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Why Things Feel F*cked: Your Practical Guide to Getting Unstuck
Why Things Feel F*cked is a practical, no-nonsense guide for anyone feeling burnt out, stuck or disconnected in today’s chaotic world. Drawing on over a decade of clinical practice and his own transformation from stuck to free, psychotherapist Andrew Sloan offers a clear, grounded path to understand why modern life feels so off—and how to finally get unstuck and feel alive again.
Why Things Feel F*cked: Your Practical Guide to Getting Unstuck
Are you dissatisfied with life, despite achieving the things you were told would make you happy – the career, the relationship, the house?
What if you’ve tried to follow that path, only to find it wasn’t built for you – or that it’s far harder to access than promised?
Are you stuck, burnt out and disconnected?
Do you feel . . . lost?
You are not alone, and you are not broken.
The world is.
The world is chaotic and constantly changing, leaving us feeling like there’s simultaneously one foot flooring the accelerator and the other slamming on the brake. We’re burning out and have no idea how we got into this mess, let alone how we can ever start to get out.
Why Things Feel F*cked is a practical roadmap back to feeling genuinely alive. Breaking down how the modern world has hijacked our nervous systems for disconnection, psychotherapist Andrew Sloan draws from the latest research and over a decade of clinical practice to expertly walk with you on a journey of self-leadership and lasting change.
In a world of disconnection and confusion, Why Things Feel F*cked shines a light on human connection, giving us a step-by-step guide for cultivating the foundation of a happier, more satisfied life.
Why Things Feel F*cked: Your Practical Guide to Getting Unstuck
Are you dissatisfied with life, despite achieving the things you were told would make you happy – the career, the relationship, the house?
What if you’ve tried to follow that path, only to find it wasn’t built for you – or that it’s far harder to access than promised?
Are you stuck, burnt out and disconnected?
Do you feel . . . lost?
You are not alone, and you are not broken.
The world is.
The world is chaotic and constantly changing, leaving us feeling like there’s simultaneously one foot flooring the accelerator and the other slamming on the brake. We’re burning out and have no idea how we got into this mess, let alone how we can ever start to get out.
Why Things Feel F*cked is a practical roadmap back to feeling genuinely alive. Breaking down how the modern world has hijacked our nervous systems for disconnection, psychotherapist Andrew Sloan draws from the latest research and over a decade of clinical practice to expertly walk with you on a journey of self-leadership and lasting change.
In a world of disconnection and confusion, Why Things Feel F*cked shines a light on human connection, giving us a step-by-step guide for cultivating the foundation of a happier, more satisfied life.
240 pages, Paperback
Published November 18, 2025
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About the author
Andrew Sloan
1 book3 followersAndrew Sloan is a practising psychotherapist and leadership coach, working with people across diverse communities, multiple industries and unique businesses and circumstances. He is a Gallup® Certified CliftonStrengths® Coach and a Registered Clinical member of the Psychotherapy and Counselling Federation of Australia (PACFA).
Andrew is a self-confessed lifelong work in progress, constantly being reshaped by new learnings and practices, as well as the wisdom of others. He is on his journey toward a better world, one small change at a time.
Andrew is based in Sydney, Australia, on Gadigal Country.
Andrew is a self-confessed lifelong work in progress, constantly being reshaped by new learnings and practices, as well as the wisdom of others. He is on his journey toward a better world, one small change at a time.
Andrew is based in Sydney, Australia, on Gadigal Country.
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November 19, 2025
This book didn’t just explain why I feel constantly feel on edge, it handed me a map to get out of it.
Andrew’s “zones” framework finally gave language to the chaos I’ve carried since coming out and leaving the church. For years my nervous system has been stuck in red alert, hyper-vigilant, ready to fight or flee at the slightest hint of judgment. Reading this felt like someone turned the lights on and said, “That reaction isn’t you being dramatic, it’s your biology doing exactly what it’s meant to do when it doesn’t feel safe.”
What wrecked me (in the best way) was the realisation that the very thing that wounded me, people, was also the only thing that can heal me. Connection harmed me deeply in religious spaces, yet Andrew shows, gently and with evidence, that safe co-regulation with others is the fastest way back to the green zone, calm, curious, grounded, alive. That paradox used to feel impossible, now it feels like a dare I actually want to accept.
Practical and compassionate, this is the book I wish I’d had the day I walked away from everything I knew. If you’re tired of white knuckling your way through trauma responses and wondering why rest feels so foreign, read this. It won’t fix you overnight, but it will convince the scared parts of you that coming home to your body, and to safe people, is not only possible, it’s the whole point.
Thank you, Andrew, for writing the manual my nervous system has been begging for.
Andrew’s “zones” framework finally gave language to the chaos I’ve carried since coming out and leaving the church. For years my nervous system has been stuck in red alert, hyper-vigilant, ready to fight or flee at the slightest hint of judgment. Reading this felt like someone turned the lights on and said, “That reaction isn’t you being dramatic, it’s your biology doing exactly what it’s meant to do when it doesn’t feel safe.”
What wrecked me (in the best way) was the realisation that the very thing that wounded me, people, was also the only thing that can heal me. Connection harmed me deeply in religious spaces, yet Andrew shows, gently and with evidence, that safe co-regulation with others is the fastest way back to the green zone, calm, curious, grounded, alive. That paradox used to feel impossible, now it feels like a dare I actually want to accept.
Practical and compassionate, this is the book I wish I’d had the day I walked away from everything I knew. If you’re tired of white knuckling your way through trauma responses and wondering why rest feels so foreign, read this. It won’t fix you overnight, but it will convince the scared parts of you that coming home to your body, and to safe people, is not only possible, it’s the whole point.
Thank you, Andrew, for writing the manual my nervous system has been begging for.
December 26, 2025
Why Things Feel Fucked is full of useful strategies based on years of practice and research. But what separates it from others in this category is the author's authenticity. He is not like the other charlatans out there who are exploiting our vulnerabilities to make money. Instead, Andrew Sloan is vulnerable with us, acknowleding that he too is a work in progress. What have I learnt? I'm definitely deep in the cult of productivity, compromise isn't always the answer, and sometimes challenging others is the best way to support them. Definitely worth a read!
November 20, 2025
Why Things Feel F*cked is a profound, compassionate, and intensely practical guide that provides the language and roadmap necessary to navigate the chaos of modern life. If you’ve ever felt burnt out, stuck, or disconnected despite having all the traditional markers of "success", this book will feel like a conversation with a brilliant, empathetic therapist. Sloan masterfully explains that you are not broken, but the world is, detailing how the constant pressure, complexity, and speed of modern existence have effectively hijacked our nervous systems for perpetual stress and disconnection. His accessible breakdown of the "Nervous System Map" alone is worth the price of admission, giving you tangible insights into why anxiety is a normal response to an abnormal world.
I loved it.
I loved it.
November 25, 2025
This is a must have book for anyone who just feels stuck, or like nothing they every have or do is enough in this world. Written superbly, which is captivating, it helps you navigate the messy live with live, while using proven frameworks to help you unwrap elements of your life you probably never really noticed, in the hustle and bustle. Andrew brings credibility, science, kindness and fun to a difficult topic, and shares his experiences so openly, as well as client stories that help us all feel part of one messy world, where things just seem f**ked.
December 17, 2025
You know when you have those big conversations with friends and you feel like you've sorted out all the things? Well that's how I felt reading this book. There's so much practical wisdom amongst a compelling story. I recommend this book to anyone looking for some practical suggestions for living a better life.
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