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Untangled: The Lies Love Told Me and Getting it Right This Time
The Lies Love Told Me and Getting It Right This Time is a raw, redemptive journey into the tangled web of love, trauma, and truth. Written with the wisdom of a therapist and the tenderness of a survivor, Raina Shephard leads readers through the hidden psychology of why we stay, why we break, and why we believe love will heal what it continues to harm. This book speaks to the soul that has tried to fix, save, or hold on—only to find themselves losing pieces of who they are.
Through story, science, and spirit, Shephard exposes the lies we’ve been told about that suffering proves devotion, that loyalty will change someone, that if we love enough, we’ll be loved back the same way. She brings clarity to emotional confusion, showing how trauma bonds, people-pleasing, and codependency disguise themselves as love when they are really patterns of survival. Her trauma-informed insight unpacks how childhood wounds, unmet needs, and false beliefs create magnetic pulls toward toxic partners and familiar pain. Yet, Untangled is not just about heartbreak—it’s about freedom.
Every chapter becomes a mirror and a lifeline, guiding readers toward the truth that real love does not demand our silence, our sacrifice, or our self-worth. Shephard blends the compassion of lived experience with the steady grounding of therapeutic wisdom, helping readers identify manipulation, gaslighting, emotional addiction, and the exhausting cycles of “almost” relationships. She gives readers the language to name what’s happening inside them, and the tools to begin healing from the lies that kept them bound.
With empathy and faith, Untangled explores what healthy love actually looks like. It offers a roadmap to emotional maturity—teaching readers to regulate their nervous systems, set boundaries without guilt, rebuild self-trust, and walk away from chaos without questioning their worth. Gentle exercises and reflection prompts invite readers to explore their own patterns of rescuing, denial, or dependency while learning to build a new foundation of peace, truth, and self-respect.
Shephard reminds readers that healing is not about becoming harder but becoming whole. It’s about grieving what love wasn’t, forgiving ourselves for what we didn’t know, and allowing God to rewrite what love truly means. The book blends practical psychology with spiritual restoration, guiding readers to rediscover divine love—the kind that restores rather than drains, and honors rather than uses.
In her signature voice—honest, compassionate, and piercingly wise—Shephard writes as one who has walked through the fire and come out unafraid to tell the truth about it. The Lies Love Told Me and Getting It Right This Time is for the woman who’s tired of being the only one trying, for the man who keeps giving second chances to the same pain, and for anyone who knows that love shouldn’t cost their sanity.
Ultimately, Untangled is an awakening—a book about remembering who you were before you believed the lies. It’s about learning that real love starts where self-abandonment ends. With faith as the anchor and truth as the light, Raina Shephard shows us how to untangle from what broke us and build the kind of love that finally feels like home.
Through story, science, and spirit, Shephard exposes the lies we’ve been told about that suffering proves devotion, that loyalty will change someone, that if we love enough, we’ll be loved back the same way. She brings clarity to emotional confusion, showing how trauma bonds, people-pleasing, and codependency disguise themselves as love when they are really patterns of survival. Her trauma-informed insight unpacks how childhood wounds, unmet needs, and false beliefs create magnetic pulls toward toxic partners and familiar pain. Yet, Untangled is not just about heartbreak—it’s about freedom.
Every chapter becomes a mirror and a lifeline, guiding readers toward the truth that real love does not demand our silence, our sacrifice, or our self-worth. Shephard blends the compassion of lived experience with the steady grounding of therapeutic wisdom, helping readers identify manipulation, gaslighting, emotional addiction, and the exhausting cycles of “almost” relationships. She gives readers the language to name what’s happening inside them, and the tools to begin healing from the lies that kept them bound.
With empathy and faith, Untangled explores what healthy love actually looks like. It offers a roadmap to emotional maturity—teaching readers to regulate their nervous systems, set boundaries without guilt, rebuild self-trust, and walk away from chaos without questioning their worth. Gentle exercises and reflection prompts invite readers to explore their own patterns of rescuing, denial, or dependency while learning to build a new foundation of peace, truth, and self-respect.
Shephard reminds readers that healing is not about becoming harder but becoming whole. It’s about grieving what love wasn’t, forgiving ourselves for what we didn’t know, and allowing God to rewrite what love truly means. The book blends practical psychology with spiritual restoration, guiding readers to rediscover divine love—the kind that restores rather than drains, and honors rather than uses.
In her signature voice—honest, compassionate, and piercingly wise—Shephard writes as one who has walked through the fire and come out unafraid to tell the truth about it. The Lies Love Told Me and Getting It Right This Time is for the woman who’s tired of being the only one trying, for the man who keeps giving second chances to the same pain, and for anyone who knows that love shouldn’t cost their sanity.
Ultimately, Untangled is an awakening—a book about remembering who you were before you believed the lies. It’s about learning that real love starts where self-abandonment ends. With faith as the anchor and truth as the light, Raina Shephard shows us how to untangle from what broke us and build the kind of love that finally feels like home.
286 pages, Kindle Edition
Published November 9, 2025
About the author
Raina Shepard
40 books2 followersAuthor Biography — Raina Shepard
Raina Shepard is a trauma-informed writer, counselor, and storyteller whose work blends emotional honesty, lived experience, and deep spiritual insight. For more than two decades, she has walked beside individuals and families facing some of life’s hardest roads—addiction, grief, trauma, identity loss, and the quiet battles no one else sees. Her books are known for their raw truth, tender compassion, and the belief that healing is not only possible, but holy.
Surviving a childhood marked by abuse, medical trauma, and generational pain, Raina learned early what it meant to fight for hope. As an adult, she spent years counseling high-risk youth, broken families, and individuals navigating crisis. Her experiences—personal and professional—shape every story she writes. From mystic healing explorations to children’s emotional-literacy books, from codependency recovery to spiritual memoir, her voice stays rooted in resilience, grace, and the quiet presence of God.
Raina is the author of more than forty books, including Angels, Healing & Purpose, The Hard Road Home, Surviving the Teenage Fallout, Ellie’s Day of Feelings, Love Without Swords, Boomerang, and The Mystic Recovery Series. She writes under her own imprint, Shepard Publishing, and continues to build resources for readers seeking emotional recovery, spiritual clarity, and the courage to reclaim their lives.
Whether writing for adults, teens, or children, Raina’s purpose remains the same: to illuminate the path forward for anyone who has ever felt lost in their pain—and to remind them that grace always finds a way home.
Raina Shepard is a trauma-informed writer, counselor, and storyteller whose work blends emotional honesty, lived experience, and deep spiritual insight. For more than two decades, she has walked beside individuals and families facing some of life’s hardest roads—addiction, grief, trauma, identity loss, and the quiet battles no one else sees. Her books are known for their raw truth, tender compassion, and the belief that healing is not only possible, but holy.
Surviving a childhood marked by abuse, medical trauma, and generational pain, Raina learned early what it meant to fight for hope. As an adult, she spent years counseling high-risk youth, broken families, and individuals navigating crisis. Her experiences—personal and professional—shape every story she writes. From mystic healing explorations to children’s emotional-literacy books, from codependency recovery to spiritual memoir, her voice stays rooted in resilience, grace, and the quiet presence of God.
Raina is the author of more than forty books, including Angels, Healing & Purpose, The Hard Road Home, Surviving the Teenage Fallout, Ellie’s Day of Feelings, Love Without Swords, Boomerang, and The Mystic Recovery Series. She writes under her own imprint, Shepard Publishing, and continues to build resources for readers seeking emotional recovery, spiritual clarity, and the courage to reclaim their lives.
Whether writing for adults, teens, or children, Raina’s purpose remains the same: to illuminate the path forward for anyone who has ever felt lost in their pain—and to remind them that grace always finds a way home.
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