Spoilers:
- Reverse ageism is bad for life, health and pretty much everything (and not just yours!) just like its regular counterpart.
- Tests have hijacked our world.
- Success has been redefined into something defined by 'raw synaptic speed'.
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What gifts and passions might we possess that haven’t yet been discovered but that could give us wings to fly? (c)
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It’s not our fault that we failed to earn straight A’s, make perfect College Board scores, and get into our first choice of college. Or that we were distracted by life at age twenty-one and missed our first on ramp to an enchanted career that matched perfectly our talents and passions. It’s not our fault that we failed to earn millions of dollars by twenty-two and billions by thirty—thus getting ourselves on the cover of Forbes—or to end malaria, solve tensions in the Middle East, advise a president, or win our third Academy Award by thirty-five.
It’s not our fault, and we’re not a failure in any sense just because our star didn’t glow white hot from the start. (c)
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In the months after Joanne hit economic bottom and went on welfare to feed her daughter, she let her imagination drift to her childhood fantasies. It was an act of escapism that society said was irresponsible. But oddly enough, it took her closer to her gift. (c)
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I learned the most important part of leadership is showing up. Could have fooled me. (c)
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Brittleness and fragility should not be the prizes of early academic achievement. (c)
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Being seen as a potential late bloomer was once a mark of vitality, patience, and pluck. Nowadays, more and more, it is seen as a defect (there must be a reason you started slowly, after all) and a consolation prize. This is an awful trend, since it diminishes the very things that make us human—our experiences, our resilience, and our lifelong capacity to grow. (c)
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Many of us see more of ourselves in Scott Kelly than in Mark Zuckerberg. We too have stories of fumbling starts, confusion, career or educational gaps, bad habits, bad luck, or lack of confidence.(c)
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For the fortunate majority of us, however, some kind of intellectual or spiritual awakening happened, and we stepped onto a new, improved road. We found our way. But others become so steeped in shame or see themselves as so far removed from opportunity that they never develop their ability to bloom. And I would argue that failure to bloom during one’s lifetime is catastrophic for people—and for societies. (c)
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Dr. Leonard Sax, a medical doctor and psychologist who wrote about troubled teenagers in Boys at Risk (2007) and Girls on the Edge (2010), told me:
A kid in the United States is now fourteen times more likely to be on medication for ADD compared to a kid in the U.K. A kid in the United States is forty times more likely to be diagnosed and treated for bipolar disorder compared to a kid in Germany. A kid in the United States is ninety-three times more likely to be on medications like Risperdal and Zyprexa used to control behavior compared to a kid in Italy. So in this country and really in no other country, we now use medication as a first resort for any kid who’s not getting straight A’s or not sitting still in class. No other country does this. This is a uniquely American phenomenon, and it’s quite new. (c)
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Jean M. Twenge... connects the generational increases in depression to a shift from intrinsic to extrinsic goals. Intrinsic goals have to do with your own development as a person, such as becoming capable in activities of your own choosing or developing a strong sense of self. Extrinsic goals, conversely, have to do with material gains and other status measurements, like high grades and test scores, high income, and good looks. Twenge offers evidence that adolescents and young adults today are more oriented toward extrinsic goals than they were in the past. In an annual poll, college freshmen list “being well off financially” as more important than “developing a meaningful philosophy of life.” The opposite was true fifty years ago. (c)
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In 2011 billionaire venture capitalist Vinod Khosla told an audience that “people over forty-five basically die in terms of new ideas.” (c)
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... of the 18,335 employment claims filed in 2010 with California’s Department of Fair Employment and Housing, one-fifth cited age as the reason for discrimination. This puts age discrimination claims above those for racial discrimination, sexual harassment, and sexual orientation. (c)
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Truth is, many factors can slow our blooming early in life, including delayed physical or neurological development, early childhood trauma, nonstandard learning styles, socioeconomic status, geographical restrictions, illness, addiction, career turbulence—even plain bad luck. (c)
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And even though we’ve lately taken a step back as a society in terms of public and political tolerance, polls confirm that over recent decades, attitudes toward diversity in education and the workplace, gender equality, and same-sex marriage have shifted steadily. This growing sense of social acceptance has stretched to include personal style, unusual interests, and radical identity politics. We now can have tattoos and multiple piercings and still hold good jobs. We can bend genders and be sexually fluid, we can wear flip-flops and hoodies to work, we can collect comic books and play video games as adults—and it’s all much more culturally accepted than it was before.
And yet when it comes to early achievement and cognitive diversity, we’ve done the exact opposite. We’ve become less tolerant of those with different cognitive profiles—of those with slower rates of development or skills not recognized by the job market. (с)
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In the past, success was not about becoming rich or famous, or about achieving as much as possible as early as possible. Rather, it was about having the opportunity to live to our fullest potential. It was about being appreciated for who we are as individuals. But that’s been corrupted by the Wunderkind Ideal and our obsession with testing, ranking, and sorting young adults; by our cultural fascination with youth, particularly youthful über-achievement; and by an increasingly algorithmic economy that rewards raw synaptic speed instead of experience and wisdom. (c)
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“I always wanted to be fearless,” she says. “But that desire once took unhealthy paths. Now I’ve learned I can be fearless in a much healthier way. And I can be a leader, helping others.” (c)
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Cognitive research has revealed that each of us has two types of intelligence: fluid intelligence (abbreviated as Gf) and crystallized intelligence (abbreviated as Gc). Fluid intelligence is our capacity to reason and solve novel problems, independent of knowledge from the past. It’s the ability to identify abstract patterns, use logic, and apply inductive and deductive reasoning. Gf peaks earlier in life. Crystallized intelligence, on the other hand, is the ability to use skills, knowledge, and experience. For most adults, Gc includes both occupational (job) and avocational knowledge (hobbies, music, art, popular culture, etc.). Unlike Gf, measures of Gc show rising levels of performance well into middle age and beyond. (c)
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It turns out that my many hours in the Ugly magazine stacks were not wasted at all. They might have wrecked my grades, but curiosity made my career. (c)
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