Love, Me: A Letter to Black Women in a Toxic Country, Career, and Relationship

by Tiffany Cross

In searing dispatches, Love, Me is a timely affirmation for Black women in a world that has undervalued them for centuries.

"Thee Black woman’s story for this era. It is both political and personal. It is both timely and, quite frankly, overdue." —Sunny Hostin, Emmy Award-winning journalist

Will we ever get back the love we give? That’s what millions of Black women are asking. Whether it’s the men in our lives, our experiences in our workplaces, or America itself, the country we built, we are fighting for the consideration, kindness, and respect we are due. 

Black women are being silenced. Our history is being whitewashed and our contribution downplayed. Efforts persist to reduce our existence entirely. We are fighting for love, our lives, and livelihoods while a burning America continues to stand on our shoulders as it has throughout time. 

In Love, Me, Cross brings to life the souls of Black women today. In the face of a failing democracy, dwindling opportunity, and elusive love, she tells the story of how we, women of accomplishment and endurance, relentlessly use our humanity to preserve ourselves, our culture, and civilization. 

Bold and provocative, Cross invites Black women to go from hopeless to hopeful as we fight to achieve our dreams, secure the love we deserve, and preserve the home we built. She argues that we must repair our personhood and society, and that starts with giving ourselves something to believe in. Cross takes us on an intimate journey through the internal and external battles we face, illuminating community and critiquing the politics of being a Black woman today. 

With a blend of humor, pathos, and hard-hitting cultural analysis, Cross tackles issues like race, relationships, sex, family, economics, health, labor, and love. By bringing Black women to the forefront, she honors not just her story, but our story.

Genres: African American

348 pages, Kindle Edition

Published May 5, 2026

Reviews

[Imina · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a black woman, strong is just a part of who I am. It’s almost expected of me. But this book highlights all the way this country, our history, and even our own thought have shaped us. It showed me that being strong doesn’t also mean I can’t be loved, protected, and provided for. Thank you Tiffany for sharing your ups and downs as I process my own!

[Tiffany · Rating 5 out of 5]

Love, Me: A Letter to Black Women in a Toxic Country, Career, and Relationship by Tiffany D. Cross is phenomenal. Every page of this incredibly powerful book is highlight-worthy!
Love, Me is a testament to the strength and resilience of Black women. This book resonated so deeply and evoked every single emotion within me. A huge thank you to Grand Central Publishing and NetGalley for the eARC of the book.

A fiercely evocative, timely, and necessary read for all Black women. But also for anyone who wants an accurate version of how Black women have long been underappreciated, unrecognized, and undervalued in America since its inception. In Love, Me Tiffany D. Cross champions every Black woman. She sees, hears, feels, and understands us because she is us. More times than not, Black women face injustices, inequities, betrayal, abuse, and heartbreak in our careers, relationships, politics, healthcare, and throughout society at large on a daily basis. Cross puts a spotlight on all of these challenges and brings them completely to the forefront. But she also offers up validation, empowerment, self-love, hope, and a path toward healing.

Love, Me is a brilliantly written, well-researched, highly affirming book. I absolutely loved reading it. Honestly, this book will stay with me for a long time. Black women have always had to fight for everything that we have wanted to accomplish and achieve. Not only have we learned to navigate and survive for centuries, but we have endured and thrived. Tiffany D. Cross honors that, she uplifts it, and gives all of us the confidence to keep moving forward. A book that should be on every reading list.

[Robin LaShanna · Rating 4 out of 5]

4✨ I always say that I struggle with writing reviews for memories as people are brave for sharing their own stories. This book so no different. Journalist, Tiffany Cross was fired from MSNBC in a horrible and unjust way. The first half of the book covers her experience in the media as a Black woman and the second half examines a relationship she is in after her firing. Intertwined in her stories are statistics and facts related to the disparities that Black women face due to the impact of racism and white supremacy in America. She also insets beautiful little letters of encouragement to Black women.

This book was written not just by but also FOR Black women. It reminds us to stay strong and yet still keep our softness. It’s precious when we remember that strongest among us also needs encouragement. Thanks to NetGalley and Hachette Audio for this advanced listener copy. All opinions are my own.

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[Pamela B · Rating 5 out of 5]

I listened to this today and babyyyy… thank you, Tiffany! Hearing these letters read in her voice was truly an experience. The stories she shared, the truths she uncovered, and the love woven into every word it all hit deep.

As Black women, we carry so much, often without pause, so to feel seen, understood, and embraced like this meant everything. Tiffany opened the door to both her personal and professional life, allowing us to see the world through her lens a perspective that reflects so many of our own.

This was more than just an audiobook; it was a moment. The production was flawless, the delivery was powerful, and honestly… no notes.

[Kami · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved this! I was able to download an early release audio from NetGalley. I really enjoyed listening. As an African American woman I found so much familiarity in what Tiffany had to say. I didn't know who Tiffany Cross was before reading this book, but I was impressed by her stream of conscious thoughts around work, family, belonging, and so much more. This reminded me alot of Austin Channing Brown's Full of Myself.

[Ronnica Fatt · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a powerful memoir. As a white woman, I’m not the target audience, but these stories are so important to listen to, take in, understand, and use this information to advocate for the Black women around us.

Thank you Netgalley and Hatchette Audio for the review ALC.