Dads Hurt Too: A Father’s Memoir of Miscarriage

by Eric M. Schumacher, Paul David Tripp (Foreword)

Miscarriage is not only a mother's grief. Fathers hurt too.

In Dads Hurt A Father's Memoir of Miscarriage, author Eric M. Schumacher opens his heart about his journey through loss. With honesty, humility, and hope, he puts words to a sorrow many men silently carry yet rarely name.

Miscarriage often leaves fathers feeling overlooked, expected to be strong for their wives, uncertain of how to express their own pain, and unsure of where to find comfort. Eric gently reminds dads that they are not alone and that their grief matters. He invites them to bring their broken hearts to the God who welcomes the weary, draws near to the brokenhearted, and promises resurrection through Jesus Christ.

Short, accessible, and written for immediate comfort, this little book is designed to be placed into a father's hands in the raw hours and weeks after loss. It offers space to lament, words of gospel hope, and encouragement for walking with a hurting wife while processing a father's own grief.

With a heartfelt foreword by Paul David Tripp and an appendix by Jenny Schumacher, this resource extends compassionate, gospel-shaped wisdom for both men and women touched by miscarriage.

Whether you are a grieving dad, a family member, a friend, or a church leader who wants to care well for fathers after miscarriage, Dads Hurt Too is a compassionate guide. It points beyond clichés to the lasting comfort of Christ, who entered our suffering, bore our sorrows, and promises to make all things new.

Genres: Memoir

40 pages, Kindle Edition

First published October 1, 2025

Reviews

[Amanda Johnson · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a goodreads giveaway that I had won a while back.
Having gone through a miscarriage with my partner, and seeing how everyone was checking in with me and not my partner bothered me.

This book was on teh fence of 2.5-3. So I went with a three. It was nice seeing how some of what the author went through while they were going through this together. However, I was hoping for more. More resources about possible support groups for grieving fathers. While the message was important that father's pain during that time is just as important as the mother. How lonely he felt during that time, and how society in itself expects that.

Just was hoping that the author had found resources/support groups that are geared toward fathers.

[Laura Robinson (naptimereaders) · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is tiny (80 pages) but mighty.

I’m thankful for men like Eric who aren’t afraid to voice their fears, frustrations and grieve with us - especially something so personal to him.

I think this is a much needed topic that is rarely discussed (dad’s hurting too) and how to navigate one’s feelings. I was blessed by his honesty and heart when it came to this topic and thankful he wrote a book to share it with us.

I was also so thankful for the few pages his wife wrote as well.

If you have a dad in your life hurting from a recent loss, this is a profound book to give them. ❤️

[Megan Beech · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a very heartbreaking and heartfelt story that we can absolutely relate to. Trigger warning ahead: we lost our first baby at 18 weeks gestation due to my incompetent cervix and it broke us completely. My husband took it the hardest and had a difficult time coping with the loss. It took us 7 years to have another baby girl and this one is our miracle child.

It isn't just mamas who hurt from the miscarriage. Remember it hurts dads just the same. I'm not trying to take away from the moms reading this review that it didn't physically and mentally and emotionally damage them but for dads, they go through the same grief. Some have physical pain when it can make one physical ill or create a rift of wanting to be intimate with their significant other after a loss. It serves as a constant reminder of what was lost and can never be brought back no matter how much you hope and pray and beg. That's just not the way the world or faith works. We learned that the hard way. Unfortunately, the loss of a child can also means the end of a relationship or result in a separation or divorce.

Grief affects everyone differently and it's highly encouraged and recommended to learn healthy coping skills and communication especially when times get rough and it's absolutely okay to seek advice from a professional if that's what it takes.

This book is so important for those who have lost a baby! This is something I wish we had after we lost our first baby but I'm glad to have been given the opportunity to read this book and reflect on the time lost.

[Madeleine Berges · Rating 5 out of 5]

When @emschumacher asked if I would like a review copy of Dads Hurt Too, my answer was yes.

October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. My husband and I have weathered four miscarriages together, and it took me until our fourth miscarriage to see truly how dads hurt too.

Eric does a beautiful job of shining the light and hope of the gospel while telling his own experiences he has walked though. Schumacher graciously walks through a father’s grief.

In less than 100 pages, Eric shares heart, hope, healing, and truth.

If you’re a father who has experienced miscarriage, I would recommend this book, but I would also recommend it to anyone trying to better understand the depths and pain of miscarriage. I think it is helpful for people who have not experienced the loss of a baby to better understand.

Thank you, Eric, for the copy. My eyes were full of tears as I read today. This is a needed book, and I pray it blesses others as much as it blessed me.

Holding onto the hope of heaven and the joyful reunions that will happen. Thank you again, Eric.

[Ashlee Schmidt · Rating 5 out of 5]

As I’ve journeyed through the sorrow of losing two babies and walked alongside countless mothers experiencing this same heartache, I have noticed an enormous lack of resources for the fathers who have also endured the pain of infant loss. In Dads Hurt Too, Eric lends a crucial voice to this oft overlooked sorrow as he tenderly and vulnerably shares his own story of loss and invites grieving fathers to move through the shame, isolation, and cultural indifference of grief towards the enduring hope of the gospel.

[Kim Ramirez · Rating 5 out of 5]

WOW

Dad's Hurt Too is raw, real & very much needed. No dramatics just 1 dads honest human feelings. Five Stars 🌟

[Charles Sager · Rating 5 out of 5]

A healing read for anyone who has tasted this miserable experience.

[Courtney Pityer · Rating 5 out of 5]

I won this in a giveaway.

[Alison (readinginazaleawoods)]

RTC 🤍

[Ana · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.25

[Krislyn Vergara · Rating 5 out of 5]

This helped me in my healing journey from miscarriage hearing from a man's perspective ❤️‍🩹

[Myles · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved learning about how dads get affected by miscarriages as well! I loved hearing what goes inside their minds!

[Alexandra · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is more of an encouraging essay for parents who have experienced a miscarriage. While it is helpful, if you're looking for a book saturated with the truths of scripture, I'd recommend John MacArthur's book "Safe in the Arms of God" for both fathers and mothers.

[Blessing McCarthy · Rating 5 out of 5]

Dads Hurt Too: A Father’s Memoir of Miscarriage by Eric M. Schumacher is a compassionate and deeply personal reflection on a kind of grief that fathers can often struggle to express. The memoir's central message is both simple and meaningful: miscarriage affects fathers too, and their pain deserves to be acknowledged rather than pushed aside.

What stood out to me most is the honesty with which Schumacher approaches grief. The book recognizes the difficult position many fathers may find themselves in, trying to remain strong for their wives while privately processing their own loss. Rather than offering simplistic answers, it creates room for sorrow, reflection, and the complicated emotions that accompany such an experience.

The Christian perspective also gives the book a clear foundation of hope. Its focus on God's nearness to those who are hurting and the promise of restoration provides an important source of comfort within the memoir. With its accessible format, personal honesty, and compassionate message, Dads Hurt Too can serve as a meaningful resource for grieving fathers, families, friends, and church communities seeking a thoughtful way to support men through loss.

[Aaron · Rating 5 out of 5]

In Dads Hurt Too, Eric M. Schumacher shares a father’s memoir of miscarriage. This short book gives dads the words to grieve but also the rest that comes from God.

With his own stories of devastating miscarriage, Schumacher wrestles with the feelings of sorrow, guilt, shame, pain, and confusion. There is so much grief that comes with miscarriage — and not all of it falls on the moms.

Lost Are Found

What makes this book especially powerful is Schumacher’s willingness to speak when fathers often suffer in silence. He gives language to emotions many men struggle to articulate and offers compassionate, biblical help.

Schumacher shares that it is okay for fathers to feel lost, and he helps find the way back to Jesus.

I received a media copy of Dads Hurt Too and this is my honest review. @diveindigdeep

[Tanya Flores · Rating 5 out of 5]

Highly recommend.

As someone who walks alongside families through pregnancy loss, I am grateful for a book this honest and this full of biblical hope. Eric doesn't avoid the hard questions. He brings Jesus into the middle of them. This is a book I'll recommend to every grieving parent and every helper who sits with them.

[Triston Byrd · Rating 4 out of 5]

Giveaway win !
A touching and honest read that gives voice to a grief that’s often overlooked.

[Deanna · Rating 4 out of 5]

I have never dealt with a miscarriage but this seems like a really good book for those that have.

[Alex Helm · Rating 1 out of 5]

this was good untilthe author started talking anti abortion and conspiracy theories