Living in a Non-Vegan World Is Hard. Here’s How to Safeguard Your Mental Health While Staying True to Your Values
Are you vegan — or thinking of becoming vegan — and feeling overwhelmed by the emotional toll of living in a society that normalises animal exploitation?
You're not alone.
Whether it’s guilt about past dietary choices, isolation in a world that challenges your ethics, or being ridiculed for caring “too much” — being vegan can leave emotional scars. For many, the vegan experience isn’t just about food — it’s a psychological awakening that brings both clarity and pain.
As Clare Mann described in Vystopia, this existential anguish — the awareness of widespread animal suffering in a society that denies it — is real, and potentially devastating if left unaddressed.
That’s why this book exists.
Written by counsellor and long-time vegan advocate Stephen Balfour, Living in a Non-Vegan World Is Hard is a practical guide for navigating the unique mental health challenges of compassionate living. Whether you're new to veganism or decades in, this book will help you stay emotionally well while being a voice for animals.
In this timely book, you’ll learn how
Manage anxiety, depression, trauma and grief related to animal suffering
Let go of guilt and forgive yourself for your pre-vegan past
Understand why veganism is not disordered eating — and how to counter the stigma
Advocate effectively without burning out
Build stronger relationships with non-vegans — without compromising your values
Use self-regulation and resilience to make self-care part of your activism
Understand the benefits of working with a vegan counsellor
Support vegan friends, clients or family members who may be struggling
“Anyone who is vegan, knows someone who is vegan or is a pre-vegan on their way there, will benefit from reading this very informative book.” – Jordi Casamitjana, author of Ethical Vegan: a personal and political journey to change the world.
This isn’t just a self-help book — it’s a survival guide for vegans living in a world that hasn’t yet caught up.
Combining proven tools from cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) with insight from over 20 years in vegan advocacy, Stephen Balfour offers a rare and compassionate perspective on how to stay emotionally grounded in the face of widespread animal injustice. Just as Peter Singer’s Animal Liberation sparked an ethical awakening, Living in a Non-Vegan World Is Hard shows how to stay well while working toward a more compassionate world.
Whether you’
✔️ A long-time vegan facing burnout ✔️ A new vegan navigating emotional overwhelm ✔️ A therapist, coach or professional supporting vegan clients ✔️ A curious pre-vegan grappling with society’s contradictions ✔️ A friend or family member of someone who’s vegan
I loved this book! I am proud to be vegan but I can sometimes struggle spending time with friends and family who are non-vegans. Reading the book provided comfort that I'm not alone but it also provided some invaluable tools and techniques to follow which allow me to look after my own vegan health. I would recommend this book not only to vegans but also to non-vegans who have friends and family members who are vegan. I can't recommend this book high enough and I'm extremely grateful that the book exists.
I’ve been vegan for 2 years now. It’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made and my actions are now aligned with beliefs however I can find life living as an ethical vegan difficult when so many of my friends and family are not vegan and seem to regard my veganism is little more than a diet. I’ve found this book really helpful and some of the CBT exercises really useful. If you are vegan I would encourage you to read the book.
This book has provided with a great deal of comfort knowing that some things I struggle with living amongst non-vegans are not unique to me, other vegans struggle with them too. I originally bought the kindle version and then bought the paperback version as I intend using it as a reference book. I feel more hopeful after reading this book.
Found this book very informative and easy to read. Lots of useful ideas, hints and tips to navigate through a meat eating world as a vegan. A must read for everyone following a vegan lifestyle or thinking about becoming vegan
Great book and so easy to read. I liked that there was lots of practical hints and tips to help survive and thrive in a non vegan world. Definitely a must read for all vegans and people considering becoming vegan