Anxious Attachment No More !! V3: Why Anxiety in Relationships Isn’t the Problem—It’s the Secret to Lasting Connections

by Taha Zaid

No matter how many times you’ve seen the same patterns repeating over and over again in your relationships, you can change the story. It all starts here!If you look back on your life and see a chain of lost friendships, or relationships you turned your back on when they started to get more serious, you probably wonder why it seems like this always happens to you.

The problem comes from your childhood—and that means two positive things for you.

It’s not your fault. And It’s a problem you can solve.

If you struggle with being alone yet you can’t seem to help yourself from pushing people away, or if you have a hard time trusting people or regulating your emotions, the chances are you have an anxious attachment style—and it’s affecting every relationship you enter into.

It comes from things that happened to you in your childhood.

Perhaps your parents were inconsistent and you couldn’t trust that they would be there for you when you needed them… Maybe they were emotionally distant or always busy with something else… Perhaps your home environment was stressful or you experienced a traumatic event…

Your childhood doesn’t have to have been obviously difficult for you to have experienced any of these things—but each of them will have a profound effect on how you approach life now as an adult.

This empathetic guide will help you understand your anxious attachment style and finally break the cycle, setting you up for a more fulfilling future—one in which you have a secure attachment style and enjoy the type of relationships you long for.

Inside, you’ll

The 5 pillars of secure attachment—so you know exactly how to recognize it when you get therePractical techniques for transforming your attachment style and rewriting old programingWhat your attachment style can tell you about your compatibility with other people (and how you can use this to understand your behavior—and your partner’s!)How your anxious attachment style could be affecting your mental health… and exactly what you can do about it6 key psychological concepts that will help you build healthy and lasting relationshipsEssential advice for addressing the psychological conditions that commonly accompany an anxious attachment style—including anxiety and depressionHow you can use attachment to set the stage for huge personal growth… with effective tips for forming secure attachment patternsThe balance between independence and intimacy—and why this is so important to a healthy relationshipAnd much more.

When you have an anxious attachment style and a history of repeating relationship patterns, it’s hard to see what you can do to break the cycle.

But you have everything you need to develop a secure attachment style, nurture deep and meaningful relationships, and embark on a happier and more fulfilling future.

It starts with understanding attachment theory and how your attachment style shapes your life… and you’re just a click away from unlocking that understanding!

Want to discover the secret to building healthy and lasting connections? Then scroll up, and click “Add to Cart” right now!

160 pages, Kindle Edition

Published October 5, 2025

About the author

I am Taha Zaid, a Dating Coach. For over three years, I have been advising my clients with their own relationship problems that they did not understand. I know that every human in the world seeks connection. Even those who are anxious or avoidant can achieve healthy attachments that you will need to establish healthy and supportive relationships. By understanding yourself, getting to know yourself and your partner, becoming capable of accepting yourself and your partner, and facilitating communication, anyone can learn to love their partner healthily. It may take time and effort, but anyone can learn to have good, stable relationships.

Reviews

[Divya · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you feel permanently "damaged" by your past, read this book now. This section is a massive relief, focusing on true self-empowerment. It teaches that you are not a victim of your past; you have the power to heal and turn insecure attachment into a secure bond. The emphasis on self-care and gratitude is brilliant.

[Carter Hughes · Rating 5 out of 5]

In addition to being helpful for people in general, this book is especially for those who have relationship anxiety or find themselves reliving the same unpleasant patterns. Taha Zaid shows how our early experiences influence our adult interpersonal relationships by simplifying complicated concepts like attachment theory. It explains to readers that worried attachment is a condition that may be resolved rather than a weakness. The detailed resources for enhancing communication, controlling feelings, and establishing safe, wholesome relationships are, in my opinion, true gems.

[Stephanie White · Rating 5 out of 5]

In addition to teaching self-soothing and self-management skills for strong emotions, the book provides strategies for learning how to create appropriate limits and communicate successfully. This fosters emotional fortitude and independence. Relationship stress is decreased and trust is increased as it encourages readers to focus on themselves and recover from emotional traumas. Very strongly advised.

[Ajith · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is highly practical. It clearly explains how avoidant and anxious attachment styles ruin adult relationships with clinginess or distance. Crucially, it provides immediate steps to improve communication. The sections on active listening and defining arguments are simple, effective, and gave me tools I can use immediately to stop repeating the same relationship mistakes. Excellent stuff!

[Durganandy · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is incredibly genuine. The author’s honest sharing about having an emotionally unavailable parent immediately makes the topic of attachment feel real. The early sections clearly list the seven ways childhood trauma prevents secure attachment. Reading this provided instant clarity on the roots of my own relationship struggles. It's a supportive and highly informative read from the start.

[Tara Dodson · Rating 5 out of 5]

I can fix my attachment disorder!

This author is right on the money with strategical advice on attachment theories and the problems we may face from disordered attachments in our early years. This book is filled with those strategies and ways to overcome these relationship difficulties. It was another wonderful read and practical life advice!

[Jhon Pyper · Rating 5 out of 5]

Recognizing behavioral patterns resulting from a fear of abandonment, engaging in mindfulness exercises, and confronting unfavorable relationship attitudes are all part of this. Being kind and sympathetic to yourself while you're feeling nervous will help you establish a foundation of self-worth, stability, and peaceful connection.

[Kimberly Harris · Rating 5 out of 5]

Learning to center yourself when you are triggered and using deep breathing, meditation, and other techniques is a way to overcome anxious attachment. Ensure understanding, create security, and develop a secure attachment style by communicating your needs and desires simply and clearly. It was a wonderful book.

[Blake Anderson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Now is the time to read this book if you feel that your history has "damaged" you forever. This portion, which emphasizes genuine self-empowerment, is a huge relief. It teaches that you can repair and transform an insecure attachment into a solid bond, proving that you are not a victim of your past The focus on appreciation and self-care is excellent.

[Shanthini · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book shifts from why we have attachment issues to how to grow and change your relationships. The focus on mental toughness and seeing challenges as opportunities is truly motivating. It gave me practical advice on how to be more open and honest with my partner during hard times, which is essential for lasting connections.

[Pooja · Rating 5 out of 5]

This section dives deep into compatibility, which is so important! I loved learning about the Six Kinds of Love and how they mix with attachment styles. The book doesn't just name the problems; it gives a clear framework for understanding why you connect with certain people. It's a fantastic, insightful guide to choosing a healthier partner.

[Siva · Rating 5 out of 5]

This final part brings everything together perfectly by explaining interdependence. It’s so helpful to see the difference between healthy dependency (mutual give-and-take) and harmful codependency. The book expertly guides you toward finding the right balance between independence and intimacy, ensuring your relationships are strong, loving, and sustainable.