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Understanding Your Attachment Patterns: Your Quick Guide to Anxious & Avoidant Patterns and Their Remedies
Understanding Your Attachment A Practical Guide to Healing Anxious & Avoidant Love
If you’re tired of looping through the same relationship fights, this is your hands-on guide to change. Written in clear, everyday language, it helps you identify whether you lean anxious, avoidant, or mostly secure—and then gives you simple, repeatable practices to move toward calm, steady connection. This isn’t theory or jargon; it’s a toolkit you can use today on your own, with a partner, or in a small group.
What you’ll learnHow anxious and avoidant patterns form—and the exact moments they get triggered in modern dating and long-term love.
Body-first tools to regulate fear, communicate needs without escalation, and repair quickly after conflict.
How secure attachment really looks in real life (it’s not perfection—it’s skillful repair, clear boundaries, and warmth you can return to).
What’s inside (practical, step-by-step)Attachment Self-Assessment to find your current leaning and choose the right practices.
Understanding Avoidant Attachment + 21-Day Healing for Avoidant: tiny daily reps to stay present, take space without disappearing, and let love stay.
Understanding Anxious Attachment + 21-Day Healing for Anxious: nervous-system soothing, reassurance the secure way, and confidence that doesn’t depend on constant proof.
A Quick Note on Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant): why push-pull isn’t the same as disorganization and when to get extra support.
Why Anxious & Avoidant Are Drawn to Each Other: familiar chemistry, slot-machine reinforcement, and how to break the chase/escape loop.
The Danger Honeymoon → Bonding: biological (dopamine → oxytocin), psychological, and practical shifts—and a plan to navigate them together.
When Sex Feels Close but Love Feels Far: conscious intimacy practices, debrief prompts, and conversation starters that turn the bedroom into a place of trust.
Printable Quick Guides for “spot it → fix it” in the moment.
The 21-Day Healing Paths (built into the book)Two complete, gentle programs—one for anxious leaning, one for avoidant—show you exactly what to do each day to retrain your body toward secure love. Short practices, visualizations, reflection prompts, and micro-habits help you build calm, clarity, and connection that last.
Aaran is a relationship counselor, wellness coach, meditation teacher, intuitive, Reiki Master, and detoxification guide. He is the author of several books in the wellness and relationship fields.
Praise for Aaran's Other Works on Amazon
"I enjoyed the format of the text. Being able to ponder the concepts and then be able to apply it to my own circumstances really drove the messages home. I read this book to try and figure out what I was missing in my healing journey; this book definitely helped me gain some insight into some deep pockets of my mentality!"
"I'm so happy to have found this book! I found Aaran's approach to rediscovering intuition to be so practical and thoughtfully laid out.
If you’re tired of looping through the same relationship fights, this is your hands-on guide to change. Written in clear, everyday language, it helps you identify whether you lean anxious, avoidant, or mostly secure—and then gives you simple, repeatable practices to move toward calm, steady connection. This isn’t theory or jargon; it’s a toolkit you can use today on your own, with a partner, or in a small group.
What you’ll learnHow anxious and avoidant patterns form—and the exact moments they get triggered in modern dating and long-term love.
Body-first tools to regulate fear, communicate needs without escalation, and repair quickly after conflict.
How secure attachment really looks in real life (it’s not perfection—it’s skillful repair, clear boundaries, and warmth you can return to).
What’s inside (practical, step-by-step)Attachment Self-Assessment to find your current leaning and choose the right practices.
Understanding Avoidant Attachment + 21-Day Healing for Avoidant: tiny daily reps to stay present, take space without disappearing, and let love stay.
Understanding Anxious Attachment + 21-Day Healing for Anxious: nervous-system soothing, reassurance the secure way, and confidence that doesn’t depend on constant proof.
A Quick Note on Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant): why push-pull isn’t the same as disorganization and when to get extra support.
Why Anxious & Avoidant Are Drawn to Each Other: familiar chemistry, slot-machine reinforcement, and how to break the chase/escape loop.
The Danger Honeymoon → Bonding: biological (dopamine → oxytocin), psychological, and practical shifts—and a plan to navigate them together.
When Sex Feels Close but Love Feels Far: conscious intimacy practices, debrief prompts, and conversation starters that turn the bedroom into a place of trust.
Printable Quick Guides for “spot it → fix it” in the moment.
The 21-Day Healing Paths (built into the book)Two complete, gentle programs—one for anxious leaning, one for avoidant—show you exactly what to do each day to retrain your body toward secure love. Short practices, visualizations, reflection prompts, and micro-habits help you build calm, clarity, and connection that last.
Aaran is a relationship counselor, wellness coach, meditation teacher, intuitive, Reiki Master, and detoxification guide. He is the author of several books in the wellness and relationship fields.
Praise for Aaran's Other Works on Amazon
"I enjoyed the format of the text. Being able to ponder the concepts and then be able to apply it to my own circumstances really drove the messages home. I read this book to try and figure out what I was missing in my healing journey; this book definitely helped me gain some insight into some deep pockets of my mentality!"
"I'm so happy to have found this book! I found Aaran's approach to rediscovering intuition to be so practical and thoughtfully laid out.
33 pages, Kindle Edition
Published November 12, 2025
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