**4.5 actual stars**
what makes me think i could start clean slated
the hardest to learn was the least complicated...
Quick establishment of bias; Navessa Allen and I are friends on Goodreads and have been for a while. With that said, I would never artificially inflate my rating just to make her happy...mostly because it wouldn't, and indeed would probably cause her to like me less. What follows is my honest opinion.
I've had a difficult time finding romances that I like, as anyone who follows my reviews can likely tell. Most genre romance (especially the traditionally published variety) at best leaves me thinking "well that was kinda cute I guess" and at worst leaves me wanting to throw my Kindle across the room.
Snowed In went above and beyond all that. Like the first relationship that really makes your head spin, Allen's book finally showed me what all the fuss was about. For the first time, I actually felt the characters and the story; it managed to gently slide its way past my cynical, analytical brain and put me on the edge of my seat, wanting matters to work out for the lovers, worried that it wouldn't, wincing at their struggles and grinning like a fool when their lives went well.
With that in mind, allow me to put on my favorite Indigo Girls CD (because sweet-yet-literate love songs feel quite appropriate here) and get into why this book worked so well for me, hopefully in a spoiler-free fashion.
Now, quick aside; thanks to my IRL romantic past, I am so not into "dark" romance. Indeed, I view it through the same lens that most combat veterans look at war movies; I've experienced the reality, so the theme-park fantasy version is about as appealing as a root canal. If such fiction is your jam, I'm not judging you...but this book is likely not your speed.
Anyhow, let's move on.
Him and Her
Cause we're okay, we're fine
Baby I'm here to stop your crying
Chase all the ghosts from your head
I'm stronger than the monster beneath your bed
Smarter than the tricks played on your heart
We'll look at them together then we'll take them apart
Adding up the total of a love that's true
Multiply life by the Power Of Two
A big place where this book was a smashing success was in the two leads, Ella and Ben. In both cases, they were the type of character that so often goes astray due to cliches or cultural gender-politics toxicity, but Allen neatly sidesteps all the bad tropes and hands the reader a pair of solid, believable, likeable protagonists that are easy to cheer for.
The heroine Ella is one of the few examples of a "quirky, spontaneous, highly emotive" female character that doesn't grow annoying, feel forced, or fall down into Manic Pixie Dream-Girl territory. She's quirky and temperamental, but not in an abusive or selfish way. Sometimes I felt like her reactions were a tad extreme/spastic, but I've personally known women like her so for me she was never unbelievable. Just a bit of a spaz, and since she sorta reminded me of a close childhood friend her antics were endearing. Your mileage may vary, but I liked her. About the only "miss" I can speak to; I've heard about the concept of "book boyfriends" and unfortunately I've yet to encounter the distaff equivalent for myself. Ella came close, but her titterflit ways would drive me up the wall in a dating relationship. With a shrug, my search for a book girlfriend must unfortunately continue.
The hero Ben was in some ways an even bigger success. Now, I know a great deal of ink has been (rightly) spilled about how male authors can't write female characters well. Yeah, that's true, a lot of male authors can't...but can we spare a moment for all the female authors who can't write believable men? Most, especially in genre romance, are irritating caricatures; selfish, macho, violent dick-driven cardboard cutouts with washboard abs whose IQ floats somewhere close to the speed limit of a country road. I've put down more than one romance because the male lead reminded me of the jerk-jocks who shoved me around my entire adolescence. Then there are the ones who basically behave like women with peens - sorry, but there are some socialized differences between the genders and its lazy writing to pretend otherwise.
Ben, on the other hand, was that rarest of creatures. He's a male character in a romance who "feels" masculine but isn't a jerk. He's patient, kind and attentive while retaining a "core" of real masculine ideals like integrity, strength of will and a desire to achieve. Also, how Ben dealt with the story's conflict resonated with me as a male reader; his decisions (and his shortcomings - the characters aren't perfect, their flaws are part of what make the story great) were familiar. More than once I found myself nodding my head and thinking "yeah, I feel ya man". I'd love to give examples, but I promised y'all a spoiler-free review.
To sum my opinion of him the best way I know how, I can say this; if Ben were real, I'd want to have a beer with him. When it comes to male leads in romance that does not happen ever.
The Conflict
maybe that's all that we need is to meet in the middle of impossibility
we're standing at opposite poles, equal partners in a mystery
equal partners in a mystery...
Now we come to the aspect of Snowed In that truly won me over - the story's conflict.
Again, this is hard to describe without resorting to spoilers, but the plot's conflict revolves around mental illness...andfor fucking once it's handled with compassion, detail and searing accuracy. The result was a nasty situation Ella and Ben must deal with that had me wincing in sympathy. These weren't overgrown children whinging about their "feelzies"; these were Grown Ass Adults dealing with Grown Ass Adult Problems.
Quick personal aside: Last April my fiancee was in a terrible, near-fatal car accident that left her crippled for months. During that time I got a big taste of how much ending up in the hospital and dealing with medical bureaucracies can totally ruin a person's mood. Allen captured the ugly cocktail of emotions in such a situation with unstinting, nigh-on perfect accuracy. My own experiences were what likely made the story resonate so hard with me, but they also let me tell you...Allen gets her shit totally right here.
Likewise, there is a moment where the characters seriously reconsider their relationship...and not only did both their reasons make perfect sense, I totally felt for them - Ben in particular. His emotions and his thought processes were so real, I could see myself in his shoes worrying about the same stuff and making the same choices (right down to his occasional "mistakes").
The ending is perfect; just the right amount stability that a good HEA needs without any magical handwaving or "Love Fixes Everything" type bullshit that shows up in SO MANY romances. At the end, Ella and Ben are about as happy as any couple could be in their situation...but they still have problems they will have to face, forever. That idea - that their situation is not and will never be perfect and does stand a chance of falling apart horribly due to forces beyond their control, but they're gonna go for it anyway - was exactly what a story like this one needed. I started out enjoying it, on the way through I was impressed with it and by the end I was satisfied.
Niggles
There's only a few minor issues that kept this from being a five-star read for me.
-present tense: The story is written in dual perspective first person, present tense. That last, I absolutely cannot freakin' STAND it. Under ordinary circumstances its a complete deal-breaker for me, so consider it a testament to Allen's abilities as a storyteller that I not only made it through this book, I enjoyed it as much as I did.
-background characters: While none of the background characters were annoying, some of them had a "sameness" to their actions and dialogue which made them run together in my head sometimes. I think its because the descriptions of who they were in Ella and Ben's life were often served in big glops, and I skimmed those because I wanted to get back to the main show. Then I was left being all "who is this person again? Why do they matter?" Its minor, but its there. One more pass through the Editing Machine would fix it methinks.
-That One Phrase: Okay, this last is a complete personal-taste issue, and it probably bothers far more than it should...but Ben uses the phrase "tongue-fuck" to describe performing oral sex on Ella. It just...I dunno, rang wrong to me and sounded gross. Maybe Allen was trying to add some salt to Ben's character (he IS a football player), but it was fart-in-church levels of nope for me. Your mileage my vary.
In the end, if you like your romances sweet but are sick of light and fluffy, I highly recommend you give Snowed In a gander. It combines gooey, affectionate romance with a serious, weighty emotive conflict, grown-ass characters and a pinch of social commentary. The perfect read for a cold winter's day.