This beautiful book was a punch to the gut (pun intended)... but in the best way. I didn’t realize how deep the conditioning ran until this book laid it out with receipts, research, and that exact blend of warm, compassionate, tough love I didn’t know I needed.
Chapter 3, “The Goalpost Keeps Moving,” was eye-opening. I knew beauty standards shifted over time, but I didn’t fully grasp how much they’ve shaped us — where they came from, how they’re weaponized, and more importantly, who benefits. Then the chapters on the male gaze, bias, and belonging… let’s just say I finished them all fired up and full of rage.
By the time I got to Chapter 6, “Seasons Over Snapshots,” I needed the hug Chambers delivers. Bodies change. That’s not failure, it’s life. Healthy bodies exist at every size (take Lizzo, who runs around on stage for hours-long performances in a larger body), and the author threads it all back to how our self-worth, ambition, and visibility get hijacked by a system obsessed with keeping us small.
By the end of this book I feel seen, pissed off (at the system, not her), and completely re-aligned with what actually matters. It was cathartic, and got me in ALL the feels.
If you’ve ever felt like your worth was somehow tied to the size of the jeans you're wearing, read this. Then hand it to every woman in your life.