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If You Must Go, I Wish You Triplets: A Memoir
Sometimes, we know the least about those we love the most.
It took less than an hour for an old life to end and a new one to begin. When Virginia DeLuca’s sixty-year-old husband abruptly walked out on their serene and happy—even joyful—marriage, proclaiming a sudden desire to have babies, everyone had a theory. He already knocked someone up. Nervous breakdown. Brain tumor.
After DeLuca met her husband, she learned that it was possible for her to love with abandon and entwine her life with this caring and compassionate man. But fourteen years later, she was only left with the mystery of the ending.
DeLuca, a psychotherapist, spent decades helping clients cope with sudden losses and dramatic changes—and now it’s happened to her. Now, she must hunt to find the truth of her own story.
In the tradition of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb, If You Must Go, I Wish You Triplets is an unflinching exploration of love and relationships from a woman who ultimately found that life can expand in unanticipated ways.
It took less than an hour for an old life to end and a new one to begin. When Virginia DeLuca’s sixty-year-old husband abruptly walked out on their serene and happy—even joyful—marriage, proclaiming a sudden desire to have babies, everyone had a theory. He already knocked someone up. Nervous breakdown. Brain tumor.
After DeLuca met her husband, she learned that it was possible for her to love with abandon and entwine her life with this caring and compassionate man. But fourteen years later, she was only left with the mystery of the ending.
DeLuca, a psychotherapist, spent decades helping clients cope with sudden losses and dramatic changes—and now it’s happened to her. Now, she must hunt to find the truth of her own story.
In the tradition of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb, If You Must Go, I Wish You Triplets is an unflinching exploration of love and relationships from a woman who ultimately found that life can expand in unanticipated ways.
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Published September 23, 2025
About the author
Virginia DeLuca
5 books54 followers“You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world,” James Baldwin wrote, “but then you read.” That line has shaped both my writing and my work as a therapist. Stories remind us we are not alone—even when our experiences feel singular.
I’m a memoirist and psychotherapist in Boston. My debut memoir, If You Must Go, I Wish You Triplets, examines emotional inheritance, marriage, and what it means to begin again in one’s 60s. The book has been featured in The New York Times’ “Modern Love,” Vulture, and HuffPost, and has become one of the top-ranked divorce titles on Amazon.
I’m also the author of the novel As If Women Mattered, inspired by the exhilaration and upheaval of the women’s movement. My essays have appeared in the Iowa Review, The Writer, HuffPost, and other publications. I’m currently at work on The Shape of Later, a memoir about aging, identity, and the courage it takes to rewrite the stories we inherit.
I’m a memoirist and psychotherapist in Boston. My debut memoir, If You Must Go, I Wish You Triplets, examines emotional inheritance, marriage, and what it means to begin again in one’s 60s. The book has been featured in The New York Times’ “Modern Love,” Vulture, and HuffPost, and has become one of the top-ranked divorce titles on Amazon.
I’m also the author of the novel As If Women Mattered, inspired by the exhilaration and upheaval of the women’s movement. My essays have appeared in the Iowa Review, The Writer, HuffPost, and other publications. I’m currently at work on The Shape of Later, a memoir about aging, identity, and the courage it takes to rewrite the stories we inherit.
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