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O Wow: Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm
What is an ultimate orgasm?
An ultimate orgasm is your personal best orgasm. It doesn’t leave anything at the table. It doesn’t want anything more. It lasts as long as it lasts. It takes as long as it takes. It’s as messy and loud or quiet and tidy as you like. It has no room for shame or apology. An ultimate orgasm comes from questioning, exploring, experimenting, with no concern for how society or religion or anything else defines sex or female orgasm. The ultimate orgasm belongs to you and only you and it is your responsibility to find it, to have it, and to keep it for as long as you want to live a fully sexually satisfying life.
Want to know the secret to having the ultimate orgasm? Knowing your body and being in the zone. That’s it. Lots of tips and tricks and ideas follow later in the book. But first and foremost, we have to empower ourselves to pleasure. No matter how much your partner is committed to your orgasm, you are the only one who can and should be responsible for your orgasm.
There's no judgment. No right or wrong way. No bad orgasms.
An ultimate orgasm is your personal best orgasm. It doesn’t leave anything at the table. It doesn’t want anything more. It lasts as long as it lasts. It takes as long as it takes. It’s as messy and loud or quiet and tidy as you like. It has no room for shame or apology. An ultimate orgasm comes from questioning, exploring, experimenting, with no concern for how society or religion or anything else defines sex or female orgasm. The ultimate orgasm belongs to you and only you and it is your responsibility to find it, to have it, and to keep it for as long as you want to live a fully sexually satisfying life.
Want to know the secret to having the ultimate orgasm? Knowing your body and being in the zone. That’s it. Lots of tips and tricks and ideas follow later in the book. But first and foremost, we have to empower ourselves to pleasure. No matter how much your partner is committed to your orgasm, you are the only one who can and should be responsible for your orgasm.
There's no judgment. No right or wrong way. No bad orgasms.
239 pages, Kindle Edition
First published August 11, 2015
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About the author
Jenny Block
17 books33 followersJenny Block writes for a variety of regional and national publications as well as for various anthologies. The inspiration for her new book, "Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage" stems from her piece, “Portrait of an Open Marriage” which ran in Tango, and was reprinted by Cosmopolitan Germany and The Huffington Post.
Jenny holds both her Bachelor’s and her Master’s in English from Virginia Commonwealth University, where she taught composition for nearly ten years. She also spent time teaching at the University of Richmond as well as at Strayer University and wrote and lectured about teaching and learning for Newsweek Magazine and Addison Wesley Longman Publishing.
Jenny holds both her Bachelor’s and her Master’s in English from Virginia Commonwealth University, where she taught composition for nearly ten years. She also spent time teaching at the University of Richmond as well as at Strayer University and wrote and lectured about teaching and learning for Newsweek Magazine and Addison Wesley Longman Publishing.
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November 23, 2015
Great book for all women. Brought to light how little most women know about our own bodies, and how most of us were taught to be ashamed of our sexuality in general. Fascinating information, and fun assessments! Thanks, Jenny!
August 16, 2018
An important book, but not a well written one. It's a strong polemic for women's sexuality in and of itself, unrelated to men and what makes men feel satisfied. Block says that lesbian sex and masturbation free women from male bondage, and makes a convincing case. She also takes it to the male of the species, pointing out that female orgasms are both longer and more frequent than the male kind. She is very strong on ejaculation or intercourse not being the be all and, literally, end all of sex, and she hates the term foreplay. Sex for Block is not a journey to an end point but a circle that never stops renewing itself, never comes to a climax except for the purpose of beginning all over again.
O Wow! is not a comfortable book for men to read, which is the main reason I read it. It tends to make women's sex seem like a closed circuit, with men playing subordinate roles to women's pleasure. A more serious flaw, in my view, is that it says nothing about relationships, what role they play in sex, or how desire contributes to arousal and sexual satisfaction. Her descriptions of sex have a decidedly mechanistic quality. She makes "partners" seem almost interchangeable as long as both consent to what they're doing. Sex for Block seems detached from the person with whom one is having it, as long as that person is attentive to the other's needs. At the same time, everything she says about female orgasms and the activities that surround them sounds true. No one destroys the "smoke a cigarette, roll over on the pillow, and go to sleep" view of human sexuality, beloved of thousands of movies and TV shows, as effectively as Block does.
My biggest problem with the book was its repetitiousness. Several chapters seem nearly interchangeable. She is so focused on the idea of women's sex being for pleasure that she directs every discussion to that aim. Much of the book reads as a rather plodding "How to" for women, but that may be inevitable. It's certainly something men need to attend to (as well as women.) But too much of O Wow! reads like an instruction manual rather than an exploration of female sexuality. Perhaps that's what women want, but it made the book a bit tedious in the midde chapters.
For all this, Jenny Block has written a radical corrective to time-honored views of female sexuality. For that, if nothing else, the book is worth reading, and taking to heart.
O Wow! is not a comfortable book for men to read, which is the main reason I read it. It tends to make women's sex seem like a closed circuit, with men playing subordinate roles to women's pleasure. A more serious flaw, in my view, is that it says nothing about relationships, what role they play in sex, or how desire contributes to arousal and sexual satisfaction. Her descriptions of sex have a decidedly mechanistic quality. She makes "partners" seem almost interchangeable as long as both consent to what they're doing. Sex for Block seems detached from the person with whom one is having it, as long as that person is attentive to the other's needs. At the same time, everything she says about female orgasms and the activities that surround them sounds true. No one destroys the "smoke a cigarette, roll over on the pillow, and go to sleep" view of human sexuality, beloved of thousands of movies and TV shows, as effectively as Block does.
My biggest problem with the book was its repetitiousness. Several chapters seem nearly interchangeable. She is so focused on the idea of women's sex being for pleasure that she directs every discussion to that aim. Much of the book reads as a rather plodding "How to" for women, but that may be inevitable. It's certainly something men need to attend to (as well as women.) But too much of O Wow! reads like an instruction manual rather than an exploration of female sexuality. Perhaps that's what women want, but it made the book a bit tedious in the midde chapters.
For all this, Jenny Block has written a radical corrective to time-honored views of female sexuality. For that, if nothing else, the book is worth reading, and taking to heart.
February 3, 2021
(The English review is placed beneath the Russian one)
Книга представляет собой что-то среднее между журнальной статьёй и книгой типа «Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters—And How to Get It». Нельзя сказать, что это исключительно сборник статей из глянцевого журнала, но и к серьёзной литературе книгу тоже нельзя отнести. Тем не менее, это определённо лучше, чем тот тип книг, к которым относится книги такого автора как Violet Blue, чьи книги можно охарактеризовать как «расширенная журнальная статья». Не исключаю, что это разница мне показалась и всё дело в стиле этих двух авторов, т.к. начало книги «O Wow» довольно шокирующее. Всё же групповая мастурбация в качестве обучающего урока, о которой пишет автор, это довольно специфическое действо. Но, возможно, для женщин это в порядке вещей. И вот если убрать из книги такие экстраординарные моменты, то мы получим обычную, но комплексную книгу по самопомощи о том, как женщине достигнуть оргазма. На эту тему написано уже много книг, но, как можно догадаться, ничего радикального или нового во всех этих книгах, в принципе, быть не может (то же самое касается многочисленных видеороликов на YouTube). Не стала исключением и эта книга. Мы получаем всё тот же знакомый список, который можно встретить практически везде: женщина имеет право получать наслаждение от секса ровно такое же, какое получает мужчина (им просто нужно больше времени и т.д. и т.п.), клиторальный оргазм, мастурбация, секс-игрушки, важность того, чтобы партнёр понимал разницу между женским и мужским оргазмами и так далее. Мне даже кажется, что книгу можно было сократить в половину, т.к. автор ну очень долго пишет о том, что женщина должна разрешить себя получать удовольствие.
В общем, к содержанию книги у меня претензий нет. Новичку будет интересно и познавательно.
The book is somewhere between a magazine article and a book like "Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters-And How to Get It. It's not exactly a collection of articles from a glossy magazine, but it can't be considered as serious literature, either. Nevertheless, it is definitely better than the type of books that include books by an author like Violet Blue, whose books could be characterized as "extended magazine articles." I don't rule out that this difference seemed to me, and it's all about the style of these two authors, since the beginning of "O Wow" is pretty shocking. Still, group masturbation as a teaching lesson, which the author writes about, is a pretty specific act. But perhaps for women, it's okay. And so, if we remove such extraordinary things from the book, we get an ordinary but comprehensive self-help book on how a woman can reach orgasm. Many books have already been written on this subject, but, as you can guess, there can be nothing radical or new in all of these books, in principle (the same applies to numerous YouTube videos). This book is no exception. We get the same familiar list that can be found almost everywhere: women have the right to enjoy sex exactly as much as men do (they just need more time, etc., etc.), clitoral orgasm, masturbation, sex toys, the importance for the partner to understand the difference between female and male orgasms, and so on. I even feel that the book could have been shortened by half, as the author writes at great length about the fact that a woman must allow herself to enjoy pleasure.
In general, I have no complaints about the content of the book. It will be interesting and informative for a beginner.
Книга представляет собой что-то среднее между журнальной статьёй и книгой типа «Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters—And How to Get It». Нельзя сказать, что это исключительно сборник статей из глянцевого журнала, но и к серьёзной литературе книгу тоже нельзя отнести. Тем не менее, это определённо лучше, чем тот тип книг, к которым относится книги такого автора как Violet Blue, чьи книги можно охарактеризовать как «расширенная журнальная статья». Не исключаю, что это разница мне показалась и всё дело в стиле этих двух авторов, т.к. начало книги «O Wow» довольно шокирующее. Всё же групповая мастурбация в качестве обучающего урока, о которой пишет автор, это довольно специфическое действо. Но, возможно, для женщин это в порядке вещей. И вот если убрать из книги такие экстраординарные моменты, то мы получим обычную, но комплексную книгу по самопомощи о том, как женщине достигнуть оргазма. На эту тему написано уже много книг, но, как можно догадаться, ничего радикального или нового во всех этих книгах, в принципе, быть не может (то же самое касается многочисленных видеороликов на YouTube). Не стала исключением и эта книга. Мы получаем всё тот же знакомый список, который можно встретить практически везде: женщина имеет право получать наслаждение от секса ровно такое же, какое получает мужчина (им просто нужно больше времени и т.д. и т.п.), клиторальный оргазм, мастурбация, секс-игрушки, важность того, чтобы партнёр понимал разницу между женским и мужским оргазмами и так далее. Мне даже кажется, что книгу можно было сократить в половину, т.к. автор ну очень долго пишет о том, что женщина должна разрешить себя получать удовольствие.
В общем, к содержанию книги у меня претензий нет. Новичку будет интересно и познавательно.
The book is somewhere between a magazine article and a book like "Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters-And How to Get It. It's not exactly a collection of articles from a glossy magazine, but it can't be considered as serious literature, either. Nevertheless, it is definitely better than the type of books that include books by an author like Violet Blue, whose books could be characterized as "extended magazine articles." I don't rule out that this difference seemed to me, and it's all about the style of these two authors, since the beginning of "O Wow" is pretty shocking. Still, group masturbation as a teaching lesson, which the author writes about, is a pretty specific act. But perhaps for women, it's okay. And so, if we remove such extraordinary things from the book, we get an ordinary but comprehensive self-help book on how a woman can reach orgasm. Many books have already been written on this subject, but, as you can guess, there can be nothing radical or new in all of these books, in principle (the same applies to numerous YouTube videos). This book is no exception. We get the same familiar list that can be found almost everywhere: women have the right to enjoy sex exactly as much as men do (they just need more time, etc., etc.), clitoral orgasm, masturbation, sex toys, the importance for the partner to understand the difference between female and male orgasms, and so on. I even feel that the book could have been shortened by half, as the author writes at great length about the fact that a woman must allow herself to enjoy pleasure.
In general, I have no complaints about the content of the book. It will be interesting and informative for a beginner.
August 7, 2020
The pep talk version of an introduction to "female orgasm". As an introduction to said topic it's pretty solid, though I personally didn't gain much from reading this. It is extremely repetitive, which is only made bearable by the chattiness of the pep talk tone. Would recommend to sexually inhibited and inexperienced women who appreciates that kind of chatty buzzfeed tone in their non-fiction - if you're the kind of person who feels patronized or annoyed by that writing style you'll likely hate this, and if you know the basics on the topic you'll probably not learn a lot.
Also this is predictably cisnormative and binary in it's references to gender. No one is surprised by this, but I thought I'd mention it anyway in case some poor soul had any level of hope.
This ended up being a much more negative review than I intended. For what it is it's pretty good, I'm just not an ideal reader for it. I liked how she balanced the science and the anecdotal... evidence? stuff? Stuff. I can also appreciate her enthusiasm for all the pussies of the world. If you're gonna let anyone near your fucking magical cunt, make sure they're as excited - and honored - about it as Jenny Block would be.
Also this is predictably cisnormative and binary in it's references to gender. No one is surprised by this, but I thought I'd mention it anyway in case some poor soul had any level of hope.
This ended up being a much more negative review than I intended. For what it is it's pretty good, I'm just not an ideal reader for it. I liked how she balanced the science and the anecdotal... evidence? stuff? Stuff. I can also appreciate her enthusiasm for all the pussies of the world. If you're gonna let anyone near your fucking magical cunt, make sure they're as excited - and honored - about it as Jenny Block would be.
September 19, 2022
Easy to understand and full of good information!
To my surprise I already knew a lot of the general facts, which is odd considered that I'm a virgin and regularly not very sexual (I'm pending between asexual and demisexual). Because of that I also am very picky with my own body and I felt that a lot of the tips and tricks weren't ment for me, at least not in my current stage in life. The ones were she described things to do with your partner made me feel so alone haha!
But still a great book and I think everyone should take a peek at it if they have trouble with their sexual pleasure, or just want to learn more about their bodies. It's also great for partners and men to read since it takes up a lot of good points regarding sex with a partner and how to pleasure each other, as well as how to talk to each other before, during and after.
To my surprise I already knew a lot of the general facts, which is odd considered that I'm a virgin and regularly not very sexual (I'm pending between asexual and demisexual). Because of that I also am very picky with my own body and I felt that a lot of the tips and tricks weren't ment for me, at least not in my current stage in life. The ones were she described things to do with your partner made me feel so alone haha!
But still a great book and I think everyone should take a peek at it if they have trouble with their sexual pleasure, or just want to learn more about their bodies. It's also great for partners and men to read since it takes up a lot of good points regarding sex with a partner and how to pleasure each other, as well as how to talk to each other before, during and after.
August 8, 2022
Really good book on the topic of women and their needs. Certain parts of the book are heavy on "feminism". But instead of an equality desire, some of her tenets and assertions come across as misandry. Obviously men are not the target audience of this book, but I did codify many topics.
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