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How to Break a Girl: Whatever doesn't break you makes you write a novel about it
Taiwanese-Canadian writer Amanda Sung's debut novel, How to Break a Girl, originated from her master's thesis, initially written as a memoir and now reimagined as fiction that follows three Asian Canadian immigrant Elizabeth, Aurora, and Lily.
Born in Korea, Hong Kong, and Taiwan, the trio's lives embody the multicultural fabric of Vancouver, where the author grew up as a 'satellite child' without parents. Each character carries part of her own life, weaving a collective narrative that's both intimate and relatable.
Think Sex and the City—if Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha were Asian Canadian immigrants navigating not just love and career, but the complexities of intergenerational baggage, cultural curveballs, and all the gendered nonsense the world throws at them. This isn't a sob story—it's the sisterhood and sass you love, with a sharper edge and a deeper heart.
At its core, this is a story of unbreakable female friendship. All aspects of each protagonist's life—family, love, and career—get shattered, rebuilt, and rebuilt again. As each heroine confronts her darkest fear, from one city to another, their transformation demonstrates a broader that even in the midst of everything, there is always room for redefinition and resilience.
Get ready for a wild ride where identity and dignity don't just survive—they steal the show!
Born in Korea, Hong Kong, and Taiwan, the trio's lives embody the multicultural fabric of Vancouver, where the author grew up as a 'satellite child' without parents. Each character carries part of her own life, weaving a collective narrative that's both intimate and relatable.
Think Sex and the City—if Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha were Asian Canadian immigrants navigating not just love and career, but the complexities of intergenerational baggage, cultural curveballs, and all the gendered nonsense the world throws at them. This isn't a sob story—it's the sisterhood and sass you love, with a sharper edge and a deeper heart.
At its core, this is a story of unbreakable female friendship. All aspects of each protagonist's life—family, love, and career—get shattered, rebuilt, and rebuilt again. As each heroine confronts her darkest fear, from one city to another, their transformation demonstrates a broader that even in the midst of everything, there is always room for redefinition and resilience.
Get ready for a wild ride where identity and dignity don't just survive—they steal the show!
- GenresFictionContemporary
240 pages, Paperback
Published September 19, 2025
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February 26, 2026
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I have thought about How to Break a Girl every single day since I finished it — which is honestly the highest compliment I can give a book.
This novel follows three best friends — Elizabeth, Aurora, and Lily — as they move from university into adulthood, navigating love, ambition, immigration, betrayal, and the long process of reclaiming themselves. Their lives diverge across cities and relationships, but their bond remains the emotional center.
What stunned me most is how raw this feels. It’s sharp, culturally specific, and incredibly intelligent without ever feeling showy.
For a debut? Wildly impressive.
Heartbreaking. Relatable. Brave.
I have thought about How to Break a Girl every single day since I finished it — which is honestly the highest compliment I can give a book.
This novel follows three best friends — Elizabeth, Aurora, and Lily — as they move from university into adulthood, navigating love, ambition, immigration, betrayal, and the long process of reclaiming themselves. Their lives diverge across cities and relationships, but their bond remains the emotional center.
What stunned me most is how raw this feels. It’s sharp, culturally specific, and incredibly intelligent without ever feeling showy.
For a debut? Wildly impressive.
Heartbreaking. Relatable. Brave.
April 25, 2026
Uhhh yeah so. I didn't write a review when I first read it, because the author (from whom I received an ARC) explicitly told me not to unless it was 5 stars to not hurt her rating, and then argued with me about the feedback I sent her privately by claiming I just didn't read or didn't understand the book. Just wanted to put this out there because back then I was very new to the whole ARC thing but I honestly do not think this is how authors should be acting towards ARC reviewers. She's doing the same thing to other readers too, going out and arguing with their reviews and even guilt tripping people by saying that their reaction to her inability to write an emotionally compelling story stings because the novel is fictionalISED, not fiction, and she went through that stuff. Like, sorry to hear that, but... why are you saying that as if it somehow changes that the novel just isn't very well written? Because the novel really isn't very well written, and YES, I did read the entire thing and I did understand what you were trying (and, imo, failing) to do with the whole disjointed storylines and timeline mess and character back and forth and A dates B but then dates C and blah blah, I just didn't think it was particularly well executed or made for a compelling novel. Which is an opinion I'm allowed to have without you coming to argue with me. Like, why are you in here telling reviewers that you got sexually abused by a "white male murderer", intentionally using very emotionally charged language, when they dare criticise your novel as boring? If you cannot handle criticism, get off Goodreads, but leave readers alone please.
ANDDDDDD the author called Canada her "home and native land" in her own review of the book, which is just INCREDIBLY tone deaf in my opinion. There's ACTUAL native people there that continue to be displaced from their ACTUAL native land. Maybe I'm being nitpicky but like... that rubbed me the wrong way too
ANDDDDDD the author called Canada her "home and native land" in her own review of the book, which is just INCREDIBLY tone deaf in my opinion. There's ACTUAL native people there that continue to be displaced from their ACTUAL native land. Maybe I'm being nitpicky but like... that rubbed me the wrong way too
June 2, 2026
I thought the book itself with its underdeveloped characters, frustrating storylines where the characters don't learn to take accountability, and the overwritten prose that attempts to sound elevated only to come off as too try-hard were enough to warrant a 1 star rating alone. But the author invading into readers' spaces, being defensive against criticism, and telling readers that they're misinterpreting the book are unacceptable behaviors and crosses many boundaries between the author and readers. Not to mention ARC reviewers sharing how they were told to not publish their ratings if they were less than 5 stars is just bad practice. I think Amanda Sung needs to learn basic etiquette regarding how the bookish space online works, and maybe learn how to take criticisms instead of being combative.
And no, Amanda, I will not be passing along your book to anyone else. I've already returned my copy to Amazon as I'd rather not subject anyone else to this book.
And no, Amanda, I will not be passing along your book to anyone else. I've already returned my copy to Amazon as I'd rather not subject anyone else to this book.
January 29, 2026
First book I dnf in a very long time. Couldn’t get through it no matter how many times I tried. Not because of subject matter, purely writing style.
January 16, 2026
I received a copy of this book for free from the author for promotional purposes.
What a read!
This book packs quite the punch. It tackles so many important issues (be sure to check the trigger warnings before reading) like abuse, harassment, and assault, but it was all done with care. I also liked that it centered around Asian Canadians because they are not often depicted in media.
The star of the story is the friendship between the three main characters, Lily, Elizabeth and Aurora. They were so supportive of each other and created a beautiful found family.
Lily and Michael’s situationship really hit home for me. I’ve been in a situationship before, so I could relate a lot to what Lily was feeling.
Parts of the story took place in the Bay Area and it was very evident the author lived there. I lived in the Bay Area for the majority of my life so I’m always picky with how it is portrayed. The author referenced real places like the Cinemark at Santana Row (pg. 41) which is a theater I’ve been to many times. I was also very impressed with how freeways were referenced. One character states, “Take 92 and then 280” (pg. 236). That’s exactly how you state freeway numbers in Northern California. Southern Californians will add “the” in front of the number, but in NorCal you just state the number.
The story is also very meta, with one of the characters writing the book, How to Break a Girl. It brought the story full circle.
The storyline does jump around quite a bit which is intentional (it’s used to showcase trauma recall and the back and forth nature of the East and West experience). Using headers specifying the time and character would have been helpful in making it easier to follow.
Overall, I really enjoyed this one! If you love literary fiction, then you’ll love this one.
What a read!
This book packs quite the punch. It tackles so many important issues (be sure to check the trigger warnings before reading) like abuse, harassment, and assault, but it was all done with care. I also liked that it centered around Asian Canadians because they are not often depicted in media.
The star of the story is the friendship between the three main characters, Lily, Elizabeth and Aurora. They were so supportive of each other and created a beautiful found family.
Lily and Michael’s situationship really hit home for me. I’ve been in a situationship before, so I could relate a lot to what Lily was feeling.
Parts of the story took place in the Bay Area and it was very evident the author lived there. I lived in the Bay Area for the majority of my life so I’m always picky with how it is portrayed. The author referenced real places like the Cinemark at Santana Row (pg. 41) which is a theater I’ve been to many times. I was also very impressed with how freeways were referenced. One character states, “Take 92 and then 280” (pg. 236). That’s exactly how you state freeway numbers in Northern California. Southern Californians will add “the” in front of the number, but in NorCal you just state the number.
The story is also very meta, with one of the characters writing the book, How to Break a Girl. It brought the story full circle.
The storyline does jump around quite a bit which is intentional (it’s used to showcase trauma recall and the back and forth nature of the East and West experience). Using headers specifying the time and character would have been helpful in making it easier to follow.
Overall, I really enjoyed this one! If you love literary fiction, then you’ll love this one.
August 5, 2026
How to Break a Girl offered a thoughtful and deeply human portrait of Elizabeth, Lily, and Aurora, three Asian Canadian women navigating friendship, love, career, and the emotional complexities that shape their lives. Amanda Sung does not soften the harder edges of their stories; instead, she writes with refreshing honesty about heartbreak, betrayal, and the rawness of living through difficult seasons. The book is not always easy to get through, but its emotional depth and the strength of the women at its center kept me hooked throughout.
June 2, 2026
⭐️⭐️💫/5
Think Sex and the City, but make it Asian. It follows three Asian-Canadian women: Aurora, Elizabeth, and Lily as the three best friends navigate life and deal with different struggles and triumphs.
I liked that it was a pretty majority Asian character list because it gave a lot of representation. And I did like the realistic representation of the intergenerational traumas that many Asians do experience. But I do feel like it felt like a trauma-bomb. This is like decades of making the same mistakes over and over AND OVER again.
Everyone frustrated me at some point, but Lily had me so angry and I thought she was incredibly pathetic. I liked Aurora’s growth and her compassion and empathy. Elizabeth walked straight into problems at the very beginning, but eventually made better decisions. At some point, as an adult, you can either choose to let your past and your traumas make you stronger or just continue to use it as an excuse for all the terrible decisions you make. That was Lily. Even the end was ridiculous. Let it go. He doesn’t want you. Stop forcing it. Holy shit.
And don’t even get me started on 99% of the men in this.. because wtf.
I also was having a hard time with the timelines because it seemed all over the place.. and it read more like it wanted to be a screenplay instead of a literary fiction.
Read this if you want to be angry and in disbelief most of the time😂
**I originally rated this up to 3 stars, but then had a very unpleasant interaction with the author on my own review post on IG, so after really thinking about the book.. I’ve changed it to round down to 2 stars. Authors should not be coming at reviewers.
Think Sex and the City, but make it Asian. It follows three Asian-Canadian women: Aurora, Elizabeth, and Lily as the three best friends navigate life and deal with different struggles and triumphs.
I liked that it was a pretty majority Asian character list because it gave a lot of representation. And I did like the realistic representation of the intergenerational traumas that many Asians do experience. But I do feel like it felt like a trauma-bomb. This is like decades of making the same mistakes over and over AND OVER again.
Everyone frustrated me at some point, but Lily had me so angry and I thought she was incredibly pathetic. I liked Aurora’s growth and her compassion and empathy. Elizabeth walked straight into problems at the very beginning, but eventually made better decisions. At some point, as an adult, you can either choose to let your past and your traumas make you stronger or just continue to use it as an excuse for all the terrible decisions you make. That was Lily. Even the end was ridiculous. Let it go. He doesn’t want you. Stop forcing it. Holy shit.
And don’t even get me started on 99% of the men in this.. because wtf.
I also was having a hard time with the timelines because it seemed all over the place.. and it read more like it wanted to be a screenplay instead of a literary fiction.
Read this if you want to be angry and in disbelief most of the time😂
**I originally rated this up to 3 stars, but then had a very unpleasant interaction with the author on my own review post on IG, so after really thinking about the book.. I’ve changed it to round down to 2 stars. Authors should not be coming at reviewers.
April 1, 2026
Thank you to my book club which provided me a free copy!
I think, conceptually, could’ve liked it since the description seemed like it could be “The Queens of New York” by E.L. Shen, which is also about a group of Asian girls and their struggles with love alongside romance and sisterhood.
But unfortunately, the voices of the characters sounded pretty much the same that they were blending together. Maybe if the names were included on each chapter head, it would eliminate some of these issues.
Additionally, all the conflicts that the book was building up to felt rather lackluster. I had an overwhelming sense of “so what?” which isn’t an amazing feeling to have.
And the usage of a nonlinear time line was an interesting choice, and I can understand it; but it definitely threw off the pacing for me. It just felt really disjointed, unfortunately.
Overall, an alright read, but I don’t think it’s for me.
2/5 stars.
I think, conceptually, could’ve liked it since the description seemed like it could be “The Queens of New York” by E.L. Shen, which is also about a group of Asian girls and their struggles with love alongside romance and sisterhood.
But unfortunately, the voices of the characters sounded pretty much the same that they were blending together. Maybe if the names were included on each chapter head, it would eliminate some of these issues.
Additionally, all the conflicts that the book was building up to felt rather lackluster. I had an overwhelming sense of “so what?” which isn’t an amazing feeling to have.
And the usage of a nonlinear time line was an interesting choice, and I can understand it; but it definitely threw off the pacing for me. It just felt really disjointed, unfortunately.
Overall, an alright read, but I don’t think it’s for me.
2/5 stars.
March 24, 2026
The premise of this book is refreshing, it follows 3 young women who navigate their lives in Canada (and around the world really). It’s nice to see Asian women grappling with Eastern/Western issues. However, I found it hard to decipher which character was which, there wasn’t much distinction between each character for quite some time so I was confused for the first half of the book. The writing also felt a bit embellished and that made the reading experience jarring.
Thank you to the author for a free copy, I did end up purchasing it on Kindle as well.
***Edit: I had initially posted a 3 star review in fear of the retaliation of the author. Now that some time has passed, it has gone down to a generous 2. Despite the premise being refreshing, the writing was overdone and storyline lacked substance. Not to mention the author micromanaging me as a reader and telling me she was so disappointed that I gave her such a low review and to not post my negative review anywhere. After posting my initial review which took time to find the courage to do so, the author was back in my DMs saying she felt as though we had agreed not to post negatively on her goodread which was not the case. If you want to read the book, do so on your own terms and not because it’s been offered by the author. You could be subjected to micromanaging otherwise!***
Thank you to the author for a free copy, I did end up purchasing it on Kindle as well.
***Edit: I had initially posted a 3 star review in fear of the retaliation of the author. Now that some time has passed, it has gone down to a generous 2. Despite the premise being refreshing, the writing was overdone and storyline lacked substance. Not to mention the author micromanaging me as a reader and telling me she was so disappointed that I gave her such a low review and to not post my negative review anywhere. After posting my initial review which took time to find the courage to do so, the author was back in my DMs saying she felt as though we had agreed not to post negatively on her goodread which was not the case. If you want to read the book, do so on your own terms and not because it’s been offered by the author. You could be subjected to micromanaging otherwise!***
January 16, 2026
The development of characters for me felt rushed. I now know more about restaurants and brands in Canada and Taipei from this book. Some descriptions of situations just felt over the top. Was a disappointing read. I’m sorry.
January 29, 2026
Kudos to the author for talking about personal cultural experiences and their own story - but unfortunately the writing was clunky and didn’t translate into a compelling book.
January 27, 2026
Women have a tougher road to walk than men but women of color walk an even harder one. But like all women regardless of race, color or creed, we seek meaningful friendship, connection and love. This book explores these themes in such a poignant and powerful way. I enjoyed reading every page.
Elizabeth, Aurora, and Lily, three Asian women from Korea, Hong Kong, and Taiwan, living in Canada, have forged an unbreakable friendship. They are young women setting out to find their place in the world (so there is a coming-of-age element to the story) and striving to find love - a messy business it would seem in this book. All three are strong resilient women who learn (sometimes) from their mistakes but who value their independence but their sisterhood too. When push comes to shove, they are there for each other. I really loved their friendship.
The book explores cultural differences between the East and West. The settings in Hong Kong, Taiwan, the US and Canada are juxtaposed to pull out these contrasts. So you see these women acting at times differently in one versus the other and come to realize that women of different cultures are walking an even harder road. I think this is one of the best strengths of the book.
The men in the book are pretty shameful - so self absorbed and willing to pluck food off the tree and never thank or if they do thank they are lying when they do. Thankfully a few have staying power and by the end of the book all three women have found what love should look like to them. The betrayals Elizabeth, Aurora and Lily experience from the men in this book made me so sad.
This is a beautifully written book. I was blown away by the descriptive elements - when I read I’m not very visual but Sung’s descriptions popped for me (like snow making her head a cemetery). There are heavy elements in the book but these are handled with finesse and honesty. This book has a universality in its themes - it’s been described as akin to Sex and the City and I would agree to that. But I think this book is much better.
I want to thank the author, Amanda Sung, for sharing a copy of her book with me.
I highly recommend this book.
Elizabeth, Aurora, and Lily, three Asian women from Korea, Hong Kong, and Taiwan, living in Canada, have forged an unbreakable friendship. They are young women setting out to find their place in the world (so there is a coming-of-age element to the story) and striving to find love - a messy business it would seem in this book. All three are strong resilient women who learn (sometimes) from their mistakes but who value their independence but their sisterhood too. When push comes to shove, they are there for each other. I really loved their friendship.
The book explores cultural differences between the East and West. The settings in Hong Kong, Taiwan, the US and Canada are juxtaposed to pull out these contrasts. So you see these women acting at times differently in one versus the other and come to realize that women of different cultures are walking an even harder road. I think this is one of the best strengths of the book.
The men in the book are pretty shameful - so self absorbed and willing to pluck food off the tree and never thank or if they do thank they are lying when they do. Thankfully a few have staying power and by the end of the book all three women have found what love should look like to them. The betrayals Elizabeth, Aurora and Lily experience from the men in this book made me so sad.
This is a beautifully written book. I was blown away by the descriptive elements - when I read I’m not very visual but Sung’s descriptions popped for me (like snow making her head a cemetery). There are heavy elements in the book but these are handled with finesse and honesty. This book has a universality in its themes - it’s been described as akin to Sex and the City and I would agree to that. But I think this book is much better.
I want to thank the author, Amanda Sung, for sharing a copy of her book with me.
I highly recommend this book.
February 3, 2026
This one is an emotional journey about womanhood, female friendships, migration, relationships, family, culture, and abuse. You may find yourself disliking most of the male characters. Hunter was probably the only male character I could stand. But also a shout out to David’s no-nonsense mother, Mrs. Chou, who had a beautiful scene with Lily I really loved that made her a minor stand out character for me ✨
In the book you follow Elizabeth, Lily, and Aurora through their many life obstacles as they navigate adulthood. The timeline is disjointed and you find yourself weaving between the past, present, and future in a way that may seem jarring when the transitions happen between one timeline to the next, but I think it intentionally evokes a sense of not belonging to any specific moment in time— since all the memories/moments carry equal importance in shaping all the women into who they are.
I think I found myself drawn to Elizabeth’s story the most as she went through a very messy divorce, but I also loved Lily’s passion and self awareness. Aurora also had her moments where I felt deeply empathetic towards her past traumas. There’s beautiful passages about cultural belonging and immigration, as the characters navigate life between Canada, Asia, and the U.S. The topics of belonging and feeling like both a native and an outsider in your own homeland, are very relevant to today’s political climate.
Overall, I thought this was very thought-provoking & well-written book, and I especially loved how the ending mirrors the beginning.
In the book you follow Elizabeth, Lily, and Aurora through their many life obstacles as they navigate adulthood. The timeline is disjointed and you find yourself weaving between the past, present, and future in a way that may seem jarring when the transitions happen between one timeline to the next, but I think it intentionally evokes a sense of not belonging to any specific moment in time— since all the memories/moments carry equal importance in shaping all the women into who they are.
I think I found myself drawn to Elizabeth’s story the most as she went through a very messy divorce, but I also loved Lily’s passion and self awareness. Aurora also had her moments where I felt deeply empathetic towards her past traumas. There’s beautiful passages about cultural belonging and immigration, as the characters navigate life between Canada, Asia, and the U.S. The topics of belonging and feeling like both a native and an outsider in your own homeland, are very relevant to today’s political climate.
Overall, I thought this was very thought-provoking & well-written book, and I especially loved how the ending mirrors the beginning.
March 5, 2026
How to Break a Girl – Amanda Sung
Genre: Contemporary • Women’s Fiction • Literary Fiction
This isn’t a genre I usually reach for, but I’m really glad I gave it a chance. Amanda Sung has a beautiful writing style that immediately pulls you in and makes it easy to get lost in the characters and their experiences.
She takes life experiences and challenges and weaves them into the story in a way that feels both vulnerable and authentic. Some of the themes explored are heavy, but the emotional depth makes the story feel meaningful and very relatable. I appreciated how much heart was put into the characters and their journeys.
✨ If you enjoy: emotionally intense, character-driven stories that explore complicated relationships and personal growth, this may be one to check out.
Thank you to Amanda Sung for sending me a copy and trusting me with an honest review.
💔 Complex relationship dynamics
🌱 Vulnerability and healing
👥 Character-driven story
🌧️ Heavy, real-life themes
Genre: Contemporary • Women’s Fiction • Literary Fiction
This isn’t a genre I usually reach for, but I’m really glad I gave it a chance. Amanda Sung has a beautiful writing style that immediately pulls you in and makes it easy to get lost in the characters and their experiences.
She takes life experiences and challenges and weaves them into the story in a way that feels both vulnerable and authentic. Some of the themes explored are heavy, but the emotional depth makes the story feel meaningful and very relatable. I appreciated how much heart was put into the characters and their journeys.
✨ If you enjoy: emotionally intense, character-driven stories that explore complicated relationships and personal growth, this may be one to check out.
Thank you to Amanda Sung for sending me a copy and trusting me with an honest review.
💔 Complex relationship dynamics
🌱 Vulnerability and healing
👥 Character-driven story
🌧️ Heavy, real-life themes
February 11, 2026
How to Break a Girl is a beautifully written work of literary, memoir-inspired fiction. The story follows three friends and their individual journeys, highlighting the ripple effects of trauma, life’s choices, and the complexities of womanhood. The author explores heavy themes with care and nuance, and I found the writing both tasteful and emotionally impactful.
I especially commend the author for her bravery in weaving in elements of lived experience. There is a raw honesty to this story that feels intimate, powerful, and deeply human.
At times, the writing style made it a bit challenging for me to follow the timeline of events, but I also appreciated how the structure reflected the messy, nonlinear nature of the characters’ lives and healing.
Overall, I really appreciated the themes of womanhood, friendship, and the importance of supporting one another, all while thoughtfully exploring deeper topics like trauma, race, immigration, and life’s complicated choices. This story was emotional, and it genuinely helped deepen my empathy for others’ lived experiences.
Thank you to the author for sending me a copy of this book. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
I especially commend the author for her bravery in weaving in elements of lived experience. There is a raw honesty to this story that feels intimate, powerful, and deeply human.
At times, the writing style made it a bit challenging for me to follow the timeline of events, but I also appreciated how the structure reflected the messy, nonlinear nature of the characters’ lives and healing.
Overall, I really appreciated the themes of womanhood, friendship, and the importance of supporting one another, all while thoughtfully exploring deeper topics like trauma, race, immigration, and life’s complicated choices. This story was emotional, and it genuinely helped deepen my empathy for others’ lived experiences.
Thank you to the author for sending me a copy of this book. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
Did Not Finish
April 22, 2026really wanted to like this one but just could nottt follow along w this writing style 😣
January 15, 2026
How To Break A Girl
Author : Amanda Sung
Goodness gracious, I don't know if I can refer to these three women as damsels in distress or that they have just bad taste in men, but the whole vibe is giving me Sex and the City series.
Holy cow! Never have I felt so miserably destroyed by a book. I was aware of the trigger warnings, yet, the fact that the situations & experiences Elizabeth, Aurora & Lily had undergone were all comparable to hell, I could completely relate & empathize that I somehow just wanted to dive into the book itself & hug all three of them.
The intergenerational toxic culture & traditions, the challenging beaurocracy of being an immigrant, the racism, the academic expectations to be always the top in class at all subjects, the family chaos, as well as the sexism & expected role of a woman in a relationship, or at home as a wife, or at work in society.
Everything was like a reflection of my life literally screaming to the world, this is the raw, unfiltered, toxic life of being an Asian daughter.
I sobbed, I was pissed off, I laughed till my sides hurt - it was a chaotic rollercoaster ride. I could feel the strong emotions pouring out from every character in the story. Their love relationships, career, ultimately their whole lives were in complete disarray - and yet, their strong sisterhood bond was intensely unbreakable & it helped them stay grounded & sane to survive a cruel world.
Lastly tbh, I am goddamn thankful my husband is not like the red-flagged "boys" (cause they don't deserve to be called men) mentioned in the story. It just made me realize more how strong in reality empowered women are.
Thank you again Miss Sung for the complimentary copy! 🥹🫶
5/5 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
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Author : Amanda Sung
Goodness gracious, I don't know if I can refer to these three women as damsels in distress or that they have just bad taste in men, but the whole vibe is giving me Sex and the City series.
Holy cow! Never have I felt so miserably destroyed by a book. I was aware of the trigger warnings, yet, the fact that the situations & experiences Elizabeth, Aurora & Lily had undergone were all comparable to hell, I could completely relate & empathize that I somehow just wanted to dive into the book itself & hug all three of them.
The intergenerational toxic culture & traditions, the challenging beaurocracy of being an immigrant, the racism, the academic expectations to be always the top in class at all subjects, the family chaos, as well as the sexism & expected role of a woman in a relationship, or at home as a wife, or at work in society.
Everything was like a reflection of my life literally screaming to the world, this is the raw, unfiltered, toxic life of being an Asian daughter.
I sobbed, I was pissed off, I laughed till my sides hurt - it was a chaotic rollercoaster ride. I could feel the strong emotions pouring out from every character in the story. Their love relationships, career, ultimately their whole lives were in complete disarray - and yet, their strong sisterhood bond was intensely unbreakable & it helped them stay grounded & sane to survive a cruel world.
Lastly tbh, I am goddamn thankful my husband is not like the red-flagged "boys" (cause they don't deserve to be called men) mentioned in the story. It just made me realize more how strong in reality empowered women are.
Thank you again Miss Sung for the complimentary copy! 🥹🫶
5/5 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
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September 29, 2025
Three words that describe How to Break a Girl and its author: Bold. Vulnerable. Promising.
The story follows three women—Elizabeth, Lily, and Aurora—navigating adulthood while carrying the weight of family trauma, cultural expectations, and their own private heartbreaks. What really stood out was how real and complex these characters felt. Each woman had her own distinct voice and backstory, and yet their friendship was the glue that held everything together. Their conversations—sometimes sharp, sometimes tender—were some of the most authentic dialogue within a fictional story.
Sung’s writing style is poetic in nature but grounded, rich in emotion without ever feeling overdone. One example that stood out was a scene where Lily described her reaction to her father's betrayal:
“The mismatched laces (one navy, one black) mirrored her tangled emotions – anger at her father’s betrayal, pity for her floor-bound mother, and a bitter new resentment taking root like invasive blackberry vines through cracked concrete.”
That kind of writing is just... stunning!
This book is more than just a story about female friendship—it’s about surviving trauma, reclaiming your voice, and learning how to love (yourself and others) despite everything. The dialogue is sharp and witty, the cultural references are spot-on, and the emotions feel deeply lived in.
If you’re someone who values character-driven stories with emotional depth and a strong sense of place (from Vancouver to Taipei to California), you’ll find a lot to love here. This debut novel is raw, emotional, and very well-written—one of those rare reads that stays with you long after you’ve turned the final page. I look forward to the author’s next book.
The story follows three women—Elizabeth, Lily, and Aurora—navigating adulthood while carrying the weight of family trauma, cultural expectations, and their own private heartbreaks. What really stood out was how real and complex these characters felt. Each woman had her own distinct voice and backstory, and yet their friendship was the glue that held everything together. Their conversations—sometimes sharp, sometimes tender—were some of the most authentic dialogue within a fictional story.
Sung’s writing style is poetic in nature but grounded, rich in emotion without ever feeling overdone. One example that stood out was a scene where Lily described her reaction to her father's betrayal:
“The mismatched laces (one navy, one black) mirrored her tangled emotions – anger at her father’s betrayal, pity for her floor-bound mother, and a bitter new resentment taking root like invasive blackberry vines through cracked concrete.”
That kind of writing is just... stunning!
This book is more than just a story about female friendship—it’s about surviving trauma, reclaiming your voice, and learning how to love (yourself and others) despite everything. The dialogue is sharp and witty, the cultural references are spot-on, and the emotions feel deeply lived in.
If you’re someone who values character-driven stories with emotional depth and a strong sense of place (from Vancouver to Taipei to California), you’ll find a lot to love here. This debut novel is raw, emotional, and very well-written—one of those rare reads that stays with you long after you’ve turned the final page. I look forward to the author’s next book.
September 10, 2026
This book was three unique coming-of-age stories with a wonderful local flavour of Vancouver, Canada woven throughout. I really enjoyed how the city became more than just a backdrop—it added its own character and atmosphere to the story and made the setting feel familiar and inviting.
The trio of main characters was definitely one of my favourite parts of the book. Each character has their own personality, challenges, dreams, and unique journey, and I loved following them as they navigated the ups and downs of love, careers, friendships, and life. Their different experiences made the story feel relatable, while their connections with one another added warmth and depth.
What I particularly enjoyed was the way the story captures that uncertain stage of life when you're figuring out who you are, what you want, and where you belong. There are moments of humour, heart, self-discovery, and plenty of life lessons along the way.
Overall, this was an enjoyable and heartfelt read, especially for anyone who loves character-driven coming-of-age stories with a strong sense of place. There are some darker parts in the book so recommend a mature reading audience only.
The Vancouver setting, memorable characters, and themes of love, friendship, ambition, and finding your way in life made this a story I really enjoyed.
The trio of main characters was definitely one of my favourite parts of the book. Each character has their own personality, challenges, dreams, and unique journey, and I loved following them as they navigated the ups and downs of love, careers, friendships, and life. Their different experiences made the story feel relatable, while their connections with one another added warmth and depth.
What I particularly enjoyed was the way the story captures that uncertain stage of life when you're figuring out who you are, what you want, and where you belong. There are moments of humour, heart, self-discovery, and plenty of life lessons along the way.
Overall, this was an enjoyable and heartfelt read, especially for anyone who loves character-driven coming-of-age stories with a strong sense of place. There are some darker parts in the book so recommend a mature reading audience only.
The Vancouver setting, memorable characters, and themes of love, friendship, ambition, and finding your way in life made this a story I really enjoyed.
January 15, 2026
I really loved How to Break a Girl by Amanda Sung. It’s written very beautifully - in an almost poetic way.
What stood out to me most was the complexity of the issues the three Asian women navigate. The story spans trauma, culture, gender, identity, and love. Nothing is simplified or neatly resolved, and each protagonist has so much depth. They feel fully human.
I also deeply appreciated that this book is set in Canada, specifically Vancouver, and centres Asian women who live here. There are so many Asians in this city, yet I’ve rarely come across fiction that reflects this population and these lived experiences. Seeing Vancouver as the backdrop — familiar streets, familiar tensions — made the story feel even more intimate and meaningful.
What stood out to me most was the complexity of the issues the three Asian women navigate. The story spans trauma, culture, gender, identity, and love. Nothing is simplified or neatly resolved, and each protagonist has so much depth. They feel fully human.
I also deeply appreciated that this book is set in Canada, specifically Vancouver, and centres Asian women who live here. There are so many Asians in this city, yet I’ve rarely come across fiction that reflects this population and these lived experiences. Seeing Vancouver as the backdrop — familiar streets, familiar tensions — made the story feel even more intimate and meaningful.
August 5, 2026
An absolute tour de force. Amanda Sung has crafted a narrative that is as razor-sharp as it is deeply moving. How to Break a Girl is an unflinching look at ambition, vulnerability, and the complex architecture of modern relationships. Sung’s prose crackles with wit and emotional truth, making it nearly impossible to put down. Every character feels brilliantly flawed and entirely human, lingering in your mind long after you've turned the final page. A phenomenal achievement and easily one of the best reads of last year!
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A must-read for fans of contemporary literary fiction and psychological depth.
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
A must-read for fans of contemporary literary fiction and psychological depth.
February 8, 2026
Coming from a visual arts background, I felt deeply connected to the way the women’s journeys unfolded in How to Break a Girl. Each chapter pulled me in emotionally, leaving me eager to follow the characters wherever they went next. I constantly found myself visualizing the scenes as if they were already playing out on screen—imagining the visuals, the pacing, the atmosphere. The story feels incredibly cinematic, and I genuinely believe it would translate beautifully into a television series or film.
Leo
Leo
April 4, 2026
This novel is a gentle and emotional story about vulnerability, relationships, and finding yourself. Amanda Sung writes in a soft, thoughtful way that makes it easy to connect with the main character and her feelings.
Even though the themes can be serious, the book feels warm and sincere rather than heavy. It leaves a quiet but lasting impression.
Overall, it’s a touching and meaningful read for those who enjoy emotional, character-driven stories.
Even though the themes can be serious, the book feels warm and sincere rather than heavy. It leaves a quiet but lasting impression.
Overall, it’s a touching and meaningful read for those who enjoy emotional, character-driven stories.
August 2, 2026
This book is a journey of 3 friends’ experiences navigating the world as women of color, reclaiming their lives. It explores difficult topics like abuse, relationship trauma, exploitation etc, but also does well in going beyond the model minority myth. Generational trauma is also a theme in this novel which is heavy in Asian communities but not often talked about. Read the content warnings and be prepared to take breaks when you read it.
June 12, 2026
How to Break a Girl is like sitting down with a friend and hearing her tell you about her dating life in great detail. If your Asian best friend was telling you all these stories IRL your jaw would drop, but you'd want her to go on and on spilling all the tea.
One part tell-all, one part travel adventure, one part office gossip. It's a sexy, crazy read that'll have you turning the pages.
One part tell-all, one part travel adventure, one part office gossip. It's a sexy, crazy read that'll have you turning the pages.
February 4, 2026
amazing friendship story
What a fresh take on friendship, immigration, racism and complicated human relationships. Beautifully written and unexpected, this is one of my favourite books so far this year.
What a fresh take on friendship, immigration, racism and complicated human relationships. Beautifully written and unexpected, this is one of my favourite books so far this year.
October 3, 2025
Great slice of life with sincere and raw story of how your chosen sisterhood can get you through all kinds of challenges.
Depiction of cities and places are also a great bonus because it will most likely to take you on a pleasant walk down the memory lane.
Depiction of cities and places are also a great bonus because it will most likely to take you on a pleasant walk down the memory lane.
January 5, 2026
This book drew me in from the very first lines with its sharp, intimate, and emotional writing, offering an unfiltered look into the lives of three Asian Canadian immigrant women as they navigate girlhood, family wounds, identity, and friendship. Originally a memoir turned into fiction, it carries a natural authenticity as it shows how their upbringing shapes their self‑worth, boundaries, relationships, and coping habits. Through messy choices, complicated love, and the added weight of being immigrant daughters, the story highlights how pressure can break you open but also how friendship can ground you. It’s a quick read that leaves an impact, with an ending that stays with you. Highly recommend if you enjoy honest, slightly chaotic, raw stories about girlhood and friendship.
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January 19, 2026
*How to Break a Girl* by Amanda Sung is a moving and beautifully written novel about identity, pressure, and growing into yourself. Sung captures the emotional realities of adolescence with clarity and care, especially the push and pull between family expectations, cultural identity, and personal well-being.
The story shines in its quiet moments, where small experiences carry real emotional weight. Sung’s writing is thoughtful and compassionate, making the protagonist’s journey feel relatable and heartfelt. While the book doesn’t shy away from difficult themes, it ultimately feels hopeful and affirming.
This is a meaningful, engaging read that leaves a lasting impression and will resonate with anyone navigating self-discovery and resilience.
Waiting for the movie adaptation of this book. Great job Amanda Sung
The story shines in its quiet moments, where small experiences carry real emotional weight. Sung’s writing is thoughtful and compassionate, making the protagonist’s journey feel relatable and heartfelt. While the book doesn’t shy away from difficult themes, it ultimately feels hopeful and affirming.
This is a meaningful, engaging read that leaves a lasting impression and will resonate with anyone navigating self-discovery and resilience.
Waiting for the movie adaptation of this book. Great job Amanda Sung
October 9, 2025
5⭐️
An emotionally poignant story that follows three Asian Canadian friends Aurora, Elizabeth, and Lily as they face the challenges of adulthood while navigating things such as cultural expectations, trauma, love and heartbreak, and their bonds with each other . It’s messy and it’s heartbreaking but it’s also a beautiful story of resilience and the power of friendship.
The characters and the locations/scenery just draw you in and are so well written I could imagine being there with them.
An emotionally poignant story that follows three Asian Canadian friends Aurora, Elizabeth, and Lily as they face the challenges of adulthood while navigating things such as cultural expectations, trauma, love and heartbreak, and their bonds with each other . It’s messy and it’s heartbreaking but it’s also a beautiful story of resilience and the power of friendship.
The characters and the locations/scenery just draw you in and are so well written I could imagine being there with them.
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