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Ovo je majstorski napisan roman o ljubavi i o žrtvi koju je čovjek spreman podnijeti da bi ta ljubav opstala. Supružnici Akin i Yejide prolaze kroz izazove poligamije, još uvijek uvriježene u afričkom civilizacijskom krugu, kao i kroz tabuizirane probleme neplodnosti, a zatim doživljavaju strahote gubitka djece. No osim što je priča o njihovoj obitelji ispričana na nevjerojatno dirljiv način, roman je duboko uronjen u nigerijsku kulturu i običaje, u političke prevrate i vladavinu vojne hunte, kao i u gastronomiju. Čitajući ovaj roman, naučit ćemo puno o afričkom načinu života, a ponirući u ljubavnu priču o Akin i Yejide, naučiti ćemo ponešto i o nama samima.
300 pages, Paperback
Published January 1, 2025
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Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀
11 books2,301 followersAyobami Adebayo's stories have appeared in a number of magazines and anthologies, and one was highly commended in the 2009 Commonwealth short story competition. She holds BA and MA degrees in Literature in English from Obafemi Awolowo University, Ife. She also has an MA in creative writing from the University of East Anglia where she was awarded an international bursary for Creative Writing. Ayobami has been the recipient of fellowships and residencies from Ledig House, Hedgebrook, Threads, Ebedi Hills and Ox-Bow.
STAY WITH ME- UK (Canongate, March 2017), Nigeria (Ouida Books, April 2017), US (Knopf, August 2017), KENYA (Kwani?, August 2017) is her debut novel.
STAY WITH ME- UK (Canongate, March 2017), Nigeria (Ouida Books, April 2017), US (Knopf, August 2017), KENYA (Kwani?, August 2017) is her debut novel.
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July 16, 2019
MARAVILHOSO
September 12, 2023
Wow, for a debut novel, wow!
September 3, 2019
This is a wrenching account of the impact of infertility, childhood illness, and the crushing grip of traditional family culture on a marriage. Set in Nigeria in the last few decades, the narrative is interspersed with coups or attempted coups, but these are just markers of the passage of time . It is intensely emotional, and the chapters on longing for a child will certainly hit a chord with anyone who has been in that position.
Yejide and Akin meet as students, they are instantly and deeply attracted. The story unfolds in short chapters, alternating between the two main protagonists, and most pack a powerful emotional punch, some are quite hard to read. Adebayo writes very well, with economy and impact. The timeline can be a little confusing, with flashbacks gradually clarifying the implicit history.
Early on in the story, we come across deep cultural differences between generations. Yedije is an orphan, brought up in a polygamous household, an outcast as she has no “lineage”, and tormented by the idea her mother died because of her, during birth. She is bright and feisty, well educated, somewhat arrogant with caustic comments on extended family and boorish uneducated neighbours.The deference expected of her by relatives, kneeling before “ elders and betters” takes the western reader by surprise. Akin’s mother, Moomi, is a fairly sympathetic character, but very traditionalist, no believer in medicine but traditional rites and potions, and holds sway over her sons. Akin, the elder, a successful banker and in many ways very caring, is under intense pressure to produce a son.
We have highly credible sympathetic portraits of the feelings of both central characters. Akins!s wayward brother Dotun comes to play a pivotal role, and the joshing sibling relationship feels totally authentic. The story weaves between these central players, a little like braiding hair, Yejide’s successful career, and draws on traditional stories that point up the feeling of the moment.
There is an interesting comparison with another Nigerian novel dealing with polygamy, though much more centrally, “The Secret lives of Baba Segi’s wives”. The latter focuses on the dynamics between the wives and is quite amusing in places. There isn't much humour in “Wait for me” except for a grotesque story early on when Yedige visits a guru up a mountain.
Adebayo’s plot is not especially original, but the novel is hugely enriched by the details of Nigerian life, the sharpness of the writing, and the credibility of the emotional reactions to each fateful stage in the crumbling of the marriage. As a man, I felt a real insight into the feelings of a woman faced with intense anguish in relation to children.
A hugely assured debut, do read this one, but be prepared to shed a tear, admire the grit of true independence, and finally, the warm glow of hope.
Yejide and Akin meet as students, they are instantly and deeply attracted. The story unfolds in short chapters, alternating between the two main protagonists, and most pack a powerful emotional punch, some are quite hard to read. Adebayo writes very well, with economy and impact. The timeline can be a little confusing, with flashbacks gradually clarifying the implicit history.
Early on in the story, we come across deep cultural differences between generations. Yedije is an orphan, brought up in a polygamous household, an outcast as she has no “lineage”, and tormented by the idea her mother died because of her, during birth. She is bright and feisty, well educated, somewhat arrogant with caustic comments on extended family and boorish uneducated neighbours.The deference expected of her by relatives, kneeling before “ elders and betters” takes the western reader by surprise. Akin’s mother, Moomi, is a fairly sympathetic character, but very traditionalist, no believer in medicine but traditional rites and potions, and holds sway over her sons. Akin, the elder, a successful banker and in many ways very caring, is under intense pressure to produce a son.
We have highly credible sympathetic portraits of the feelings of both central characters. Akins!s wayward brother Dotun comes to play a pivotal role, and the joshing sibling relationship feels totally authentic. The story weaves between these central players, a little like braiding hair, Yejide’s successful career, and draws on traditional stories that point up the feeling of the moment.
There is an interesting comparison with another Nigerian novel dealing with polygamy, though much more centrally, “The Secret lives of Baba Segi’s wives”. The latter focuses on the dynamics between the wives and is quite amusing in places. There isn't much humour in “Wait for me” except for a grotesque story early on when Yedige visits a guru up a mountain.
Adebayo’s plot is not especially original, but the novel is hugely enriched by the details of Nigerian life, the sharpness of the writing, and the credibility of the emotional reactions to each fateful stage in the crumbling of the marriage. As a man, I felt a real insight into the feelings of a woman faced with intense anguish in relation to children.
A hugely assured debut, do read this one, but be prepared to shed a tear, admire the grit of true independence, and finally, the warm glow of hope.
August 5, 2019
Stay with Me is a wonderful novel set in Nigeria. Ayobami Adebayo skillfully tells her tale, incorporating Nigerian culture and history from the 1980's forward. I lived in Nigeria as a child; this book feels real to me.
October 26, 2018
Raw story that my partner and I enjoyed talking about like it was a movie :)
April 29, 2019
It is a great book taking you on the journey of each character
May 26, 2020
Good book. Humorous.
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January 29, 2021
FAV BOOK EVER. FINISHED IN A DAY
July 27, 2021
RAMAI CU MINE
Rămâi cu mine este povestea unei soții care, în incapabilitatea de a rămâne însărcinată, este gonită de familia soțului care decide să-i găsească o a doua soție. Povestea are loc într-o societate unde poligamia este acceptată. Povestea este spusa din perspectiva lui Yejide, prima soție a lui Akin si a lui Akin
Romanul este foarte frumos scris, sub forma unei scrisori Așa facem cunonștință cu Yejide, o femeie care nu poate rămâne însărcinată și luăm cumva parte la drama ei de a-și vedea soțul alături de o altă femeie.
Totusi nu stiu ce a vrut sa spuna autoarea cu acest roman.
In unele capitole ne prezinta Nigerias anilor 1980 cu instabilitatea poolitica dar nu aprofundeaza subiectul doar tangential
Unele situatii din roman nu au o nici o logica elementara. Pe fondul unei societati dominate de traditii si superstitii personajele actioneaza uneori in asa fel incat nu le mai poti intelege.
Actiunea este desfasurata pe mai multe planuri dar legatura dintre ele nu e lina parca sunt fragmente care au fost adaugate unul dupa altul.
In final intelegem ca Akin, sotul desi are doua sotii nu reuseste sa devina tata deoarece este impotent, lucru pe care il ascunde desi vede ca Yejide se considera ea vinovata.
Nu am inteles cum au fosty structurate personajele, deoarece doua persoane cu studii superioare nu pot fi sclavele unor superstitii care sa le distruga vietile din cauza unor minciouni
Rămâi cu mine este povestea unei soții care, în incapabilitatea de a rămâne însărcinată, este gonită de familia soțului care decide să-i găsească o a doua soție. Povestea are loc într-o societate unde poligamia este acceptată. Povestea este spusa din perspectiva lui Yejide, prima soție a lui Akin si a lui Akin
Romanul este foarte frumos scris, sub forma unei scrisori Așa facem cunonștință cu Yejide, o femeie care nu poate rămâne însărcinată și luăm cumva parte la drama ei de a-și vedea soțul alături de o altă femeie.
Totusi nu stiu ce a vrut sa spuna autoarea cu acest roman.
In unele capitole ne prezinta Nigerias anilor 1980 cu instabilitatea poolitica dar nu aprofundeaza subiectul doar tangential
Unele situatii din roman nu au o nici o logica elementara. Pe fondul unei societati dominate de traditii si superstitii personajele actioneaza uneori in asa fel incat nu le mai poti intelege.
Actiunea este desfasurata pe mai multe planuri dar legatura dintre ele nu e lina parca sunt fragmente care au fost adaugate unul dupa altul.
In final intelegem ca Akin, sotul desi are doua sotii nu reuseste sa devina tata deoarece este impotent, lucru pe care il ascunde desi vede ca Yejide se considera ea vinovata.
Nu am inteles cum au fosty structurate personajele, deoarece doua persoane cu studii superioare nu pot fi sclavele unor superstitii care sa le distruga vietile din cauza unor minciouni
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June 21, 2024
é impressionante a capacidade da autora de utilizar a cultura não como justificativa para decisões que, para pessoas de culturas distintas, poderiam parecer irracionais. os costumes são somente um pano de fundo para decisões psicologicamente justificadas de personagens complexos, complexos para além das convenções sociais do contexto nigeriano.
e a história política da Nigéria sendo contada por momentos dessa família, desse casal, juntando pedaços dessa ficção tão domiciliar ao contexto, é impressionante.
grata pela leitura!
e a história política da Nigéria sendo contada por momentos dessa família, desse casal, juntando pedaços dessa ficção tão domiciliar ao contexto, é impressionante.
grata pela leitura!
August 28, 2019
Ein wirklich fesselndes Buch.
April 10, 2020
This book is as real as you and me.Twisted at the end of every chapter.
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October 13, 2020This was a very type of book I read but I loved. It was set in Nigeria in 1990 somehere around there. WHat I loved about it the way different cultures see things in their lives.
July 7, 2022
Loved it!!
January 13, 2023
Bra bok, definitivt läsvärd. Det var ett tag sen jag läste men minns den som väldigt gripande och fin.
December 6, 2023
Engaging as a debut novel and twisting subplot
April 13, 2024
Amazing read. Learnt so much about infertility and families
June 23, 2024
What a beautiful read😭❤️❤️!!! Absolutely loved it🥹.
July 4, 2024
I love this book
January 19, 2025
The sadness is unending...:-(
December 7, 2025
Not a book I would choose, read for bookclub.
Interesting and sad, I was a bit confused on who was who?
Interesting and sad, I was a bit confused on who was who?
October 24, 2025
If your a mother this book will make you feel a way only a mother could feel🥹
January 27, 2021
O livro é muito bom! Tira-nos o fôlego a cada reviravolta e provoca muitas sensações a cada acontecimento.
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