You Can Have It All: Unlock the Secrets to a Great Life

by Gaur Gopal Das

Gaur Gopal Das, India's most-followed monk with over 25 million followers and 2.5 billion video views, brings you a book unlike anything he has ever written before.

Most of us spend our lives chasing our dreams - happiness, love, good health, financial freedom, security and more.

But can we really have it all?

On a cool November morning, Gaur Gopal Das arrives in Jaisalmer to attend his friend Rakesh Arora's son's three-day-long wedding festivities where he meets the Arora clan and the soon-to-be bride's family. As the wedding day approaches and an unexpected visitor makes an appearance, he observes the storm that threatens to tear apart the two families.

In the course of his conversations with his hosts and their guests, through his unassuming presence, he unearths the secret fears and desires they guard fiercely in their hearts and offers them steadying counsel even as he reveals his own journey through life's vicissitudes.

You Can Have It All is Gaur Gopal Das's most personal and profound narrative yet, a captivating book that presents a transformative and radical path for those of us caught between ambition and fulfilment, between striving and being. Marked by his iconic humour, deep empathy and gentle wisdom, it urges us to understand how perspective shapes our reality, learn to recognize and overcome our blind spots, and develop the self-compassion we need to better navigate this beautiful, complicated thing we call life.

Genres: Nonfiction

302 pages, Kindle Edition

Published December 23, 2025

About the author

Gaur Gopal Das (IAST: Gaura-Gopāla dāsa) is an Indian lifestyle coach, motivational speaker and former HP engineer. He is a member of the International Society for Krishna Consciousness (ISKCON).

He was born in Pune, Maharashtra, India. He has a diploma in electrical engineering from Cusrow Wadia Institute of Technology, Pune and a degree from College of Engineering, Pune. He worked as an electrical engineer at Hewlett Packard for a brief period, before leaving the company in 1996 to become a lifestyle coach.

In 2018, he published the book Life's Amazing Secrets, and received an honorary doctorate by Kalinga Institute of Industrial Technology (KIIT). He was reported as having over 3.9 million YouTube followers with more than 177 million views.

Reviews

[a_geminireader · Rating 5 out of 5]

" You Can Have It All" by Gaur Gopal Das feels less like a self-help book and more like a gentle pause you didn’t know you needed. Set during a wedding in Jaisalmer, the narrative unfolds through ordinary conversations, family dynamics, and emotionally charged moments that quietly mirror our own lives. What makes this book special is how effortlessly wisdom blends into real situations no heavy preaching, no unrealistic ideals, just honest reflections on how we live, love, and react.

The author doesn’t offer quick fixes or dramatic transformations. Instead, he invites us to slow down and observe ourselves—our expectations, our judgments, and the way we handle relationships. Through the different characters and their struggles, the book reminds us that everyone is carrying something unseen, and kindness often begins with understanding rather than advice.

What stayed with me was the calm tone throughout the book. Even when dealing with conflict or emotional discomfort, the approach remains compassionate and grounded. The lessons feel approachable, practical, and rooted in everyday life, making them easy to absorb and reflect upon.

This is a comforting read one that doesn’t push you to change overnight, but gently nudges you to become more aware, more patient, and more at peace with yourself and others. A thoughtful companion for anyone navigating life one quiet step at a time.

[Archana A · Rating 4 out of 5]

Gaur Gopal Das ji is here with another powerful book that is instilled with a lot of values. This is the perfect time to start reading this book as many of us keep resolutions for the new year.

In our lives, we go on chasing a lot of things. I love Gopal Ji's wisdom and his way of teaching us a lot about life. I have read his books previously and liked them a lot.

'You can have it all' was a read that I could almost finish within a single sitting. This isn't your regular self-help book. It has a lot of stories of wisdom, activities, and exercises that will make you think. All of us want to achieve a lot. But, what we lack is clarity. This book is what you need to keep on track.

[Debabrata Mishra · Rating 4 out of 5]

Most of us grow up believing that life is something to be earned. Happiness after success. Peace after stability. Love after we become “enough.” We chase milestones as if fulfilment were a prize waiting patiently at the end of endurance. "You Can Have It All" steps into this collective exhaustion and asks a deceptively simple, deeply unsettling question: what if the problem is not that we don’t have enough, but that we don’t know how to live with what we already carry?

This is not a book that competes for attention. It does not shout wisdom. It does not dazzle with theories. Instead, it sits beside the reader, quiet, observant, patient, and allows meaning to surface through ordinary human moments.

The choice of a three-day wedding in Jaisalmer as the narrative frame is deliberate and thematically precise. An Indian wedding is one of the rare spaces where personal history, social expectation, unresolved grief, ambition, love, and resentment all coexist openly. Celebration becomes camouflage; ritual becomes pressure.

Jaisalmer’s stillness, its desert quiet, its historical weight, creates a counterpoint. Against this vast, unmoving landscape, the characters’ inner turbulence feels sharper. The setting silently argues what the book insists throughout: external grandeur cannot compensate for internal imbalance.

What is striking about Gaur Gopal Das in this narrative is his refusal to dominate it. He does not arrive as a problem-solver. He listens more than he speaks. He pauses where others rush.

This restraint is not aesthetic, it is philosophical. The book’s moral centre lies in the belief that wisdom is not always corrective. Sometimes it is containment. The monk’s presence allows people to articulate truths they have long suppressed, not because he instructs them to, but because he does not interrupt them.

Silence, in this book, is not absence. It is ethical presence. The monk’s refusal to fill emotional space with solutions critiques our discomfort with unresolved pain. The book suggests that the need to “fix” often serves the listener more than the speaker.

The extended conversational scenes involving family members and romantic partners are deliberately unresolved. People speak honestly, but timing matters. The book does not guarantee redemption through truth-telling. This honesty elevates the narrative. It acknowledges that maturity does not prevent loss, that clarity sometimes arrives after consequences have set in. Wisdom, the book argues, does not erase cost, it teaches us how to bear it without bitterness.

✍️ Strengths :

🔸The questions are precise, grounded, and genuinely reflective

🔸Concepts like control, acceptance, negotiation, and grace are thoughtfully structured

🔸They extend the book from reading into lived practice

🔸Deep emotional realism without sentimentality

🔸Strong coherence between narrative, metaphor, and design

🔸Compassionate tone without moral superiority

🔸Culturally rooted yet widely relatable

🔸Refusal to oversimplify complex human emotions

In conclusion, it is not a book about achieving balance. It is a book about learning to remain present inside imbalance, without numbing, without denial, without self-betrayal. It does not promise happiness, It offers honesty. It does not sell answers, It teaches patience. In a culture obsessed with becoming more, this book insists on something far more demanding and far more humane which is,
"Learn to live truthfully with what you already are."

[Medha Banerjee · Rating 5 out of 5]

A Heartfelt Journey Through “You Can Have It All” by Gaur Gopal Das
I’ve always been drawn to books that bridge the gap between ancient wisdom and modern chaos, and Gaur Gopal Das has a way of making that connection feel effortless. When I picked up You Can Have It All: Unlock the Secrets to a Great Life, I was at a crossroads in my own life—juggling a demanding job, family expectations, and that nagging inner voice wondering if true fulfillment was even possible. Little did I know, this book would become a gentle companion, whispering truths that stirred my soul and brought tears to my eyes more than once. It’s not just a self-help guide; it’s a warm embrace from a wise friend who’s walked the path of human struggle and emerged with compassion intact.
Set against the vibrant backdrop of a wedding in Jaisalmer, the narrative unfolds like a heartfelt conversation over chai. Das weaves personal stories, humor, and profound insights into a tapestry that explores the delicate dance between ambition and inner peace. He doesn’t preach from a pedestal; instead, he invites us into his world, sharing vulnerabilities that make him so relatable. One chapter in particular, where he delves into overcoming blind spots and cultivating self-compassion, hit me like a wave of long-suppressed emotions. I found myself pausing, reflecting on my own regrets—the missed moments with loved ones, the relentless pursuit of “success” that left me feeling empty. Das’s words reminded me that it’s okay to slow down, to forgive ourselves for not having it all figured out. In a world that glorifies hustle, this book is a tender reminder that true abundance comes from balance, not burnout.
What makes this book emotionally resonant is Das’s iconic blend of wit and empathy. His writing is simple yet poetic, turning complex philosophical ideas into digestible, life-affirming nuggets. For instance, he talks about perspective shaping reality, and I could feel the weight lifting off my chest as I internalized that my struggles weren’t failures but opportunities for growth. There were moments of laughter, like his quirky analogies drawn from everyday life, but they often gave way to quiet introspection. I cried reading about relationships and the quiet heartaches we all carry, realizing how often we chase external validation while ignoring the love within. It’s emotionally rich because it doesn’t shy away from the rawness of human experience—ambition’s thrill, disappointment’s sting, and the quiet joy of self-acceptance.
Of course, it’s not without its lighter critics; some might call it a “one-time read” or basic self-help, but I disagree. In its simplicity lies its power—it’s accessible for anyone, from the overworked professional to the soul-searching student. Das, with his 25 million followers and billions of views, draws from a well of lived wisdom as a monk, yet he feels like the uncle you confide in at family gatherings.
In the end, You Can Have It All left me with a renewed sense of hope and a deeper kindness toward myself and others. It’s a book that doesn’t promise perfection but offers a radical path to a life that’s meaningfully full. If you’re feeling lost in the noise of daily striving, pick this up. It might just heal parts of you you didn’t know were hurting. Highly recommended—five stars from a grateful heart.

[Vidhya Thakkar · Rating 5 out of 5]

What I truly loved is how complex life lessons are explained in the simplest, most relatable way. Through everyday conversations, wedding rituals, family dynamics, and unexpected situations, Gaur Gopal Das doesn’t just tell us what to do, he patiently explains why it matters. He reminds us early on not to judge people for the choices they make when we don’t know the options they had. From there, the narrative gently unfolds, blending humour, insight, and emotional depth without ever feeling preachy.
As the wedding progresses, we meet a wide range of characters like Ved, Priya, Gaurav, Mr. and Mrs. Arora, the bride, and the groom, each carrying their own doubts, fears, opinions, and unresolved struggles. Mr. and Mrs. Arora reflect years of endurance and quiet resilience. Ved represents a new generation, questioning, expressive, and full of opinions yet surprisingly receptive. Each interaction reveals a different shade of human emotion. Throughout the book, the author’s presence feels like a calm anchor. His responses are never imposing; instead, they gently guide, allowing each person to arrive at their own understanding. The dialogues feel natural, thoughtful, and rooted in lived experience, making the wisdom feel accessible rather than abstract.
Indian weddings are known for their drama, and this one is no exception. An unexpected visitor shifts the emotional tone of the entire celebration. What stood out to me was how safe people felt opening up to him, sharing uncomfortable truths, hidden bitterness, and long-held questions and how compassionately he listened. There’s so much to learn here, not just in what he says, but in how he listens.
From mehendi and haldi to sangeet and the wedding ceremony itself, each ritual becomes a metaphor for life. The explanations behind these traditions are thoughtful and symbolic, reminding us that everyone at the wedding and in life is on their own journey. Each ritual mirrors transitions, patience, struggle, and growth. The book gently reminds us that life is fragile, unpredictable, and unfair at times but also deeply instructive, if we choose to learn.
My copy of the book is filled with highlights and notes. Lines I paused on. Conversations I re-read. Lessons that stayed. One of my favourite sections speaks about effort. How life is unfair to everyone in different ways, but what truly sets us apart is where we place our effort. Instead of losing ourselves in what we cannot change, the book nudges us to focus on what we can. I also deeply appreciated how the book addresses bitterness not as loud anger or complaints, but as something that often hides behind humour, busyness, or a well-rehearsed smile. Unless we acknowledge it, heal it, and learn from it, it quietly weighs us down.
Through metaphors, song lines, everyday examples, and simple stories, Gaur Gopal Das explores communication, silence, perspective, positivity balanced with reality, and even what we can learn from a lotus. The writing style is simple, crisp, and conversational, making heavy ideas feel light yet meaningful. You Can Have It All is not about perfection; it’s about perspective. It reminds us that peace is a choice, growth is a process, and wisdom often arrives through ordinary conversations. This is a must-read and a must-keep—a book you return to when life feels overwhelming, when choices feel heavy, or when you simply need a gentle nudge back to yourself.


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[Parth Agrawal · Rating 5 out of 5]

Hello friends, I hope all are healthy and doing well. It had been quite sometime that I had read his book and I thought since he has come up with a new book, I can't miss this one and I must say that I was not disappointed. Since I have moved to Mumbai in May 2025, I have found it to be overwhelming like everyone else. I am settling in here slowly but the wisdom nuggets mentioned in this book have really helped a lot through my tough times

It is a very easy read and the context and stories are very relatable. It can be finished very quickly but my suggestion would be to read one 1 chapter daily as a morning ritual and let the wisdom of that chapter settle. For the past few days, this book has been my morning coffee for me because everyday a new chapter brought in a fresh perspective to my day.

There are various lessons that you will find to be interesting but I want to enumerate my favorite ones:

1) He talks about how same stories when retold often reveal new nuances not because the story is new but because the context has changed and the same words give the whole story a new meaning

2) It is wonderfully explained how a silence filled with compassion can heal more deeply than a 1000 words of hurried advice. When someone opens up to you, it is not an invitation to offer suggestions to correct them, instead, they need our patience to "let it be". Through this silence, maybe the listener will be able to convey the speaker that the mistakes one stumble upon don't erase our value, they humanize it

3) I absolutely loved this one- People often struggle with acceptance because they feel that acceptance is giving up and it discourages initiative, however, it doesn't mean to refuse growth. It means to grow with compassion instead of growing by punishment

4) One's experience with disappointment tends to change people's personality in ways even they don't seem to realize. When disappointment knocks on our doors again and again, we begin to build walls. We harden our hearts so we won't feel hurt again. We wear bitterness like an armor, thinking it will protect us but it actually poisons us. It keeps us alive on the outside but drains us on the inside. We have to protect ourselves from calcification of our bitterness into resentment

5) We must not pressure ourselves to become better instantly because we are adding the burden of guilt over grief

6) Saying no sometimes doesn't mean unwillingness to serve. It means drawing the right boundaries to protect one's self-respect. Living only for ourselves does make us selfish but living only for others leaves us empty

7) If we are walking down a different path than what we had envisioned for ourselves, that doesn't mean that the passion has to die. Wisest risks are the ones that are taken with preparation, not on impulse

I want to sincerely suggest people to go through this book because the title "You can have it all" may make you feel that he is giving some magical secret advise but you are in for a surprise because the answer lies within us and it has been within us all along

[Saumya · Rating 5 out of 5]

Call me superstitious, but I am very particular about the book I begin my year with. To me, it quietly sets the tone for the rest of my reading journey. And honestly, what better way to start than with You Can Have It All by Gaur Gopal Das? I have been a keen admirer of his work for years, often binge-watching his videos on YouTube. In fact, most Sundays, my dad and I spend our afternoons doing exactly that drawn to his storytelling, where we are equally amused and left with something meaningful to reflect on.

Growing up, I always imagined monks as serious, rigid, and distant people who were calm and wise but perhaps hard to relate to. Gaur Gopal Das completely reshaped that image for me. Through his talks, he comes across as warm, welcoming, caring, and deeply human. You don’t just listen to him; you feel understood by him.

In this book, Gaur Gopal Das, a monk, finds himself invited to a lavish wedding, where he is picked up by a Gen Z character. From that moment, the story unfolds beautifully, beginning with the journey to the wedding and coming full circle by the end of the celebrations. Along the way, different family members approach him with their problems, and in his signature style, he listens patiently and offers insights that never feel preachy. Instead, the conversations are funny, thoughtful, and deeply relatable. They make you pause, smile, and reflect, often all at once.

What stood out to me the most was how each character’s struggle felt unique, yet incredibly familiar. Issues like confusion, loneliness, trust in relationships, identity, and the fear of being truly seen are woven into the narrative so naturally. While the problems belong to different characters, the solutions offered are simple, practical, and universally applicable. More often than not, I found myself relating to them personally.

The brilliance of this book lies in how seamlessly the moral lessons are wrapped in storytelling. You’re not told what to do; you arrive at the realization yourself. By the time the story ends, it leaves you with a breath of fresh air and a renewed perspective on life.

I would strongly recommend reading this book slowly, allowing yourself to absorb every insight and emotion it offers. No matter your age or phase of life, this book has something valuable to give. I highlighted so many sections that I genuinely ran out of tabs. As a certified Gen Z reader, I usually see reading as “me time,” and non-fiction rarely works for me. But this book is uniquely coded. It reads like a wholesome story, where everything eventually comes together and makes sense.


At its core, You Can Have It All gently nudges you to think deeper, reflect longer, and see life from a kinder, wiser lens. And that, to me, makes it a truly special read.

[♡ Diyasha ♡ · Rating 5 out of 5]

𝐁𝐎𝐎𝐊 𝐑𝐄𝐕𝐈𝐄𝐖: 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐇𝐀𝐕𝐄 𝐈𝐓 𝐀𝐋𝐋
𝐀𝐔𝐓𝐇𝐎𝐑: 𝐆𝐀𝐔𝐑 𝐆𝐎𝐏𝐀𝐋 𝐃𝐀𝐒

☔︎ A thoughtful blend of storytelling and philosophy. And there's practical wisdom. Known for simplifying complex spiritual ideas, the author once again speaks directly to modern readers who are constantly juggling ambition, relationships and expectations and inner peace.

☔︎ Set against the lively backdrop of a three day wedding in Jaisalmer, the book uses everyday conversations and observations to explore one big question: Can we truly have that success, happiness, love and peace all at once? Or is something always missing?

☔︎ The plot unfolds during a wedding celebration where Gaur Gopal Das interacts with relatives, guests and acquaintances from different walks of life. Each interaction becomes a window into common human struggles - career pressure, relationship conflicts, comparison, fear of failure and the constant chase for “more”.

☔︎ Though these encounters challenge the popular belief that “having it all” means achieving everything at the same time. He explains that most people exhaust themselves trying to excel in every area, only to feel empty or anxious inside. The problem is not ambition itself but misaligned priorities. A Kay idea repeated throughout the book is perspective.

☔︎ The author shows how two people can experience the same situation very differently based on their mindset. He encourages readers to slow down, reflect and understand their own definition of success instead of blindly following society's checklist. This book also places strong emphasis on: inner peace over external validation, self awareness before self improvement, balancing efforts with acceptance.

☔︎ Rather than preaching, the author uses warmth, humour, and relatable examples to show that fulfillment comes from aligning actions with values. He explains that life becomes lighter when we stop comparing our “behind the scenes” with someone else's highlight reel. And letting go of unrealistic expectations - of past grievances, of past deeds and past regrets is one of the kindest things that we can do for ourselves.

☔︎ 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐇𝐀𝐕𝐄 𝐈𝐓 𝐀𝐋𝐋 actually refines what “all” truly matters to us. He reminds us that life is not about perfection or constant achievement, but about balances, clarity and contentment. You can have your ambition, peace , growth and gratitude - but not without understanding ourselves.

[Ashwini Sannake · Rating 4 out of 5]

Set against the backdrop of a grand wedding in Jaisalmer with three days of lavish celebrations, this book unfolds through ten life-changing principles woven into an engaging, story-driven narrative. As Gaur Gopal Das attends the festivities, we’re introduced to members of both families, each carrying something unspoken within them. An unexpected visitor’s arrival subtly shifts the atmosphere, setting the stage for deeper conversations inspired by real stories, emotions, and lived experiences.

Through these conversations with family members and guests, Gaur Gopal Das gently unearths their fears and struggles. The dialogues that follow and the perspectives offered are what truly set this book apart.

This is a nonfiction book that reads like fiction, pulling you in with its narrative flow and sense of curiosity about what unfolds next. What connects deeply are the lessons that emerge organically through these conversations. Each chapter explores a character’s struggle, fear, or wound they’ve been quietly carrying for years — the same inner scripts shaped by past memories and traumas that many of us repeat daily. The wisdom that follows helps you see these patterns in a new light. It feels like stumbling upon answers to questions you’ve been privately carrying for a long time.

Borrowing some lines from one of my favourite and most impactful chapters:
“These words are out into the world like paper boats, not knowing if they’ll sink or sail. Some sink, some float… some get lost or reach the shore, and sometimes they land in places you never expected.”

That’s exactly what these words and lessons do — they feel like a direct conversation with the reader. The lessons land gently, exactly as needed, guided by empathy and compassion.

The book also includes worksheets with detailed journaling prompts, accessible via QR codes, which can be genuinely helpful if you want to reflect step by step. It’s incredibly quoteworthy, you won’t stop highlighting, and there’s some unexpected yet inspiring shayari woven in as well.

Overall, this is a good read if you’re feeling confused or trying to understand patterns you want to resolve or let go of. It’s not a book to rush through, but one to sit with and reflect on — quietly reminding you that yes, you can have it all.

[Rahul Vishnoi · Rating 5 out of 5]

-Can You Really Have it All?-
Review of 'You Can Have it All'

Quote Alert
"𝐒𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧, 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞. 𝐀 𝐬𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐚 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐡𝐮𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐝𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐞. 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐮𝐫𝐠𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐫𝐮𝐩𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐲𝐬𝐞, 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬, 𝐰𝐞 𝐠𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐠𝐢𝐟𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐝.
𝐒𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐱𝐭 𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐚𝐜𝐫𝐨𝐬𝐬 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬, 𝐥𝐞𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐬𝐚𝐲 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨: 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞. 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐈 𝐝𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐢𝐱 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐈 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭, 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞, 𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰𝐬 𝐚 𝐛𝐫𝐨𝐤𝐞𝐧 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐧 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠."

(Most of us spend our lives chasing our dreams - happiness, love, good health, financial freedom, security and more. But can we really have it all?)

Who knew a monk would take over social media by storm and with his cheery simplicity, would win over the heart of million? And now that monk is back with a book. So what is it about?

On a cool November morning, Gaur Gopal Das arrives in Jaisalmer to attend his friend Rakesh Arora's son's three-day-long wedding festivities where he meets the Arora clan and the soon-to-be bride's family. As the wedding day approaches and an unexpected visitor makes an appearance, he observes the storm that threatens to tear apart the two families.

In the course of his conversations with his hosts and their guests, through his unassuming presence, he unearths the secret fears and desires they guard fiercely in their hearts and offers them steadying counsel even as he reveals his own journey through life's vicissitudes.

You Can Have It All is Gaur Gopal Das's most personal and profound narrative yet, a captivating book that presents a transformative and radical path for those of us caught between ambition and fulfilment, between striving and being. Marked by his iconic humour, deep empathy and gentle wisdom, it urges us to understand how perspective shapes our reality, learn to recognize and overcome our blind spots, and develop the self-compassion we need to better navigate this beautiful, complicated thing we call life.

[Fictionandme · Rating 5 out of 5]

you can have it all by gaur gopal das

genre: self-help

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[31/1/26 7.01 PM]

So, I read THE non-fiction book of the year, You Can Have It All by Gaur Gopal Das. It doesn’t come at you like a heavy self-help lecture like most books I've read from this genre. It’s more like the author quietly pulling up a chair and starting a conversation you didn’t know you needed. The kind where you nod along and think, "oh… that’s uncomfortably true."

The book starts with a wedding in Jaisalmer, which honestly felt like such a interesting setting. Big Indian weddings already come with emotions, expectations, family politics, and unspoken tensions. And through these wedding conversations, the author gently unpacks what most of us are struggling with anyway: ambition vs peace, success vs fulfilment, wanting everything but not knowing what “everything” really means.

What I enjoyed the most is how personal the book feels. He doesn’t position himself as someone who has life completely figured out. He talks about his own doubts, detours, and inner conflicts, and that makes the advice land better and even inspires me with a fresh perspective about life.

The big question - can we really have it all? - is handled very honestly. The book doesn’t say “yes, manifest harder” or “no, give up your dreams.” Instead, it asks you to redefine what "having it all" even means. Is it constant hustle? Is it peace? Is it balance? And whose definition are you living by anyway?

I also loved how much emphasis there is on perspective, blind spots, and self-compassion. Especially self-compassion. That reminder that we’re allowed to be human, confused, ambitious, tired, hopeful, all at the same time, with the author's voice as a guiding friend.
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This isn’t a book you rush through. It’s more of a slow read. If you’re someone who feels torn between wanting more from life and wanting peace, if you’re ambitious but also exhausted, if you’re questioning what “success” even looks like anymore, this is the book I recommend for you. A very human read. 🤍

[AANVI WRITES · Rating 4 out of 5]

Life moves so fast that we often find ourselves stuck in a rat race, not knowing what we are running toward. In this rush, we overlook our real needs and chase endless wants, believing they will bring happiness. Somewhere along the way, life places us at crossroads moments of confusion where we search for solace and answers within ourselves. That’s when the question arises: can we really have it all?

This book gently invites us to pause, reflect, and examine what we are doing to ourselves in our constant pursuit of perfection. It opens with the author taking us to a wedding set in Jaisalmer, where he quietly observes the joy, tension, worries, and emotions of the families involved. As he helps the wedding guests, he also helps us notice the things we have overlooked all our lives. It feels as if we are witnessing the wedding ourselves meeting the guests, admiring the décor, and absorbing the unspoken realities of life through simple interactions.

The tone remains calm and reassuring throughout. Using everyday situations, Gaur Gopal Das explains complex ideas with clarity and wit. This is not a book that preaches; wisdom is offered slowly and gently, almost without you realizing it. Through stories, activities, and reflections, the book encourages you to pause, learn from past mistakes, stop complaining, and move forward with a renewed perspective. The message that problems in our life come not for us to go through it but to grow through it has been conveyed well. It heals you quietly, reminding you that challenges are meant to shape you, not weaken you.

Each chapter leaves you with something to reflect upon a thought, a pause, or a gentle nudge toward balance. It’s a comforting read, especially during moments of confusion, self-doubt, or emotional exhaustion. A book to be read slowly, absorbed deeply, and returned to whenever you need clarity and reassurance.

[Aparna Prabhu · Rating 4 out of 5]

I have never read Gaur Gopal Das's previous works. So, I delved into the book with zero expectations. The end result was a warm voice navigating you through different vagaries of life. In the author's note, he states that the book isn't a substitute for therapy or professional advice. I had read guides that omitted this important statement.

”Seeking help is not a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of wisdom and self-care.”

The series of events unfold at a wedding in Jaisalmer. The act of gifting is beautifully illustrated through a child offering a biscuit with sticky fingers with good intentions and an adult presenting an expensive pen devoid of any emotion within.

’Sometimes the gesture is small but the feeling behind it is huge. And at times the gesture is big, but the feeling behind it is missing.’

Gaur Gopal Das, through his years of wisdom, take the readers on a spiritual sojourn. You Can Have it All balances wisdom and Das's candid voice. This is not your usual guide that belts out a manual and teaches you how to lead your life. He subtly describes how problems are inevitable, but their impact can be lessened through conscious steps. Reading this book felt like having an intimate conversation with a friend or a mentor.

Das encourages readers to slow down and quietly introspect before taking hasty decisions that mirror societal expectations. His practical and honest approach focuses on perspective rather than baseless theory.

You Can Have it All emphasizes on choosing inner peace over external validation, cultivating self-awareness before pursuing self-improvement, and harmonizing effort with acceptance. Whether you are a working professional or a student or even someone with infectious curiosity, this book is for you.

[Akanksha Reads · Rating 5 out of 5]

You Can Have It All, is a broad book with fair and simple lessons embedded into a long story divided in to chapters.
Gaur ji, the renowned monk in recent times, attends his friend's son's Rohan marriage in the Jaisalmer. It was about a 3 days long function. Ved is Rakhesh's grandson and Lakshami his wife. Priya is rakhesh's daughter. As well as Rohan and Sanjana we're to marry each other in Rajasthan.
The story begins in soft tune with introductory communication between Ved and Gaur ji and family introduction continues.
First two chapters had a vibe that keeps you hooked to continue to next chapters in order to understand things better for they were a life lesson to be inhibited in self to live a healthy peacful life.

Meera's story of imperfection lead me to a purpose of life to adore myself as who I am . Wabi Sabi and Kintsugi been explained as term so well that it stayed me in this moment of expression.
Gaur ji explained priya to bloom where she was and believe that she was beautiful even in the chaos.
Relationship advices , Life roles, Reality checks and Reminders to balance the authenticity in life is a part of entire book.

One thing I will take a reminder for long is - Learning to adjust, to communicate, to forgive, to respect differences - these are same principles that apply in every relationship, whether it's between spouses, friends and colleagues.

Last pages of book end in with - Your thoughts journal, let those questions , answer you and get you the valid solutions.

Make this book your choice for 2026 and fill yourself with mindful, relatable and necessary lesson through marvelous storytelling technique.

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[Khushi Rungta · Rating 5 out of 5]

“If 'having it all' means having a flawless life where everything goes as planned, without cracks or chaos, then no, it doesn't exist.
Life will always surprise us with its detours and imperfections.
But if 'having it all' means finding growth, love, peace and meaning within those imperfections, then yes, we can have it all. Not because life is perfect, but because we learn to live fully and grow gently within its imperfections.”

- Gaur Gopal Das

You Can Have It All is not a book that tries to impress you with grand promises or flashy productivity hacks. Instead, it asks you to slow down and notice the invisible patterns that shape your life. What makes this book stand out is not that it claims to offer “everything,” but that it gently challenges our obsession with having in the first place.

Throughout the book, he observes people- their insecurities, their marriages, their ambitions, and their unspoken regrets, that too at a wedding. This choice of setting was what won me over, as weddings are where we see so many emotions come to play. Against this backdrop, the book explores very real questions, blending 10 focal principles of the book.

The idea that struck me most was that imbalance in life rarely comes from wanting too much; it comes from wanting things without awareness. It is so true when the author’s words are considered to be wisdom for the modern world. He does appeal in a way that gets to this generation.

Plus, if you are someone who looks forward to some wholesome activities while reading such texts, he has included a lot of worksheets ( both softcopy and hardcopy ) corresponding to all chapters. Makes you feel you truly are on a discovery journey.

[Twisted fella · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book feels more like a calm story narration or conversation than a typical self-help book. Set during a wedding in Jaisalmer, the story unfolds through everyday moments, family interactions, and quiet observations. Instead of directly giving advice, the author lets wisdom flow through real-life situations that many of us can easily relate to via his story.

During the course of the wedding, we meet different characters, each dealing with their own worries, expectations, and emotional struggles. Through these gentle moments, the book reflects on common questions we all have about happiness, success, relationships, money, and inner peace. Rather than offering quick solutions, Gaur Gopal Das ji encourages readers to slow down and notice their own thoughts, reactions, and blind spots, which to be honest is sounds achievable after reading the book.

What stood out most for me was the book’s calm and compassionate tone. Even when discussing serious Topics like conflict or disappointment, the message is rooted in understanding and kindness. The author reminds us that everyone carries unseen burdens, and that empathy often matters more than advice. Which is lacking in Today's world. His writing is warm, simple, and honest, making deep ideas easy to absorb without feeling heavy ,preachy or too hard to get along with.

This book does not push you to change your life overnight. Instead, it gently nudges you toward balance, self-awareness, and patience—both with yourself and with others.

Overall if want to grow while enjoying reading. This is the final stop you're looking for .It is a comforting read for anyone who feels torn between ambition and peace, and a thoughtful reminder that having it all may begin with understanding what truly matters.

[Rinki · Rating 5 out of 5]

Most of us spend our lives chasing happiness, success, love, health, and security—often believing we must sacrifice one to gain another. You Can Have It All gently questions this belief and offers a refreshingly honest perspective on what “having it all” truly means.
Set against the backdrop of a wedding in Jaisalmer, the book unfolds through conversations, stories, and quiet observations. Through everyday moments and deeply human interactions, Gaur Gopal Das addresses relationships, failure, self-worth, vulnerability, communication, and inner strength—without sounding preachy.
Each chapter feels like a pause button on life.
From Cracked Mugs teaching acceptance in imperfection, to Standing Still Within a Storm reminding us of inner resilience, the wisdom here is practical, relatable, and deeply comforting.

What makes this book special is how it blends storytelling, self-reflection, and a thought journal, encouraging readers not just to read—but to reflect, write, and grow.
This is not a book you rush through.
It’s one you sit with.

Why I liked this book:-

- This book helps you to find clarity without overwhelming advice.
- It shares perfect balance of ambition and inner peace.
- Relatable life lessons wrapped in simple stories.
- Ideal for anyone feeling stuck, confused, or searching for balance.
- Offers practical wisdom you can actually apply to daily life.
- Calming, comforting, and deeply insightful.
- A slow, meaningful read that stays with you.

You Can Have It All feels like wisdom wrapped in stories and gentle reminders.
Reading this felt like answering questions I didn’t know how to ask.”

[Rounak · Rating 4 out of 5]

You Can Have It All showcases Gaur Gopal Das at his most introspective and composed. Instead of handing out a formula for success or happiness, the book unfolds gently, weaving together observations, conversations, and real-life experiences.

Set against the backdrop of a wedding in Jaisalmer, the story serves as a soft lens through which we can see human anxieties, dreams, and the fears we often keep to ourselves. Gaur Gopal Das doesn’t try to “fix” his characters, or the reader, for that matter. He listens, ponders, and shares insights that feel genuinely earned rather than simply taught. The spiritual wisdom flows naturally from everyday moments, making the book feel relatable and grounded, rather than lofty or out of reach. It thoughtfully explores themes of balance, fulfillment, and purpose, recognizing that life is seldom tidy or straightforward. There’s a refreshing honesty in the author’s willingness to reveal his own vulnerabilities. His thoughts on ambition, self-compassion, and perspective resonate on a personal level, reminding us that spiritual growth doesn’t mean retreating from the world; rather, it’s about engaging with it more mindfully. The humor is subtle, the language is straightforward, and the wisdom feels organic.


Ultimately, You Can Have It All conveys that a meaningful life isn’t about accumulating everything we want, but about discerning what truly deserves our focus. Calm, reflective, and deeply comforting, this book doesn’t just provide answers; it offers clarity, and that’s its most significant strength.

[_booksagsm · Rating 4 out of 5]

As we dive into 2026, with just seven days into the new year, I often catch myself thinking about all the things I haven’t been able to do yet—dreams paused, plans unfinished, life feeling a little overwhelming. It was during this reflective mood that I picked up You Can Have It All. I’ve read a couple of books by Gaur Gopal Das before, and I’ve even met him a few times, so I was familiar with his calm presence and gentle wisdom. Still, this book felt different. With its beautiful hardcover and that soft glow on the spine, it felt like the exact book I needed at this moment in my life. The story unfolds during a wedding in Jaisalmer, and through simple conversations, emotions, and unexpected moments, the author slowly draws you into deeper questions about happiness, ambition, relationships, and inner peace.

What I loved most is how easy and human this book feels. It doesn’t preach or rush you toward answers. Instead, it reminds you to pause, look inward, and be kinder to yourself. Through the lives of ordinary people, their fears, insecurities, and desires, Gaur Gopal Das gently shows that wanting success and wanting peace don’t have to be opposite goals. His humour, warmth, and personal reflections make the book feel like a quiet conversation with a wise friend. This isn’t a book you race through—it’s one you sit with, underline, and come back to when life feels too loud. For anyone standing between striving for more and simply wanting to feel whole, this book offers comfort, clarity, and hope.

[kriti · Rating 5 out of 5]

I just finished reading Gaur Gopal Das’s You Can Have It All, and honestly, it surprised me in the best way. I went in expecting his usual short nuggets of wisdom, but this felt different more like stepping into a story than attending a lecture.

The book is set around a wedding in Jaisalmer, and that wedding vibe is so real the relatives, the chaos, the performances, and that underlying drama no one talks about but everyone feels. Through all this, Gaur Gopal Das quietly becomes part of the room. He talks to both families, picks up on their anxieties about money, relationships, expectations and “what will people say”, and it never feels preachy or forced. It’s literally the kind of advice you get when you unexpectedly find yourself sitting next to one wise person at an event who actually listens.

What I liked most is how personal he gets. He shares things from his own life too moments where he didn’t have it all figured out, and that vulnerability made the whole book feel warm and human. Also, there’s humour sprinkled throughout, which keeps things light even when the topic is heavy.

By the time I reached the end, I felt weirdly seen because the book isn’t saying “stop chasing things”, it’s just asking “do you know why you’re chasing them?”. That hit.

And the best part? There are worksheets at the end. Actual pages you can fill out about your goals, fears, priorities and blind spots. I didn’t expect that, and I love itbecause it turns the book into something you can apply instead of just read and forget.
4.5/5

[Varma Shagun · Rating 5 out of 5]

𝐐𝐮𝐨𝐭𝐞:
"Life's lessons come not in straight lines but in the ups and downs that shape who we become."

𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐈 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬?
I truly enjoy listening to the author's talks, which always resonates with me. So when I came across this book, I knew I had to read it.

𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧:
I absolutely love the book cover. It is subtle yet eye catching. The title is meaningful and perfectly aligned with the essence of the book.

𝐎𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐨𝐧:
✓ As the title suggests, the book focuses on how we spend most of our lives chasing multiple things, often questioning whether it is truly possible to have it all.
✓ The book touches upon various aspects of life that are extremely relevant in today’s world, making it easy for readers to relate to the content.
✓ From understanding relationships and accepting failures to building inner strength and aligning thoughts with actions, the book covers a wide range of themes.
✓ It also explores interpersonal concepts like finding beauty in imperfection and understanding vulnerability.
✓ The writing style is simple, warm, and accessible, never sounding preachy. If you have listened to the author speak, you will instantly connect with the tone.
✓ The inclusion of slokas and spiritual references adds depth and enhances the overall positivity of the book.
✓ Charts, illustrations, and reflective exercises help readers absorb and apply the learnings better.
✓ I genuinely feel this book found me at the exact moment I needed it. You should definitely pick it up, it might help you with something you did not even realize you were looking for.

[Aradhna · Rating 4 out of 5]

A calm, thoughtful book that feels more like a quiet conversation than a typical self help guide. Set during a wedding in Jaisalmer, the story unfolds through everyday interactions, family discussions and emotional moments that many readers will find familiar. Instead of giving lectures or quick solutions, the book gently explores how people think, feel and respond to life’s situations.
What makes this book stand out is its soft and patient tone. Gaur Gopal Das does not tell readers what to do or how to “fix” their lives. Instead, he encourages reflection. Through different characters and their struggles, the book shows how expectations, unspoken emotions, past experiences and relationships shape our choices. It reminds us that everyone carries something within them, even if it is not visible on the surface.
The wedding setting works beautifully as a backdrop because celebrations often bring hidden emotions to the forefront. Joy, pressure, love, regret and unresolved feelings all exist together, making the story feel real and relatable. The peaceful setting of Jaisalmer contrasts with the inner conflicts of the characters, highlighting the idea that external success or grandeur cannot replace inner balance.
Overall, this is a comforting and reassuring read. It does not promise instant change but gently nudges readers to slow down, listen more and become more aware of themselves and others. The book leaves you feeling calmer, more understanding and quietly reflective, making it a meaningful read for anyone navigating everyday life.

[bookswithkinkita · Rating 5 out of 5]

📑We often find ourselves relentlessly chasing after goals and ambitions, but in the process, we forget the vital importance of pausing and reflecting on our experiences.

📑You Can Have It All by Gaur Gopal Das is a thought-provoking book that gently urges readers to take a step back and engage in introspection.

📑Set against the backdrop of a wedding in Jaisalmer, the narrative serves as a soft lens through which we can explore the myriad human anxieties, dreams, and deep-seated fears that many of us keep buried within. Here we encounter diverse characters, each grappling with their own doubts, fears, and opinions, along with unresolved struggles that add richness to their personalities.

📑I found the character Ved to be relatable; his journey of self-discovery and introspection resonates with many of us. Each interaction throughout the story reveals different shades of human emotion, showcasing the complexity of our inner lives.

📑The book imparts numerous insights but does so without imposing its teachings on the reader. Instead, the engaging and thought-provoking dialogues encourage reflection and personal growth. While it may not promise to make anyone perfect, it certainly provides a valuable framework for approaching life more thoughtfully.

📑The book is a powerful narrative that lingers in your mind long after you’ve turned the last page, leaving you with profound reflections and emotions that resonate deeply within you.

[Prerna Shambhavee · Rating 5 out of 5]

In "You Can Have It All", Gaur Gopal Das does something special—he doesn’t just give advice, he tells a story. The book begins with him attending a big, joyful wedding in Jaisalmer. Over three days, he quietly observes two families coming together, their hidden worries, their unspoken hopes, and the small tensions that every family carries.

Through gentle conversations and moments of humor, he helps the wedding guests and us see things differently. The book feels like sitting with a wise, calm friend who listens without judgment and shares stories from his own life to make a point. He talks about dreams we all chase: happiness, love, money, peace. And he asks a simple but powerful question: Can we really have it all?

What makes this book so easy to connect with is that it’s not about giving up on your dreams. It’s about understanding what matters most, learning to see your own blind spots, and being kinder to yourself along the way. Gaur Gopal Das writes with warmth and a light touch, mixing deep ideas with relatable stories.

If you’ve ever felt caught between chasing success and finding contentment, this book offers a compassionate, clear path forward. It doesn’t preach it feels like a heartfelt conversation. A calming, thoughtful read for anyone trying to navigate life’s beautiful complications with a little more grace and a lot more heart.

[Shipra Arora · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book came to me at a time when my mind was full but my heart felt tired. You Can Have It All did not arrive like a loud motivation speech instead it arrived like a lamp quietly lit in a dark room. From the very first pages I felt seen and not judged at all.

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What makes this book special for me is how gently it explains life. It talks about ambition, relationships, pain, purpose and peace in a way that feels real and human. It helped me understand that wanting success is not wrong but losing myself while chasing it is. This book reminded me that balance is not something we achieve one day it is something we practice every day.

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From now onwards, this book is my guiding light. Whenever life feels confusing, whenever I feel I am giving too much and receiving too little, I know I can return to these pages. It teaches me to pause before reacting, to listen before speaking, and to choose calm over chaos. It does not promise a perfect life; it promises a clearer heart.


What I love most is how lovingly it speaks about value  kindness, gratitude, discipline, and self-respect. It made me realise that having “it all” means being at peace with who I am, while still growing into who I want to become.


This is not just a book I read.

This is a book I will walk with.

[Anjali Anil · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was my first time reading a book by Gaur Gopal Das, and honestly, I went in a little skeptical. I kept thinking it might be preachy or overly philosophical. But thankfully, it was not. And I am really glad about that, because I ended up taking so many beautiful insights from it.

You Can Have It All is set around an Indian wedding in Jaisalmer, which already makes it feel familiar and warm. Through conversations, small moments, and quiet observations, the author gently explores what we all struggle with ambition, fulfilment, fear, comparison, and the pressure to get everything right. Nothing feels forced. It feels like listening to someone who understands life and is not trying to fix you, just guide you.

What I liked the most in this book is the fact that it does not give you rigid rules. Instead, it makes you pause and reflect. (I found myself nodding at so many parts.) The insights come wrapped in stories, humour, and empathy, which makes them easy to absorb. It also talks a lot about perspective and how the same situation can feel different depending on how we choose to see it.

This book reminded me that balance matters. That striving is okay, but so is slowing down. That you do not have to be perfect to feel fulfilled. It felt comforting, grounding, and reassuring in a very quiet way. A book you read slowly and carry with you long after.

[kavya · Rating 4 out of 5]

Call me greedy but I have always wanted to 'have it all'. Not thrive in just one area of life but at all of them. Society has made us believe that this is unrealistic or even unreasonable. So honestly, it was the title of the book that first called me to it. Having heard Gaur Gopal Das speak earlier, I knew this would be a good one.

The book uses a simple setting, a three-day family wedding in Jaisalmer, to explore questions we all carry about ambition, love, success, peace, and whether we really can have it all. Across conversations, small moments, and the everyday ups and downs of the wedding festivities, the author gently nudges you to look at your own hopes and fears rather than just chasing the next goal.

There is no heavy spirituality or abstract theory here; instead the wisdom is woven into real exchanges and observations about people trying to manage expectations, broken patterns, and unspoken worries.
While the narrative stays gentle, it can still make you pause and think about what truly matters instead of what you keep being told should matter. There is always something special about hearing it straight from wise souls that just hits.

This book works best for readers who are open to reflection and inner work and who want a reminder that peace and success don’t have to oppose each other.

[Achu Aswathi · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is a calm and reassuring reminder that life doesn’t have to be lived in extremes to feel meaningful. Instead of pushing the idea of constant hustle or perfection, it gently explores how balance, purpose, and inner peace can coexist with ambition and responsibility. The writing feels like a conversation with a wise friend that feels grounded, compassionate, and deeply practical.

What stands out most is how everyday struggles are addressed with simplicity. Topics like stress, relationships, work pressure, self-worth, and happiness are explained through relatable examples and spiritual insights that never feel preachy. The message is clear: having “it all” doesn’t mean having everything at once, but learning to prioritize what truly matters at the right time.

The book encourages mindful living and conscious choices, reminding readers that peace begins within. The anecdotes and reflections make complex life lessons easy to understand and apply. It’s especially comforting for readers feeling overwhelmed or stuck between expectations and personal fulfillment.

This is not a book you rush through. It’s one you pause with, reflect on, and revisit when life feels noisy. A soothing, insightful read for anyone seeking clarity, balance, and a more grounded way of living in today’s fast-paced world

[Varsha Dubey · Rating 5 out of 5]

"They saw peace in success and so they kept running,
We saw success in peace, and so we paused!
Under the burden of desires, O Bashar, what all are you chasing...
You are dying far more than you are living.."
(An abstract from the book)

This book brings together ten life-changing principles woven into an engaging story with characters you might just see a bit of yourself in. Each chapter is inspired by real stories, emotions and experiences. Though many details have been reshaped to maintain the rhythm of this narrative-and most names and places changed to honour privacy-the essence, the truth, remains untouched. This book is meant to guide, inspire and support you on your journey of inner growth and self-discovery.

What I liked in this book-
. I loved this book so much that I annotated almost every page of the book as it is full of wisdom while reading the book I felt that someone is teaching me life lessons in such an easy manner.
.While reading the book one can easily feel that the reflections, exercises, and stories in the page are written and shared with love and sincerity. This book will provides many perspectives to see a single thing that too without replacing one's own judgment.

"Art is not what we see.It's what the artist doesn't say in words."

[Khushboo]

I bought this book after listening to Gaur Gopal Das in person for the first time at Jaipur Literature Festival 2026. I loved how his wisdom is packed with humour, stories and analogies. I loved his session so much that I got it even signed by him.

Gaur Gopal Das tries to weave wisdom by sharing his experience of attending a wedding in Jaisalmer. The wisdom that he tries to weave alongside the story initially seems forced. But as you keep reading, it embeds nicely. The story, alone, would kind of remind you of big, grand weddings with its plot twists as in Bollywood movies but the wisdom or lessons of life will touch your heart. And obviously, it is filled with his humour. The wisdom is a gentle reminder of things we forget in the hustle-bustle of life. It is a perfect book to pause and reflect about ourselves, our relationships and our life. But most importantly, the book reminds us of our human nature - how our flaws, messiness, complexities just make us more human.
This book deserves to be read a chapter at a time. It is a book that you want to go back whenever you need time to reflect in life. Infact, it is a book that reminds you to pause at times in life. For me, it was a book I read at a very right point in time.