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September 14, 2025
I'd been following her on Instagram and her words there were a lifeline to me going through this last year. This book is all that times ten. She takes on issues such as blame and resentment, codependency and intimacy and moves beyond the platitudes that just don't "fit" offering lived experience and wisdom. I highly recommend!
September 20, 2025
I found Annie online (thank you random algorithms) about 6 months ago. “Oh, my gosh! She’s like me! I’m not alone. She’s like me!”
When I found out she had this book, recently released, I could not buy it fast enough. I put my current read aside and tore through this.
Annie, thank you. I feel supported, validated, and not alone. I had my divorce papers 9 days in 2022, then my spouse passed. Reading this is hard. If you were/are the spouse or caregiver of an alcoholic, Annie’s experiences and feelings will probably mirror your own. The feelings that it was your fault, that you couldn’t love them enough, support them enough, be enough. Yet be the focus and take the brunt of their mental conditions and addiction. Annie has been there and this read is giving you the permission and guidance to tell the truth. It is not your fault, it’s ok to be hurt, it’s ok to be mad, it is ok to walk away to be the parent you need to be for your children and it’s ok to save yourself. She offers insite, first hand experience and resources for help.
If you haven’t experienced having a loved one in active alcoholism, but maybe you have a friend that is going through this, please read. If you are a new partner to someone who has come out of a former relationship impacted by addiction, I’d recommend this read too. It will offer some onsite to the trauma they’ve experienced.
Thank you, Annie. Your bravery and ability to put this out there is immensely helpful to those of us still struggling to use our voice.
When I found out she had this book, recently released, I could not buy it fast enough. I put my current read aside and tore through this.
Annie, thank you. I feel supported, validated, and not alone. I had my divorce papers 9 days in 2022, then my spouse passed. Reading this is hard. If you were/are the spouse or caregiver of an alcoholic, Annie’s experiences and feelings will probably mirror your own. The feelings that it was your fault, that you couldn’t love them enough, support them enough, be enough. Yet be the focus and take the brunt of their mental conditions and addiction. Annie has been there and this read is giving you the permission and guidance to tell the truth. It is not your fault, it’s ok to be hurt, it’s ok to be mad, it is ok to walk away to be the parent you need to be for your children and it’s ok to save yourself. She offers insite, first hand experience and resources for help.
If you haven’t experienced having a loved one in active alcoholism, but maybe you have a friend that is going through this, please read. If you are a new partner to someone who has come out of a former relationship impacted by addiction, I’d recommend this read too. It will offer some onsite to the trauma they’ve experienced.
Thank you, Annie. Your bravery and ability to put this out there is immensely helpful to those of us still struggling to use our voice.
January 8, 2026
This book is the first one I have read that truly outlines how this feels. I felt totally alone and like I was crazy until I found Annie's social media pages and this book!
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