You Don't Have to Achieve to Be Loved: Escape the Lies You've Been Sold to Design the Life You Want

by Becca Pearce, Ann-Marie Whitney (Foreword)

Do you ever look at your life and wonder why you’re not happier? Do you feel like you want to make a change but aren’t sure where to begin?

Then, You Don’t Have to Achieve to Be Loved is for you.

Becca Pearce understands firsthand how hard change can be. Two life-altering events forced her to realize that what she once wanted no longer felt right. The resulting journey reshaped her path, upending everything she had believed about success and happiness.

In this book, Becca shares the knowledge she gained, outlining a step by-step process she developed that has helped hundreds of clients navigate change and transform their lives. Her straightforward method will help you identify what’s important in your life and how you can use this understanding to design the life you really want to live.

Over the past twelve years, Becca has learned the value of vulnerability, the importance of optimism, and the imperative to find the life you want to live now because we’re never promised tomorrow.

A former CEO and state official, she is now the president of Extend Coaching & Consulting, a firm dedicated to helping people find the courage to live the life they’ve been dreaming of.

220 pages, Paperback

Published September 29, 2025

Reviews

[Jenny Tomaszewski · Rating 5 out of 5]

I was lucky enough to obtain a copy prior to release.. it helps when you are the authors hairstylist;) This book is directly to the point. No repetitiveness, no fluff. It’s raw and real. I truly think had I read this book years ago, I would have 100% stepped down from being Manager at my old Salon. I would have started saying “No” sooner. And I would have channeled my anger towards life appropriately. I’m currently so happy with life and my career path, that this book actually helped me reflect on my decisions, and how I did in fact make the right call 2 years ago to open my own salon. I actually felt a sigh of relief after reading certain parts of the book. Basically confirming things I already know.

Even though Becca isn’t my coach, she has in ways coached me without me realizing it through our conversations at the salon. There were moments of feeling Deja vu as I was reading certain questions/prompts. She is incredibly thoughtful and caring (and the coolest Mom)I know readers will take away so much from this book. And if you’re looking for a coach, I highly recommend.

[Clemmie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Becca Pearce’s book is an insightful and valuable read. She offers clear directives to navigating the often tricky passages of our lives with insight and humor borne of experience. Pearce encourages us to follow her step-by-step approach to improving our days by defining what we really want and seriously exploring it. With vulnerability and honesty, the author weaves her own remarkable story into the book, guiding us through her insights like a trusted and experienced friend.

[Karla · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you're feeling stuck or just not sure how to achieve your goals, this book is for you. Through deeply personal anecdotes from her experiences as a CEO, brain tumor survivor, and executive coach, Becca gives step by step advice for how to break through your barriers.

[Leah Maddox · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a true reflection of Becca: direct, honest and thought provoking. Her advice is practical and it will resonate with you even if you are considering a small change in your life. Her writing style makes you feel like you are sitting next to her on a couch having a cup of coffee. You will eagerly be waiting for her next story.

I particularly liked the section on core values. This is a great exercise for anyone.

Make the time to read this book!

[Anza Goodbar · Rating 5 out of 5]

A powerful, perspective-shifting read.

Becca Pearce delivers a message every high achiever needs to hear: your worth was never meant to be measured by your achievements. You Don’t Have to Achieve to Be Loved is raw, honest, and deeply human—inviting readers to pause, reflect, and finally exhale.

Becca’s vulnerability and wisdom make this book more than just thought-provoking—it’s transformative. Through her story and the exercises she shares, I found myself reimagining my business, redefining success on my own terms, and reconnecting with what truly makes me happy.

This is the book I didn’t know I was waiting for, and I can’t recommend it enough for anyone ready to step off the hamster wheel of achievement and rediscover their sense of self.

[Lindsey · Rating 5 out of 5]

You Don’t Need To Achieve to Be Loved is the message so many high-achieving women need but rarely give themselves permission to hear. This book gently but powerfully dismantles the lie that our worth is tied to performance or perfection.

With warmth and clarity, Becca invites you to slow down and reconnect with who you are beneath the striving. This is a
beautiful, freeing read that stays with you long after the last page.

[Joe Gigas · Rating 5 out of 5]

Super! (thé book and the person)

I have made major changes in my life several times and believe that Becca’s book has laid out the progression of major steps very well.

In addition, I have had the pleasure of engaging with Becca during part of her post-surgery athletic journey. From that experience I’m sure that she has the ability to accomplish anything to which she sets her mind in both a caring and brave manner!