The November 2025 #TBRChallenge is "Change of Plans." What immediately came to mind was the John Lennon melody and lyric Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans ("Beautiful Boy"). When I learned that Roy was writing a memoir of sorts, I immediately added it to Mount TBR, and I can't imagine any bigger change of plans than losing your father at a young age.
I remember when Roy was on 95.7 Jamz with his legendary prank phone calls; I picked up on his comedy career when he started popping up on TV and radio. I enjoyed his stories on The Daily Show and his podcast during the pandemic, Roy's Job Fair. I was on Twitter for the chicken sandwich wars, and was thrilled when I found him on Bluesky. It's part hometown boy made good, part vibing with his sense of humor. I was especially curious to see how he'd approach writing a memoir, given the legendary status of his father. What little he's posted to social media about his father made it clear that they weren't the closest of families, and he expands on this here.
This book is less memoir/life story and more of a collection of events that have shaped Roy's morality and character. He writes the book as a direct letter to his own son, relating the stories of the people who have touched his life in all kinds of ways. This includes various women, but he really focuses on the men who have made a difference in his life. He was on a quest for a father figure, because his own father was apparently distant at best. His childhood familial relationship was quite unusual, but it was his mother's desire to move to Birmingham to give him access to his father that pretty much drove this quest.
When Roy became a father himself, he took stock of his life and realized that he wanted to have a better relationship with his son than his father had with him. In this book, he's relating the stories that shaped him as a person: molding his ambition for a career, his desire for financial (and personal) independence, pushing him back on the right path when he strayed into dangerous territory. The men who feature in these stories are relatives, friends, acquaintances, co-workers - some nice, some ignorant, some racist, some indifferent. But he took a life lesson from all of them and wants to impart this knowledge to his son.
This is a beautiful, poignant book by a serious man who has made a career of making people laugh. Comedians ride an emotional rollercoaster few people ever see, and that shines through in this book. I was near tears at certain points. It's obvious Roy has done a lot of work to come to terms with and understand how his past has shaped the person he's become. He's learned from his own mistakes and the mistakes of others; he understands the value of feeling your feelings and then picking yourself up and going on with life. This is something I feel that precious few people in this world understand these days, so it was really lovely to read about it here.
Roy also discusses the reasons why he chose to leave The Daily Show, which were rather eye-opening to me. I knew he had other irons in the fire, but he digs down into what ultimately carried his decision to leave such a high-profile role.
This book is less life story and more life lessons, as the subtitle suggests. I really respect the fact that, though this book is written for his son, he doesn't spend time disparaging and blaming anyone. His desire is not to wallow in anger. He protects the privacy of pretty much everyone he mentions, to the degree that he can.
I really, really enjoyed this book, and seeing the serious side of this very funny man. I hope one day he writes a true autobiography - or at least a collection of the legendary stories from the Golden Corral, LOL.