No One Warned You About This Part: A mirror, a hand to hold, and a soft place to land.

by Yetunde Ogundiya

Have you ever read a book and felt deeply emotional, not because it was your story, but because it somehow cracked something open in you? That’s what this book does. But it’s not just about feeling seen; it’s finding language for what you feel, and guidance for what comes next.

No One Warned You About This Part is part creative storytelling, part honest reflection, part big-sister wisdom.

Each chapter opens with a real, creative story; then lays the truth “This is what it is. This is why it hurts. This is what you can do about it.”

Because sometimes, you don’t need another motivational quote. You need someone to sit beside you and say, “Here’s the thing.” And walk you through it.

Each chapter holds a piece of what it means to be a woman in transition; whether you’re 22, 32 or 42. It’s for the girl child. The gifted kids. The over-thinkers. The hyper-independent girls. It’s for you, if you’ve ever sat in your room and “Nobody told me it would feel like this.”

Genres: Nonfiction

78 pages, Kindle Edition

Published September 13, 2025

Reviews

[Eloise Burns · Rating 4 out of 5]

Read this are stumbling across some quote on Instagram. It was thought provoking, but parts of it were a bit too feminist and “men are trash” for me. I don’t think it’s right to tarnish all men with the same brush, as they certainly aren’t all the same, this was anti men, which just irritated me. I think it’s a book I’d recommend to young women, as there are so valuable lessons in it, but I’d tell them to take it with a pinch of salt, and everyone is on different paths.

[Ebony · Rating 2 out of 5]

Yetunde Omobolanle is a wise 25 year old. I like how she’s figuring life out. She turns her phrases very well. I’d recommend her advice to the Gen Z’s in my life. (Although the Kindle version needs some serious formatting edits. The book title is even incorrect on Kindle.) Several of the reminders are poignant at any age. Choose yourself. You are becoming. Reclaim your voice. Be bold. But I’m truthfully looking for the version written by a 55 year old who was sure she had already become and then life started collapsing in on her. Perhaps that’s the real lesson. No one warns you about so many of the parts, but at least babygirls like Yetunde are saying that out loud and reminding the older generations to do our parts and prepare them and ourselves better.

[Eliane Anita · Rating 5 out of 5]

A book I didn’t know I needed. I wish I had this book 20 years ago. It would have helped me through so much. I’m definitely recommending this to all my younger cousins and friends.

[Siobhan Givens · Rating 4 out of 5]

I appreciated this book and although not every part resonated with me, there were several sections that did. It allowed me to think deeply about specific aspects of my life and some changes I need to explore to harness the truest version of myself and release the version of myself that has served others more than myself.

[Stephanie · Rating 3 out of 5]

I stumbled upon this book while scrolling on instagram. I saw a post that resonated and decided to read it. As a 30 year old woman and first born daughter, there were some chapters that I could relate too. Not all chapters aligned with me and that’s okay. It was a fast read.

[tamori98 · Rating 5 out of 5]

appreciation for shared knowledge, experience,& wisdom.

Oh my GOD thank you for your beautiful dialogue of knowledge I feel like I’ve grown just from this book I just know you’re a beautiful wise woman & truly thank you.❤️

[Ty · Rating 5 out of 5]

Came across this randomly. If you are in the “self” era you will get some great gems.

[Antonia Vardal · Rating 4 out of 5]

As an eldest daughter, I think the words in this book ring true and it felt nice to be validated by another woman. It’s definitely something I’ll revisit whenever I’m feeling low.

[Tyesha · Rating 2 out of 5]

*2.5

[Nicole · Rating 3 out of 5]

I liked the concept and overall message of this book. It talks a lot about the harsher realities of being a woman and especially the pressure of being the eldest daughter, which made it feel very relatable and reflective.

It’s a good pick if you’re in the mood for something feminist or if you just want a quick but meaningful read about womanhood and expectations. Nothing too heavy, definitely a quick read.