In the beginning of this story, Mitchell is a likeable character who is intelligent, emotionally intelligent, has good friends around him, a job he likes and is good at, and he lets the reader in with a lot of humour about his fantasies over 'b boys', who he describes in great detail for the less in-the-know readers like myself (which was much appreciated)
I enjoyed the first part. Though it relied heavily on graphic sex scenes for large portions of the story, when he first meets Raheim, you are engrossed, wondering how it is going to turn out, Mitchell is smart enough and experienced enough to know that things with men like Raheim don't usually turn out well, but Raheim seems different and Mitchell is open-minded enough to give him a chance.
Raheim gets along with Mitchell's family and friends and after a few stumbling blocks, Mitchell gets on with Raheim's, including his young son.
But then it goes downhill.
The problem is, Mitchell finds himself in a relationship with an abusive man, and I appreciated when he acknowledged that intelligent people, all kinds of people, can find themselves in love with an abusive man. Of course he's going to seem great in the beginning, no one is going to stay with a man who is abusive from the get-go, and even if his abusive behaviour comes from deep insecurities, even if these insecurities are exasperated by societal prejudices like homophobia, toxic masculinity and racism, you do not have to stay with that man, make excuses for the man, or take his abuse. It does not excuse him being abusive to you. Period.
I see people getting angry about Colleen Hoover's abusive story being sold as a love story, but I don't think even Colleen had it end as a love story. This is, through and through, sold as a love story. A sexy love story. And I think it is a disservice to Mitchell as a character and the story as a whole.
Mitchell had a negative character arc, but I don't think that was the intention. He gets into arguments with work colleagues and cannot see that, even if he is right, his unprofessional behaviour is not helping him. He argues with a Jewish colleague over the Holocaust, because he simply cannot let it go when the Jewish colleague suggests that there were differences between the Holocaust and slavery. He thinks he is the best person that office has to offer because of his accolades and education, and the excuse for why he thinks the other black employee is getting ahead was a silly plot point that did not make sense or read as realistic.
For me, the one star is for one very serious reason. Mitchell said he was a champion for women, there are women in his life who are important to him and he acknowledges the difficulties the only woman on his team must have to face in the work place, and she sticks up for him at every opportunity. What is the most common line this woman is given in the book? "I'm a white woman and I wouldn't really know these things..."
When Mitchell said this;
'If white men want to be angry at any group, it should be white women - THEY are the ones who have benefitted the most from affirmative action'
I knew how he really felt. He didn't care about other groups of people. He was a character who had misconceptions that were led by prejudice and he never saw the contradictions in his behaviour even once. This line was said 243 pages into the book, it was not a flaw that he had any intention of acknowledging, in fact, he only got worse as the story continued.
There was a lot of talk on the sexual fetishisation of black men by white men which was a really interesting topic, but then one of Mitchell's friends says this;
'The stories I've heard about these Muslim men... woo! They can drop the dime, you hear me? Just look at all the babies those women be having'
Mitchell never called him out on the fetishisation of Muslim men. Mitchell the social renegade for the rights of the downtrodden never called out the fact that many women in Muslim countries have so many children because they don't have access to birth control and/or do not have much of a choice. Fathering multiple children does not make you some kind of a big man.
Usually I wouldn't point out such things, but because Mitchell was such a self-rightous character who called everyone out on every little slight, I felt he should be held to the same standards.
So, with the abusive relationship hailed as the greatest love affair of all time, and Mitchell's talent for being one of the most prejudiced, self-righteous and un-self-aware characters I have ever read in my life, this book had to be a one star for me.