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The Lie About Love: Why Chaos Isn’t Chemistry, and Pain Isn’t Passion
“Because as long as you’re breathing, you can still choose. You can still say, ‘This time I won’t run.’ ‘This time I’ll listen.’ ‘This time I’ll stay.’ It’s not too late to love. Not perfectly. But wildly. Ordinarily. For fucking real." — Zen Prem
The Lie About Why Chaos Isn’t Chemistry & Pain Isn’t Passion
What if everything you’ve been taught about love is a lie?
You think you’re in love. But you’re not – you’re surviving it.
You confuse chaos with chemistry, pain with passion. And every time, you end up exhausted, doubting yourself, and calling it “complicated.”
This is your wake-the-fuck-up call.
The Lie About Love is not another self-help book – it’s a scalpel.
A raw, darkly funny, brutally honest excavation of modern relationships from a man who’s lived, lost, and finally learned to stay when the performance ends.
From the ashes of divorce, heartbreak, and spiritual burnout, Zen Prem drags love out of its Hallmark disguise and throws it under the hard light of truth. Through confession, poetry, and soul-punching insight, he dismantles the myths we mistake for love – the chaos we call chemistry, the pain we romanticise as passion, and the illusions we sell each other just to feel safe.
This is the book for anyone who’s
Mistaken trauma for connectionCalled avoidance “independence"Confused attention for devotionStayed too long, or left too soonYou’ll laugh, you’ll wince, you’ll probably text your ex — but you’ll also find something
A deeper kind of love, the one that begins when the bullshit finally ends.
This isn’t relationship advice or therapy-speak.
It’s a demolition of delusion – raw truth that rips through the lies keeping you trapped in toxic relationships, emotional abuse, codependency, and counterfeit intimacy that masquerades as love.
After crawling through the wreckage of toxic love and emotional collapse, Zen Prem writes with brutal honesty about what it really takes to stop surviving self-doubt and start loving with honesty, self-respect, and intimate freedom that lasts.
Inside, you’ll
How to decode your partner’s unspoken communicationHow to tell the difference between true love and lip serviceHow to set boundaries that pull love closer, not push it awayHow to navigate the profound emotional and physical changes of midlife and menopauseOver twenty powerful love lessons, poems, and self-reflection practices to rewire how you loveIf you’re tired of highlight-reel romance and surface-level connection, The Lie About Love reveals what real intimacy feels like – not drama or games, but the healing relief of being fully seen.
You don’t need the emotional tightropes or the self-betrayal.
Just brutal clarity.
It’s time to stop lying to yourself – and finally love for real.
“I called it freedom
but it was fear in disguise,
philosophy stitched into kink.
I kissed with fire,
but packed my bags in silence.
The Lie About Why Chaos Isn’t Chemistry & Pain Isn’t Passion
What if everything you’ve been taught about love is a lie?
You think you’re in love. But you’re not – you’re surviving it.
You confuse chaos with chemistry, pain with passion. And every time, you end up exhausted, doubting yourself, and calling it “complicated.”
This is your wake-the-fuck-up call.
The Lie About Love is not another self-help book – it’s a scalpel.
A raw, darkly funny, brutally honest excavation of modern relationships from a man who’s lived, lost, and finally learned to stay when the performance ends.
From the ashes of divorce, heartbreak, and spiritual burnout, Zen Prem drags love out of its Hallmark disguise and throws it under the hard light of truth. Through confession, poetry, and soul-punching insight, he dismantles the myths we mistake for love – the chaos we call chemistry, the pain we romanticise as passion, and the illusions we sell each other just to feel safe.
This is the book for anyone who’s
Mistaken trauma for connectionCalled avoidance “independence"Confused attention for devotionStayed too long, or left too soonYou’ll laugh, you’ll wince, you’ll probably text your ex — but you’ll also find something
A deeper kind of love, the one that begins when the bullshit finally ends.
This isn’t relationship advice or therapy-speak.
It’s a demolition of delusion – raw truth that rips through the lies keeping you trapped in toxic relationships, emotional abuse, codependency, and counterfeit intimacy that masquerades as love.
After crawling through the wreckage of toxic love and emotional collapse, Zen Prem writes with brutal honesty about what it really takes to stop surviving self-doubt and start loving with honesty, self-respect, and intimate freedom that lasts.
Inside, you’ll
How to decode your partner’s unspoken communicationHow to tell the difference between true love and lip serviceHow to set boundaries that pull love closer, not push it awayHow to navigate the profound emotional and physical changes of midlife and menopauseOver twenty powerful love lessons, poems, and self-reflection practices to rewire how you loveIf you’re tired of highlight-reel romance and surface-level connection, The Lie About Love reveals what real intimacy feels like – not drama or games, but the healing relief of being fully seen.
You don’t need the emotional tightropes or the self-betrayal.
Just brutal clarity.
It’s time to stop lying to yourself – and finally love for real.
“I called it freedom
but it was fear in disguise,
philosophy stitched into kink.
I kissed with fire,
but packed my bags in silence.
294 pages, Kindle Edition
Published November 4, 2025
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