The Red Flag Diaries: This is Not a Romance Memoir

by Anita Lewis

Some red flags you spot right away. Others sneak in disguised as charm, romance, or “street smarts.”

This is not a love story. It’s a darkly funny relationship memoir about two disasters—a marriage built on red flags and a brief entanglement with a man who turned out to be far more dangerous than he first seemed—told with sharp hindsight, zero sugarcoating, and the occasional “why didn’t I just leave?” reflection.

The Red Flag Diaries drags toxic relationships out into the daylight and dares you to laugh at the absurdity.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why did I stay?” or wished you could go back and shake your younger self by the shoulders, this book is for you. Equal parts cautionary tale and comedy special, it’s proof that even the worst relationships can leave behind one thing worth a hell of a story.

PRAISE FOR THE RED FLAG DIARIES
“A gluttonous binge of wit, sarcasm, and jaw-dropping moments.”
— Reedsy Discovery Reviewer

Genres: Nonfiction, Memoir

203 pages, Kindle Edition

First published September 16, 2025

About the author

Hi, I’m Anita Lewis. I write memoir with teeth—sharp, sarcastic, and just a little bit unhinged. My debut, The Red Flag Diaries: This Is Not a Romance Memoir, is equal parts comedy, cringe, and “why did she stay with him that long?” I wrote it because therapy is expensive and sarcasm is free, because if you can’t laugh at your past, what’s the point?

PRAISE FOR THE RED FLAG DIARIES
“A gluttonous binge of wit, sarcasm, and jaw-dropping moments.”
— Reedsy Discovery Reviewer

Reviews

[Toni · Rating 5 out of 5]

From the very first pages, The Red Flag Diaries feels like a conversation with a friend who’s been through the wringer—and lived to tell the tale. Rather than a glittering romance memoir, what we find here is something textured, lively, uneasy, and honest: a collection of real-life-tinged stories about love, loss, and life, with the “red flags” (and the green lights) laid bare.
The structure is loose enough to feel spontaneous—pieces of memoir, pieces of reflection, pieces of “okay, here’s a red-flag moment I didn’t expect” and then “what did I learn from it?” And that’s what gives the book its pulse. It’s not about glossy perfection. It’s about the bruise, the bandage, the scar, and the lesson.
The Red Flag Diaries doesn’t promise the end of struggle—it promises the continuation of living. And for that, I found it beautiful.

[Tammy Horvath · Rating 5 out of 5]

We all make bad decisions. The difference in making bad decisions is that some people learn quickly from them, some keep making them forever, and others take time but eventually learn from them. I am no exception to this rule, as it took me forever to learn about my terrible choice in choosing my first husband. Therefore, the beginning of this book was hard to read, as I found myself deeply invested in the story because I could see all the mistakes Anita Lewis was making as they happened. But then the book took a turn. And I laughed, and laughed, and laughed some more. I highly recommend this book if you want an entertaining story, because it is terrific the further you read!

[Ann Campanella · Rating 5 out of 5]

Red flags everywhere! Anita Lewis tells a tale brimming with them. Looking back on her life, it’s easy for her to see now where she went wrong. But as a teenager, her innocent, flawed judgment had not yet been tested. I was amazed how this story reminded me of red flags I faced in early relationships that I didn’t necessarily recognize at the time. As a young person, like the author, I fell into situations that were not always healthy and didn’t know how to extricate myself. As the author grows up, truth seems to get stranger than fiction, and red flags multiply like crazy. This book is a wild ride and full of humor. A delightful read!