building a better community—a revolutionary call to arms for embracing kindness and empathy.
Exclusionary and derogatory rhetoric in online spaces like “no fats, no fems” is often an unfortunate reality for many queer people and speaks to a larger issue at hand—but it doesn’t have to be this way.
Activist Max Hovey has gained thousands of supporters worldwide in his efforts to challenge stereotypes and unpack the problematic ideologies queer people can place on each other—and often on themselves. Combining diverse personal testimonies and the latest research from across the LGBTQIA+ community, his groundbreaking guide
prejudice in queer spaces through discussions of race, class, and identitythe historical evolution of queer thoughtthe role of intersectionality in the fight for LGBTQIA+ rightsinternalized homophobia and its role in creating divisionbody image issues and the importance of sexual liberationhow to accept non-conformity and handle rejectionself-reflection through understanding different perspectivesways to promote positivity and acceptance in ourselves and otherswhat having pride and community really meansRegardless of background or sexual orientation, our mutual goal is empathy, and Max gives us all the tools needed to get there. The Velvet Rage for a modern audience, No Fats, No Fems is an urgent call to action, offering a roadmap to building stronger community and a much kinder future.
Exclusionary and derogatory rhetoric in online spaces like “no fats, no fems” is often an unfortunate reality for many queer people and speaks to a larger issue at hand—but it doesn’t have to be this way.
Activist Max Hovey has gained thousands of supporters worldwide in his efforts to challenge stereotypes and unpack the problematic ideologies queer people can place on each other—and often on themselves. Combining diverse personal testimonies and the latest research from across the LGBTQIA+ community, his groundbreaking guide
prejudice in queer spaces through discussions of race, class, and identitythe historical evolution of queer thoughtthe role of intersectionality in the fight for LGBTQIA+ rightsinternalized homophobia and its role in creating divisionbody image issues and the importance of sexual liberationhow to accept non-conformity and handle rejectionself-reflection through understanding different perspectivesways to promote positivity and acceptance in ourselves and otherswhat having pride and community really meansRegardless of background or sexual orientation, our mutual goal is empathy, and Max gives us all the tools needed to get there. The Velvet Rage for a modern audience, No Fats, No Fems is an urgent call to action, offering a roadmap to building stronger community and a much kinder future.
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Expected publication May 19, 2026
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February 10, 2026
Initial thoughts, full review to come
- good introduction for folks wanting to know more about intersectionality and lack there
of in queer spaces
- glad that asexuality and aromanticism were discussed, but I felt that outside of the moments they were specifically called out it wasn’t considered (basically, the importance of aspec identities was acknowledged once, but not considered in other sections)
- the last chapter telling you “what you can do” didn’t feel like it actually provided anything, and felt kind of pointless/repetitive
- appreciate the quotes from other folks in the queer community, as I think they truly helped to round out this book
- good introduction for folks wanting to know more about intersectionality and lack there
of in queer spaces
- glad that asexuality and aromanticism were discussed, but I felt that outside of the moments they were specifically called out it wasn’t considered (basically, the importance of aspec identities was acknowledged once, but not considered in other sections)
- the last chapter telling you “what you can do” didn’t feel like it actually provided anything, and felt kind of pointless/repetitive
- appreciate the quotes from other folks in the queer community, as I think they truly helped to round out this book
Displaying 1 of 1 review