I was provided an advanced copy for an honest review. Thank you, netgalley and Grand Central.
I'll start with the positive first. Many of the stories were amusing and I enjoyed the conversational angle of the writing. It was nice to get observations from another party after reading Lisa Marie Presley’s memoir From Here to the Great Unknown, particularly those on Lisa Marie’s husbands Danny Keough, Michael Jackson, Nicolas Cage and Michael Lockwood. And it was interesting to hear the division between the heart and common sense regarding Elvis, as well as her introspection of the appeal of Scientology and leaving it.
However, it was certainly interesting to read this book after reading Lisa Marie’s. As I got deeper into Priscilla’s book, it became apparent that a purpose of the book was to do damage control, to revise Lisa Marie’s truth (which wasn't particularly kind to Priscilla), and to get the final word. Lisa Marie is often described critically and almost like a villain at times with Priscilla being the long-suffering and patient mother of the century- this angle is interesting considering Lisa Marie’s own recollections of her mother as cold and neglectful. Whereas I could feel Lisa Marie and daughter Riley Keough begging the reader for understanding and compassion and to simply *hear* Lisa Marie in From Here to the Great Unknown, Priscilla’s version of events in Softly As I Leave You felt like she was saying "don't listen to them and their lies, listen to ME." She even suggests to the reader that Lisa Marie’s book and memoir tapes are inaccurate and what Lisa Marie "believed had happened." It feels almost malicious to do so.
This tendency to talk over and demean Lisa Marie’s experiences is no more apparent than it is when Priscilla recounts Lisa Marie's molestation as a child by Priscilla’s boyfriend. Priscilla seems to understand it would be wrong to outright call Lisa Marie a liar and bizarrely opts to talk about Lisa Marie's crush on the boyfriend and letters Lisa Marie wrote defending the man. There's something almost calculating in how Priscilla plants these seeds of doubt into Lisa Marie’s memories while placing herself as the clueless but strong mother who removed the problem swiftly (Lisa Marie herself states it took years). Gone is Lisa Marie’s tales of Priscilla’s drug use and neglect, now Priscilla’s life revolved around Lisa Marie and not her boyfriends or shipping Lisa Marie to different schools. Lisa Marie’s pain of being misunderstood and shoved into schools away from her mother is replaced with a doting mother having to deal with such a difficult and wild child who exaggerated the facts. She wraps these tales in "love" and a perceived good-natured shake of the head (kids, right??) and it actually did the opposite of what was intended for me- instead of questioning Lisa Marie’s memories, I instead started to see the unfortunate manipulation and gaslighting Lisa Marie felt she had gone through (another example? Lisa Marie and Riley describe Priscilla as disliking and trying to separate first husband and best friend Danny from Lisa Marie, but here? Danny is loved and respected and a great guy, which is probably the best thing to say about the guy loyal to her daughter for decades and whom tried to save her life on her final day). Complimentary and kind observations about Lisa Marie at times felt like an afterthought since she is no longer here to defend herself. So many loving observations felt almost insincere, which was a shame to feel because Lisa Marie seemed to need love and compassion. While it is obvious Priscilla loved and loves Lisa Marie, I didn't feel as if Priscilla particularly *liked* her, especially when she couldn't control her.
Also an afterthought? Lisa Marie’s children, who are strangely excluded for most of the book except for Riley, who now runs the Elvis estate and holds the purse strings.
It is also made abundantly clear who was the golden child in Priscilla’s life- her son Navarone. A ridiculous amount of ink is reserved for tedious stories of how kind, smart, handsome, perfect Navarone is and the contrast of those with the descriptions of Lisa Marie is at times shocking. Even the bulk of family photos in the book are of Navarone! There is a lack of awareness when Priscilla describes the obsessively close relationships between Elvis and his mother and Lisa Marie and her equally troubled son Benjamin, since Priscilla absolutely has that same thing going on with Navarone. She treats Navarone's drug addiction with care and compassion, as one should, while describing Lisa Marie as disheveled and trying to get Priscilla to help her lie during a custody battle in the middle of her addiction. Navarone is given all her help and care, while Lisa Marie is critically observed to be resistant to a therapy she desperately needs since childhood, however Priscilla makes no mention of ever getting Lisa Marie therapy after her father died or as a troubled teen (additionally, another revision by Priscilla- both Lisa Marie and Riley Keough discuss Lisa Marie attending therapy in their memoir). No one is perfect, but it's telling Lisa Marie’s flaws are front and center while Navarone and Priscilla are just victims and heroes who make oopsies (the same compassion and rush to defense is given to Lisa Marie’s third and fourth husbands). Navarone's struggles are given chapters while Lisa Marie’s final days and death is somewhat and bizarrely rushed.
There is also a healthy spoonful of narcissism in Softly As I Leave You. Priscilla thinks VERY highly of herself! She is the most beautiful, the best mother, the most understanding and patient, the business prodigy, the talented actress, the responsible and strong matriarch and the true love of Elvis. Any self reflection or criticism of her own behavior is superficial at best. A high self-esteem is necessary in this life but Priscilla takes it to the next level, centering herself as the victim and hero of every story, whether her own or her children's or her extended family. In Priscilla’s world, Lisa Marie’s death is about her. Danny Keough's open grief in the hospital at the reality of losing his soulmate (as daughter Riley referred to her parents) is only to support Priscilla’s spotty version of events (what medical staff tells people "you better catch her because she's going to fall" regarding the delicate issue of life support?). Priscilla is front and center and it's no more apparent in how she centers herself during Lisa Marie’s final hours- Riley is an afterthought, for Priscilla chooses to remove support from Lisa Marie before all her children can say goodbye.
Like I said earlier, I do appreciate some of Priscilla’s observations. Whereas Riley Keough seemed to omit things for privacy or family relationships or whatever, Priscilla gives the little details which were interesting to compare and add to the recollections from the other book. We get a fuller picture for certain events, such as Lisa Marie’s music career, which was bizarrely mostly ignored in her own book- this was perhaps the most endearing moments of the book to me, we see Priscilla have genuine pride in Lisa Marie’s music, and I certainly hope Lisa Marie knew her mother loved it. We get more details of her marriage to Elvis and her own parents; as well as the deterioration of Lisa Marie's marriages. Lisa Marie’s book felt rushed, like the publisher just had to get its profits, and the book suffers for it- whole decades and events are missing, no photos, and incredibly and disappointingly short although very well-written and a great book. Priscilla’s isn't as well-written or engaging but it's at least detailed. The reflections of Priscilla’s life with Elvis and stories of the people she worked with were interesting if over-long. But unfortunately, for me, the bad outweighed the good.
Softly As I Leave You unfortunately feels as though Priscilla needed to have the final word over being honest of her own shortcomings or mistakes. Priscilla's ghostwriter looks to have scoured interviews and tabloids to pad the book with dialogues or recollections straight from Diane Sawyer interviews, and went one by one to counter claims made in Lisa Marie’s book. Instead of an end of life tome dedicated to self reflection and within loss and grief discovering what was done and what had been, as Lisa Marie’s book excellently accomplished, Priscilla’s seems incredibly focused on making sure she gets the hero edit, even at the expense of her own daughter (an example? She claims it was Lisa Marie’s idea to sell 85% of the family business, however, it was apparently Priscilla’s and her business manager’s idea). She revises history to make sure everyone knows how wonderful she is and how flawed Lisa Marie was, and it's somewhat disturbing and troubling to read as the book goes further along.
After reading Lisa Marie’s book, I suppose I expected something more honest and self-critical from Priscilla, especially after the whole mess of Priscilla questioning Lisa Marie’s estate going to her eldest daughter, and Lisa's own memories of a less-than-maternal presence in Priscilla (not to mention a recently released letter from Riley to Priscilla questioning why Priscilla was saying she was so close to Lisa Marie despite being estranged for almost a decade and why Priscilla was hurting her by questioning Lisa Marie’s final wishes). Instead, we get a polished, superficial and self-indulgent tribute and celebration of Priscilla (and Navarone), from Priscilla. Just don’t look underneath at the rot on the family tree. Very disappointing.